Ok now I'm a young woman. I wanna know if I have to pay for a date? Shouldn't a man pay, I mean he IS the man right? So he should pay. But I just don't feel comfortable with him paying for everything. So do you guys think that I should split the bill? I say that if he isn't gonna pay he's not even worth my time! Right???
2007-06-21 14:35:49 · 33 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Whoever asked for the date.
If you ask a guy out, and expect him to pay...well, let's just say that it's reasonable for him to expect to get his money's worth.
On the other hand, if a guy asks you out, and expects you to pay even a penny, he isn't worth your time.
2007-06-21 14:37:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no set rule on this, but the expectation (99.9% of the time) is for the man to pay for the FIRST DATE. After this, it is completely up to the individuals. In many cases, it is still seen as the man's "responsibility" - but this attitude has changed a lot since the 1980's.
Splitting a check (or "going dutch") is perfectly normal - especially if it's something informal (like a lunch date in the food court). I feel that as long as there is some balance, then it's all good!
Not all of us are made of money - there are other things one can do if they can't afford to pay for the date every time. One of you could cover dinner, while the other takes care of the movie...
Personally, I don't mind splitting on a check - but my chivalrous side always makes me at least offer EVERY time (unless she insists well before the date) :):):)
2007-06-21 14:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think generally the person who makes the date pays.
Now if a girl asks a guy out, I've been told (by all my married guy friends) that no self respecting guy will let a girl pay for him, and that the most that a guy will allow to happen is going dutch, however you may have just become a friend at that point.
It depends on who the guy is, and what you want. If you want a guy to pay, don't go out with the ones that don't pay. It's that simple.
You can always play it safe have enough to cover you, see if he pays, and if he doesn't you can casually pay for your self.
2007-06-21 14:44:14 · answer #3 · answered by littlebossjojo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoever asks for the date should pay. Or go dutch. There is NO rule that says a guy has to pay - If he's not gonna pay the bill he's not worth your time ??? Shheesh ! Get a grip!
Only if he asks you out should he pay.
2007-06-21 14:41:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"he IS the man right" puhlease - makes me realize why some guys are gay.
The general rule is that if you invite someone out, then you should pay, or at least be prepared to pay. For some reason, that is still usually the man.
However, if someone asks you out, then it is not a license for you to say 'yippee - a free ride!'. In my experience, most dollars are pretty hard earned, and nobody likes to see their date spending them like they were water.
Perhaps every now and then, you could pick up a round of drinks. Or maybe cover the taxi. And just sometimes, you ask HIM out, your treat.
You're a modern woman, right? So act like one!
2007-06-21 14:53:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never pay for a first date. As long as the woman isn't in the relationship with the man, I believe that she should pay for her meal, her movie, and whatever else. Why should the guy be obligated? A date is just trying to see if you are compatible. So, when you are in a relationship, thats when he can pay!
2007-06-21 14:38:56 · answer #6 · answered by Jeremy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he asked me out for a first date, I would ask him to choose and plan the date. There is nothing worse than being in a situation where he asks where I would like to go. I don't know! I might not know him that well. I have no idea what he can afford at the time! It is awkward.
If you must pitch in..offer to buy a drink or two or pay for dessert. :)
2007-06-21 14:56:39 · answer #7 · answered by no cutesy name : ) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that all men feel the same. I would let the bill come and see how he acts. If he trys to pay then tell him you will leave a tip and maybe on another date, if there is one, you pay for the bill. When it comes to dating I feel men should always pay but becasue I don't want to look ungrateful, I pay for it every so often. I feel like if you envited me you are willing to pay. If you envited him you are willing to pay.
2007-06-21 14:40:53 · answer #8 · answered by Tisa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's a first date, let him pay. After that politely ask the first couple times to pay (he should decline), then ask him out and pay. He'll appreciate that you are self-sufficient, but he'll also like that you let him be "the man" most of the time.
2007-06-21 14:40:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be straight with him, if you can. Tell him, in this day and age, you aren't sure what's politically correct, and let him explain HIS version of how things should go. Ask him if you can chip in, or even offer to pay for the whole thing on the dates that YOU plan, and let him pay for the dates he plans!
2007-06-21 14:39:10 · answer #10 · answered by sacanda_trina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋