I first met her on a blind date set up with internet personals, and we've been going on dates together the past few weekends. So far it's just been going out doing things with a little bit of making out thrown in there, but she's basically said that we might sleep together next time. Honestly, neither one of us is that into the other, it's just boredom and hormones really. And anyway, she's moving to a different country in a month so nothing could happen anyway. And I definitely find her attractive, and also, I feel kind of self-conscious about being a virgin even though I'm 23, and I like her alright and it would be fun, so why not?
ON THE OTHER HAND, there's this other girl I think I might really like in this class I'm taking and I'm pretty sure she likes me as well, but we're both shy, and I haven't really had an opportunity to ask her out yet... should I hold out for losing my virginity to her, even though it's not a sure thing, or sleep with the girl I've been dating?
2007-06-21 17:42:00 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont sleep with the one your not into DUHH
2007-06-21 17:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Personally, I found losing my virginity overrated. It's not like fireworks go off and a band plays ;). I'm not saying sleep with the internet girl but do NOT hold it for the girl in class unless you have more of an idea that you may do it with her or you realllly like her. It sounds like there's too many variables there, and that's never good.
I'd say ask the girl in class out, and if that doesn't work, consider the internet girl. Since you have a "backup plan," you may find asking the girl in class out easier than you normally would.
2007-06-21 17:48:58 · answer #2 · answered by bluejester12 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, don't sleep with her just for the heck of it. There is no need to be self conscious about being a virgin...its WAY better to hold out for someone that you actually care about than to waste your first time on a passion-less experience. Ask out the girl you like before someone else beats you to it! Good luck!
2007-06-21 18:12:07 · answer #3 · answered by Curious George 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many girls will be attracted to your virginity, especially if they are virgins. Think of it as an advantage to use when you find a girl you really like rather than something that'll work against you. I wouldn't waste it on someone who isn't special to you when you can use it to get a girl you REALLY like.
So, get a bj from her or something, but save the vaginal for someone special. And who knows, if she's that easy she could give you an STD or something anyways. Who knows how many guys she's been with. (Girls lie about that ;) )
2007-06-21 17:52:08 · answer #4 · answered by Temari 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kid, at your age, you're supposed to stand them up and knock them down as they come. So, do the girl your dating now first and then do the future conquest.
Never ask a group of women should you have casual sex with a girl the answer is always going to be some ficticious chivalry crap.
2007-06-21 17:53:27 · answer #5 · answered by bettercockster1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do them both. On each occasion, you'll learn.
of course, it will be better with the girl you love, but you shouldn't blow a chance...
by the way, sex makes life complicated. i would say don't lose your virginity to a girl you don't love, or don't have a bit of a special feeling for but then again, most of us did anyway.
sex is fun. it all depends of your values regarding sex
2007-06-21 17:51:46 · answer #6 · answered by chocolateknight69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth would you consider doing that? Unless you are married, it is not even that enjoyable in the long run to sleep with someone. The best part about sleeping with someone is to be into them! You're crazy! Save your virginity for the one you marry! It so pays off... TRUST ME!
2007-06-21 17:47:19 · answer #7 · answered by KrzyMom2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow if your 23 and still a virgin then def dont give it to some girl that you have no feelings for. and i wouldnt be sayin that its gonna be fun because youve never done it before so you dont kno. u might suck and she might leave. lol. sry had to throw it in there. i wouldnt have sex with her. just let her know that you like bein friends with her but that you dont want anything sexual.
2007-06-21 17:49:08 · answer #8 · answered by megleg88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have feelings for someone else i think you should wait. think about the girlll hereeee. The other girl will find out and will be like "oy im the second" of course you are 23 and not a teenager. So who knows anymore!
2007-06-21 17:45:48 · answer #9 · answered by labohemianartist 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO WAY i did the same thing and just went for it but i totally regret it it really should be a little more special ( sounds lame -but true) it should be an experience that you'd never regret looking back on
BUT IT IS UR CHOICE!
2007-06-21 17:48:09 · answer #10 · answered by dont think about it 2009 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd hold out for the one you're really into. Hey, you've waited this long, why not make it special?
Do you really want to be THAT guy, the one who uses a woman his very first time?
Do you want to start that trend?
2007-06-21 17:47:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋