She needs more help in school she almost diddnt pass 3rd grade. Thats sad. Her mother has never taking her to the dentist and shes 9. Am I over stepping . Whats your oppion?
2007-06-21 15:41:12 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
You married into a family and you now have responsibilities to it. If the mother isn't doing her job, then why shouldn't you? You're obviously concerned about her well being and that means you love and care for her so I say do what you need to do to ensure her health, saftey and success. A 3rd grader should NOT be failing, that's just ridiculous. If you are wanting to step up then girl, more power to you. Maybe Mom #1 will learn something from 2-mom!! (my cousins daughter calls her step mom that cuz she's more of a mom than her actual mom, really sad) You do what you feel is right, I'm sure her dad will appreciate that you care that much. Rock on Sista!!
2007-06-21 15:46:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its not just the Mommy's fault , her daddy should be sure that she gets to the dentist as well....I applaud you for wanting to step inn and get that poor girl to the dentist! How gross is that and probably embarrassing for her as well if they look bad, and not to mention the horrible pain a rotten tooth can cause. As for the school thing I again say tell your husband that you feel it is his responsibility to teach her how to do the school work she didnt understand while she visits you guys , this will show her that you and your husband care about her well being and as for stepping on mommy's toe's ohhh well she should have done this in the first place. But also be sure to do fun things with her as well....dont make it all about grades and dentist appointments this summer :p take her shopping for some new school clothes and to lunch so you can bond with her as well. Be sure that daddy is doing fun things too.....good luck and sounds like you are a kind hearted step mother who wants to do what is right for your family KUDOS!!!
2007-06-23 21:20:06 · answer #2 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know the whole story? Is the child's almost failing directly related to the mother? Has she been tested for any sort of learning disability or ADHD? Just some things to think about...
If you know for a fact, that her failing is directly related to he not having help. Then by all means help the girl with her homework. Have you spoken to your husband about this situation? Why doesn't your husband take her to the dentist?
2007-06-21 22:58:35 · answer #3 · answered by NurseL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess what dad has the right to take care of his daughter. And if he is working during the day the responsibility lies on you to get things done. Your husband and you need to talk to her mom and tell her what you two are willing to do to help, and go from there.
When i went to my dad's for the summer, years ago. My dad bought my school clothes and got me to the dentist because he had better insurance. So my step mom and i spent a lot of time together getting things done that i needed done.
2007-06-22 10:23:01 · answer #4 · answered by norielorie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sure take her to a dentist and do whatever you can. I'd also talk to Daddy and consider hiring a tutor for her when she gets home too. Maybe he needs to go back to family court and insist that the mother take care of the poor girl or lose custody- at least partially. Do whatever you can and help her feel that she is worth it since her mother obviously doesn't seem to think she is. Geez, how sad!
2007-06-22 01:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by coolmommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not overstepping to point out to her father that there are some issues that need addressing here. Dental issues that go neglected can lead to serious health problems and, depending on how badly her teeth are bothering her, could be part of the reason she didn't do so well in school. Point out the problems, voice your concerns and let him know you have no issue with taking on the financial costs for her dental work. As for reading, working on that with her could not only improve her academic skill, but bring the two of you closer as well.
2007-06-22 08:21:45 · answer #6 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor little thing! Why let her go neglected further! You are being a good role model and a very good step mother BY stepping in and helping her. Sounds like she needs some love, protection and care and you are just the person to do it! And from someone who just hates to see little ones get abused or neglected...thank you! And when she grows up she'll thank you too!
2007-06-21 22:49:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If her father has joint custody then by all means take her to see the dentist. Check with her school and find out what subjects she is having trouble
with. Wal-Mart and K-Mart have books that help parents help their children. Just keep her reading and read with her. The more fluent in reading she becomes the better she'll be. Model how to read so she can learn. Bless you for caring and wanting
to reach out to her.
2007-06-22 00:29:07 · answer #8 · answered by Precious Gem 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your the step-mother so it is your right to mention something to your husband. Explain your concerns and go from there. Don't say anything to the mother because she might get upset with you and take it out on the child by not letting her come and visit.
But I am glad she has you ans you care enough to worry about it.
2007-06-21 22:48:05 · answer #9 · answered by MJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are the step-parent and he is the non custodial parent, tread softly. Allow your husband to make the decisions regarding helping her with her education.
He should also make the decision regarding the dental work.
Talk with him and her mother about it. If you step up to getting the work done expect to pay for it without question.
Good luck and I hope things go well.
2007-06-21 22:47:43 · answer #10 · answered by sunny w 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋