Is it alright for your best-friend to date your ex? (Even though you broke up)?

Question

Okay I have two best-friends, named "S" and "M." So "S" was dating this girl (N) for about two months and then they broke up. Now, prior to their breaking up "M" started talking with "N" on Myspace and AIM. I've talked with "M" and he says that he talked with "N" about her relationship with "S." "M" was trying to help them with their relationship. So ater about 1 week "M" and "N" start talking more and eventually start dating. I've known "M" since about elementary school so I am 90% sure that he wouldn't purposely hurt "S" by dating "N."(I say 90% sure because "S" and "M" haven't had that good of a friendship, even though they've known each other since Kindergarten...BTW all of us are in high school (yea i know stupid drama). My main point for this is: Was "M" wrong for starting to date "N" ? Even though "S" and her had broken up. Their still dating and "M" tells me that he loves "N" and I believe him. What's worse is that I feel like I have an obligation to be either "S" or "N" friend

Answer 1

It's kinda of a complicated situation for you! I think that it was wrong for "M" to date "N" so soon after his friend broke up with her. He should have respected his friend's feelings a little bit better.... On the other hand you shouldn't be picking sides. If they were both your friends to begin with you should just remain neutral.

Answer 2

as confusing as that is (i had to read it, like, 10 times to understand half of it). well, if "N" and "M" are really in love, i guess you can't help it. i mean, if it causes a big feud and they're forcing you to take sides, tell them to dump the girl. friends stay forever, "N" might only be with "M" for a couple more months. or days, this is high school. or maybe even hours. whatevr, my main point is that if "M" and "N" really love each other, then, no, love can't be helped, it's not wrong for "M" to date "N". but if it's not love, "S" should tell "M" to go jump off a cliff cause it's ruining the friendship.
got it?
no? well, your question was just as if not more confusing.
best of luck! hope your friendship survives!

Answer 3

I'm a person who believe friends shouldn't date the friends ex's even thought they all say there ok with it it still makes it a little awkward to be around each other. It has to make deep down the other think the friend is a backstabber.

So even thought they have broken up no real true friend will date his or her friends ex

Answer 4

Don't let them put you in the middle of it, if they're good friends to you they wont. It is kind of a messed up situation but I'm sure the first guy will get over it. And those two probably wont last, most high school relationships wo

Answer 5

Don't let them put you in the middle of it, if they're good friends to you they wont. It is kind of a messed up situation but I'm sure the first guy will get over it. And those two probably wont last, most high school relationships wont.

Answer 6

I don't think anyone should date their bestfriend's ex. Its sorta of an unspoken rule. Like lets say youve told someone I Love you before you break with her/him and then your best friend is saying the "I love yous" to your ex. There will be a whole bunch of rivalry and its gonna bound to get messy and complicated etc etc. overall, i suggest for him not to date her.

Answer 7

I rather hate it while human beings elect boys over their friends. you have the final to be disappointed, yet she would be waiting to no longer have a clue except you tell her. tell her you're harm and which you depended on her. If she does not understand, i do no longer think of she is a robust buddy. i be responsive to it rather is stressful seeing them at the same time yet on the vivid area, you is rather no longer likely to college with them anymore. you basically could stressful it out, there are different fish interior the sea AND friends- one's which you will have faith.

Answer 8

I lost my best friend because she hooked up with my ex-boyfriend. I understand that he just wanted to get laid but what the hell was she thinking about??? Her loss... men (women) come and go, friends are forever.

Answer 9

for me
before the "i do" said by someone
everything is fine
try to find soul mate
in anyway
maybe its n"s destiny to meet m through s
i was ever in your shoes
pretend may not solve the problem
until now they r still my friend

Answer 10

Friends should NEVER date friends' bf/gf!!! That is like an unspoken code of friendship. It should go without saying!!!