My sister has done.... no wait does a lot of stupid things like doing drugs,stealing, giving up her baby kid for a car.Yup thats right she gave up the sweetest baby girl 4 a car (2 my mom, but still makes me sick).Now she's with this guy not 4 love but 4 money (he needs papers and so that he can look good n front of the courts he wants my sis 2 take back the baby and she says ok).I have taken care of Mia for almost a year me not her. I clean her ,play with her, give her food, spend all my money on her I do everything that my sis should do and u know what I'm ok with that because I love that baby.But I 'm so mad that my sis after all she has or hasn't done she thinks she can just walk in out of no where and think that she hasn't done anything wrong.I fear that the court system well give Mia back 2 my sis.I do love that baby with all my heart but there is only so much I can do what going 2 happen when she's older and ask why her mom doesn't want her I'm only 17 i don't know what 2 do.
2007-06-21 16:55:51 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm sorry I wrote a lot but I need 2 vent.
2007-06-21 17:01:48 · update #1
Rest assured, the courts are going to make your sister do all sorts of things before she is allowed to have her daughter back...and more than likely, she won't follow through...
what you have to understand is that every woman may be able to have children, but not every woman that can have a baby, can be a mother. Some women, like your sister, just aren't nurturing.
All mia needs to know is that she is loved...by you, by grandma, by anyone else..to feel secure.
2007-06-21 17:07:27 · answer #1 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're Nemo's incubus? Omg, that's fabulous. heehee
It's not exactly that she is un-wanted by her mother, it's that her mother is a child herself, incapable of giving her the love she needs, incapable of wanting her, because she has nothing of herself to give others at all. You tell the child: mommy is just a person who has a hard time with growing up and isn't good at being a grownup, so she trusts us to take care of you the way she can't. I know you can't help feeling resentment towards your sister, who is obviously a pathetically weak character. But try to take a long view, and allow that she may someday mature emotionally and be able to love her daughter. Besides, no matter what happens, the child will be much better off if you avoid transmitting your resentment of your sis to her. If Mia goes back to her mom, the best you can do by her is stay on good terms with your sis, so you can play a positive role in the child's life.
2007-06-22 00:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by zilmag 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW 17 you have a lot on Your Plate. And with all that you do for her(the baby) that makes you her mommy your sister my have given birth 2 her but you have been mommy 4 all this time. She should grateful that 4 do loves that baby! She didn't doesn't love her like a mother should.. But she pourable won't. If U can show the courts that you have been he only one to give her a home and scene of family, maybe they won't give her to your sister. Show them that she is unit 2 have any kids and need 2 get help so she to can have a better life maybe they will See it on their own have faith be strong. because you sound like a you can keep it together. But every one need to vent sometimes. ad always know that you tried.
2007-06-22 01:20:33 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and the baby goes to court; make sure they know and understand that sis choose to give up the baby & you have now bonded with the baby and raised this child to be your own. THE TRUTH is always the best answer. When Mia gets old enough don't lie to her, tell her the truth basically you have adopted her; don't let her be alone with your sis, no telling what she might try.....
2007-06-22 00:08:09 · answer #4 · answered by Connie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a pretty horrible situation but I don't think there is anything you can do. If you love that child and you think she is in danger, then call family services. You might not get her, but she will be safer. Think of what is best for the baby. Otherwise, just be there to pick up the pieces when your sister throws her away again, cause she will. Good luck.
2007-06-22 00:53:19 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me when I say I know your situation exactly! unfortunately drugs take over people, and their ability to make sound choices. have your mom talk to a lawyer to see if she has any right in your state. Focus on keeping the baby safe and away from your sister, alone anyways. Good luck, the road of an addict is a terrible one to witness. I am so sorry for your pain.
2007-06-22 00:01:30 · answer #6 · answered by Rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact your local social services department if your mother is also taking care of her too they can help ensure she stays in a safe environment. Then I would get hold of a rehab place and get your sister into an intervention so she can get clean and hopefully someday raise her baby. Good luck dear. If you want to talk more contact me.
2007-06-22 00:02:28 · answer #7 · answered by Believe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If her history of drug use etc can be proven in court she won't get her baby back.Mia is lucky to have you and your mom to love her and take care of her.Hugs and good luck.
2007-06-22 07:55:52 · answer #8 · answered by lillulu460 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom and you should talk to a lawyer, build a case about her irresponsibility, drug use, and how she gave her daughter up in the first place. You both know she is better off with you - fight for her!!!!
2007-06-22 00:00:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's alot of details for the question "How could a mom leave her kid?". And the answer to that is that she doesn't love her baby.
2007-06-21 23:59:40 · answer #10 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋