I will not allow my children 2 boys and 2 girls stay at there grandparents house because of things running threw my mind of things that could happen to them. Not with there grandma jsut the male siblings. Even if my brothers there uncles sleep over at our house I stay up alllll night. Is that normal?
2007-06-21 16:28:14 · 10 answers · asked by Becky A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I agree with jcrews. Just because they are family, there is a reason you don't feel comfortable with it. And just because they haven't done anything in the past, doesn't mean they won't in the future. Most children are abused by people that they know....it's not always strangers.
There are people that we are related to that I'm just not sure I would leave my kids with them.
Go with your gut, if you feel uneasy, then do what you think is right. So yes, it's normal to feel that way.
There's nothing wrong with you and you do NOT need counseling.
2007-06-22 13:56:30 · answer #1 · answered by steffers27 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course, you don't want anything bad happening but be realistic. What are the chances? Does your siblings have a past of child molesting? Do they give you bad vibes? Do you trust them? Is your paranoia effecting your life and accomplishments? If they did would it make you feel better to have then in jail permanently? Would they even risk throwing their whole life away for something so socially degrading? Are they responsible to keep them safe from danger?
2007-06-21 16:34:48 · answer #2 · answered by Rockerrock 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you feel any apprehension about letting your kids stay with your brothers then go with that feeling! there is a reason you can't seem to let it out of your head. just because they are your family doesn't mean they are safe. a lot of people are molested by men in their family (i am one of them). it is your job to protect your kids. don't tell yourself that it is all in your head and let them go. some may think that i am being to irrational but i have experienced this! i feel this way for my own little girl and family members. go with your gut! it's too important not to.!
2007-06-21 16:39:38 · answer #3 · answered by jcrews 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sixteen year old brother has watched my 2 year old for 2 hours and did an remarkable job. i does not hesitate to allow him watch her returned for a quick quantity of time. however the only young little ones (infant) i could permit watch my young little ones could might desire to be somebody I knew ok (kin or close buddies of the kin) and it does not be over 2 hours. young little ones can do a brilliant job yet they're nonetheless youthful so it makes me apprehensive.
2016-09-28 06:46:12 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are 2 possibilities here: either you have reason to distrust your brothers ("male siblings") or you are being irrational. First, you need to figure out which it is.
If you do have reason to distrust your brothers, don't let them near your children. But if you are being irrational, this is not normal.
2007-06-21 16:44:03 · answer #5 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should have no reason to worry w/you own family! Do you have any reason to base this on or are you just a worrier? I would never worry about my children staying w/any one of my family members. Unless you have a good reason, just relax & let your children get to know the rest of their family. It's good to learn about our families & also share our children's love w/the ones we love.
2007-06-21 16:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you believe there is reason to worry then listen to that little voice.
Why would you want them over there all night anyway?
2007-06-21 16:32:40 · answer #7 · answered by karr1213 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's normal if you have some basis for this fear otherwise it's a neurotic response.
If you have good reason to feel that way then get the people help. If not then get help for yourself.
2007-06-21 16:57:22 · answer #8 · answered by Dax 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't think it's normal. Your brothers are their family.
2007-06-21 16:32:42 · answer #9 · answered by lalalalalala 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
no its not normal, you are worried that your sons will molest
your daughters?? is there any reason for this? was you molested? you defiantly have issues,, seek counseling
2007-06-21 16:32:47 · answer #10 · answered by Richie 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋