This past weekend, I went on vacation, and my sister and I got into a big blow-out argument, and she ended up saying, "This whole world would be a better place without you in it", and continued to berate me, and I started BAWLING uncontrollably...She's apologized, but I still feel AWFUL, and WOUNDED....She broke my heart....Now, question is....should I forgive her? I've had a really TOUGH life, and I feel like each day is a battle for me, I can NEVER comprehend how someone could talk to ANYONE that way, let alone their own sister!!!! How can I deal with this pain I feel from this situation...I need advice, b/c I don't want to ruminate in the negative...thank you!
2007-06-21 17:06:33 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If she truly apologized and is trying to undo the pain she caused her, you should forgive her. Maybe you need to talk with her some more, to become reconciled more fully.
Does she usually have temper outbursts and say things in anger, that she regrets later? If so, you must understand that this is her problem, and not take it personally.
However, if it happens often enough that you don't want to put up with it, you might try seeing her less often. Find people whose company you enjoy and with whom you are compatible. Don't break off relations entirely over this, though.
2007-06-21 17:21:01 · answer #1 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well usually when someone shows impulsive anger they are actually hurt but to prideful or embarrassed to show their more vulnerable side. This is a simple fight or flight response, a person will say something hurtful to knock you down (fight), or they will try to leave the situation and go into a state of denial (flight). Your sister chose fight which most likely came from feeling hurt and vulnerable. This maybe topsey turvy but maybe if you apologized for anthing that may have offended her she may let her guard down the next time you get into a bit of a quarel so hurtful words won't be sent. Tell your sister how this made you feel and if she already apologized that's great but an apology as you know doesn't always fix the problem. Over time I a sure you, you will heal and you will be as close to your sister as you were before.
2007-06-21 17:41:02 · answer #2 · answered by Maddi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, every day people say things they don't mean in the heat of the moment. Some are just better at hurting others and know how to hit them where it hurts for effect. Your sister apologized right afterwards. She didn't mean it and yes, you should forgive her. Sisters fight like this, and you can sit and take it to heart, or let it roll off your shoulders and chalk it up to a heated argument.
2007-06-21 17:12:59 · answer #3 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we huret the ones we love the most. I think we do this because we expect unconditional love from them and think that they will accept all of our faults.
My sister and I never really got a long when we were younger, it was always a battle of who is better.pretty stupit huh?
WE are very close now .
Just tell your sister how much she hurt you and tell her that you forgive her. Holding a gruge wont do you any good, we all make mistakes and say things we really dont mean just to make another person angry. Not right but it happens
2007-06-21 17:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by diane33michigan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are alway forgive but that dont mean you forget......that will never happen. Think about this,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
without forgiveness none of us will make it through those pearly gates! GOD forgives us all. I know it seems hard and it hurts but you can do it.
Make sure she knows how bad you are hurt by this but dont use it as a guit trip onher all the time. tell her how you feel then listen to how she felt at the time of saying it. You both may be surprised at each other.
2007-06-21 18:51:05 · answer #5 · answered by hopeyoulovemymusic 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People say things they don't mean when they are angry.It's not right and words do hurt.June 24th is the anniversary of my only sister's death so I hope you can find it in your heart to forgive your sister because you never know if something might happen.You have every right to be hurt tho.I hope you and sis can work it out. Tell her how she hurt you.Good luck.
2007-06-22 00:52:41 · answer #6 · answered by lillulu460 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive your sister for being insensitive. Everyone says things they regret when they are mad. Life is too short to worry about this sort of stuff, your sister could be gone tomorrow, and so could you.
2007-06-21 17:43:23 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if there is one thing i have learned it is tont worry about what people say. your sister did not mean what she said and she apologized. trust me it will do more damage if you sit there and think about it and dwell on it. you choose how you feel. you can dwell or get over it. they are only words. forgive her. dont think about it. dont sweat the small stuff. it is so pointless and makes life harder than it really is. you choose how you react to things. you choose how things make you feel. so just forget it. trust me just let it go. it will make life much better.
2007-06-21 17:20:31 · answer #8 · answered by courtney 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 16:05:07 · answer #9 · answered by mcintire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately people can say mean things when they're angry. Deep down I am sure she did'nt mean it. Yes forgive her and if you are having problems doing it --- ask God to help you.
2007-06-21 17:31:53 · answer #10 · answered by JJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋