Doe any parent here think that it is okay sometimes to spank a teenager if they need it?

Question

I have a 14 year old daughter. She is a good daughter, but at times she can be a brat. I've spanked her a few times at her age, nothing terrible, just an old-fashioned spanking over my lap with my hand. It works well, but grounding does not work (she never respects any restrictions). Who else believes that it is okay sometimes to spank a teenager (I would say until age 16, after that, they are a little old).

Answer 1

Spanking? Nah, not after 10 I think.. Then it's just strange...
By now you would think she would be mature enough to discuss the situation without it leading to something physical.

But to answer the question. I don't think it's ok to spank a teenager.

Answer 2

I think that 10-11 is too old for even just a one swing spanking. Some kids learn to be rebellious. That is one reason the grounding may not be working. I remember when I got spanked, after the spanking was over things went on like nothing happened. After while I did what I wanted, I already new the worse that could happen and wasn't afraid anymore. So when my son was about 13+ I took things away, no tv, no going to friends, no phone, no allowance. Now these are the things that hurt.

Answer 3

My kids are 3 and 4 so I don't know yet if they will be spanked as a teenager. But I do know this- at 15 I got stupid and called my mom a fat b*tch.. NEVER AGAIN! She slapped the snot out of me. Right in the face as hard as she could. I will never forget that day. I will never call her or any other mother that. She put me in my place and I needed it. At the time I hated her for it but looking back she could have done alot worse and been justified. I am not sure she could have held me down for a spanking but it would have gotten my attention. Hell who am I kidding it still would. She is a wonderful mother and we all come to realize eventually how wrong we were as teenagers. If talking, reasoning and restrictions don't work--do what does. I spent many a weeks as a teenager with nothing but a bed and bland food. The only privileges I had on restriction was trips to the library and 30 minutes in the kitchen for my meals. I turned out pretty good if I say so myself.

Answer 4

I've found that hitting children isn't a good way to gain their respect. A slap on the hand is a good way to get their attention when they're little, but other than that it hasn't happened in my house. Setting boundaries from an early age. Having good communication with them. Taking away privileges like telephone, computer, tv or sleepovers work GREAT.

Standing firm in punishment decisions while not being overly strict has earned my children's respect for me and my husband. Having the punishment fit the crime is the best way to go about it. We discuss punishment before we enforce it and the kids know fully what to expect when rules are broken, which is why they rarely break them.

I have never spanked my children, nor have I ever grounded them.

There is something about spanking that seems so immature to me. That's what little kids do.

Do you not have the verbal skills to express your thoughts and reasons in a way they can understand without hitting? It occurs to me that your lack of communication skills may be why your teenager reacts the way she does. She had no one to lead by example.

Answer 5

Be careful asking spanking questions on here, soo many people seem to think a swat on the behind is child abuse... I'd like to see how their kids behave when they hit ages 12+. Anyway I don't think your ever old enough for discpline, and you have to do whatever works, if grounding doesn't but spanking does, than yes! Spank away! haha. I would 100% agree that if that's what the kid needs, that's what the kid needs!
Good luck, sounds like you've got the parenting thing down!
Toni Lynne pregnant with #1 and firm believer of spanking children when necessary!!!

Answer 6

babies are never too previous to be spanked. The respective genders of the discern and the baby does not advise a element. although, i've got self belief that if a teenager cusses out his/her discern(s) and is going so a strategies as to hit one in all them, the baby wasn't spanked sufficient whilst he/she grew to become into youthful. That being reported, it is one element to think of that it is okay to spank a teenager. this is an entire yet another element to surely gain doing it against his/her will. As grew to become into spoke of, collectively as he/she won't be too previous, he/she could in simple terms be too massive or too solid to surely spank.

Answer 7

I am so happy.... Haha.. You contradict yourself. You have been spanking this child and she is now a teenager and you still spank her. SEE ...SPANKING DOES NOT WORK.. Seriously, how much force do you have to give to be able to get a 14 year old to lay across your lap? ... I could be here for 20 years with all this... But thanx for reinstating in my mind that spanking does not work, or else you wouldn't be continuing to do so.

Answer 8

My son is 14, and responds well to grounding although he always feels like the 'victim' in that scenario. Teens thrive on the drama of being the victim of imprisonment ;-)
Anyway, he went through a bad time where he cursed, misbehaved, and was all around disrespectful and nasty. I went into his room with a wooden spoon and said "This is your one and only warning, the next step out of line will land you here with your butt paddled. And I will do it this time because it makes me feel better, not because I'm looking out for your best interests, so look out."
He hasn't had a spanking in years, and it was only when I was cool-headed enough to keep it disciplinary, not abuse.
Once he stepped out of line, and had an immediate "go to your room and get ready for your spanking" and it wasn't even a bad one, but for a 14 year old young man it was embarrassing enough that it never happened again (yet). Incidentally, he has been absolutely tolerable to be around!

Answer 9

Are you serious? 14 is WAY TOO OLD for spanking. Those who believe in spanking recommend it for age 2-5, and ONLY when the child is defiant and should be used sparingly
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For a teen, you should be taking away or giving special privileges as a means of discipline.

Answer 10

Not me! I was intending to spank my daughter on the butt when she was 11. She moved and I hit her middle back instead of her butt. The most terrible sound I ever heard in my life. It really hurt her. I never spanked her again. After that, it was verbal only. She made it to college and she's married and has a good job today.