do guys not see a problem with not talking to their gf for days? or seeing them? b/c i saw my bf on monday night and i havent seen him since then or talked to him since then - except for last night a bit after i left a message that i needed to talk to him b/c i got in an accident. i just need a guys perspective lol b/c i dont know if i should call him or not tonight or wait till tomorrow night because i dont want to see annoying or obsessive.... lol, i just miss him :\
2007-06-21 15:11:59 · 19 answers · asked by S20x07E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was never that way in a relationship. I believe that you have 2 kinds of guys in this world. Guys that feel the need to keep their girlfriends at a distance because they fear commitment. The other type are not afraid and are willing to let their girlfriend in. I think your boyfriend is likely the kind of guy that will never be real touchy feelie. It is better to let this kind of guy reach our to you and let him communicate. Now, I know that it is hard when you feel very connected to someone and you are not sure if it is ok to be open with your feelings. I would be honest and just say I am not sure where I stand with you and I want for you to know that I really care. Should that freak him out? The guy is a emotionally closed off and who needs that? If my girlfriend was in a accident of any sort when were first dating I would have been right there to baby her.
Remember if you were to reach out to him again tonight you would not really know what was in his heart and where you stand with him. 1 day is a breeze. Think happy thoughts. I hope you are ok from the accident? Take care of yourself and know that there are more guys out there that like women that want to be close than there are guys that want to be the distant type. Don't change.
The fact that he does not speak to you for days on end is a sign that he is attempting to control the relationship. Personally I never understood the call don't call rules. If you love someone go for it. Life is too short for head games.
Best of luck to you. Be strong and know it is not you!
2007-06-21 15:13:58 · answer #1 · answered by Mario L 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seeing is one thing, but being totally out of contact seems quite odd indeed.
I guess it all depends on the guy - some are better at keeping in touch than others...
Depending on your age, there are many reasons why this happens. With my g/f, we both work (I'm 29, and she's 34) - so unless we can work something out during the week, it's weekends only. That doesn't mean we dont talk/text in between though :):)
I would still call him tonight - and if he doesn't want to spend time with you because of your accident, THEN I would get worried...
2007-06-21 15:43:40 · answer #2 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, We are all different and it sounds like you need to find a guy who is more like minded. Oppisites may attract but the differences will more than likely tear them apart.You sound like you have a very loving heart so you deserve that in return ! I am 47 so I know these things. I will say a prayer for you !
2007-06-21 15:31:17 · answer #3 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While you miss him alot, you need to give him time and space. If you're always calling him, he won't have time to miss you or want to talk to you. And if you just keep pushing the issue, you'll be pushing him away.
Let him come after you, chase you, compete for you.
2007-06-21 15:16:05 · answer #4 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys' perspective- for me shorter is good, so- not only doesn't it matter, it's preferred
2016-05-17 07:03:02 · answer #5 · answered by kourtney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when a guy loves a girl he wants to talk to her forever. maybe he thinks that he's too clingy and wants to give you space. then again, maybe doesn't feel the way about you that he did before. either way, you should call him tonight.
don't make it into a huge thing though b/c it most likely isnt.
2007-06-21 15:15:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're going out with him, don't be afraid to call him and talk to him. You can't always wait for him to talk to you. He might have a lot of things going on right now and it could've just slipped his mind.
2007-06-21 15:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you miss him and are obsessed with talking to him everyday is why he goes days without contact. He likes it when you pursue him.
2007-06-21 15:15:38 · answer #8 · answered by Live4theWeekend 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait for a time until he realized he missed you already. You know it takes time for a guy to realize that they're alone and they need someone to accompany them. If he realizes that he missed you in time, then thats it.. you dont need to do a thing. if you missed him. just do other things or let yourself occupied with things.
2007-06-21 15:19:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure. U should call him just to talk to him and ask wat's he been up to or if he wants to go on a date. One time i didn't talk to my gf for a while and i didn't know wat was wrong and i was freaking out. Once i called her, it turned out she was thinking the same thing. Now we talk everyday.
2007-06-21 15:17:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋