I have just started a long distance relationship with someone. It's not ideal but we like eachother a lot. We want to see eachother as much as possible and maybe move closer to make this work. I get fears, though, of other girls he will meet in the meantime. As great a girl as I think I am, I know I can't compete with anyone local to him. It's scares me. What can I do to calm down about it? How can I just relax and let things happen as they will? I just get full of anxiety... thanks!
oh... i had a previous relationships where i was cheated on. this guy doesn't seem like that...
2007-06-21 14:17:58 · 12 answers · asked by Sophie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i was in a long distance relationship and got my heart broken but not because he cheated-because he was a crook.
hopefully that will not happen to you, LOL
a lil paranoia is healthy just dont let it ruin the few moments you have together-all you have to do is act like he is the only man in the world and he should act like you are the only woman in the world. agree to not let anything or anyone intefere or infringe upon your time together
i hope this helps
2007-06-21 14:22:35 · answer #1 · answered by msijg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you know him from previously or did u meet online? Guys can be faithful during long distance relationships, but like u say, u've been cheated on before. Maybe to calm your anxiety u guys should set boundaries, but allow each other to go out with friends (even the opposite sex) and not expect both of you to sit at home all the time. If you think u can trust him this shouldn't be an issue. If there are trust issues already, maybe its not meant to be. Also, maybe he feels that way about you, that he cant compete with any local u might meet somewhere. Just dont let fears turn into major issues when there is no reason or evidence to support it. He has agreed to the long distance thing, so he likes you. Just take it from there. But unless it is serious, maybe reconsider moving so soon.
2007-06-21 14:30:47 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Always Right 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your trust has been broken and you get anxiety, maybe a long distance relationship isn't a good thing for you right now. You would surely be needing to place alot of trust in him and if your trust is fragile, that's going to be hard. And it will be even worse if he ends up failing you somehow. It would probably be better to keep an open mind about things until you can be physically together. Anxiety is a terrible thing to go through.
2007-06-21 14:25:20 · answer #3 · answered by sweetsh0rtie99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the most common problem with long distance relationships. If you're really that worried that he'll cheat on you, then you should take a break from the relationship until you can move closer together and actually go out.
2007-06-21 14:23:50 · answer #4 · answered by Quaestor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be able to trust him and if you can do that, that is great. i have been in a 4yr long distance relationship, and it is all based on trust and love you both need to love each other, if you feel this is a short term relationship i wouldnt put yourself through this anxiety anymore, but if you feel this something that will end up being a great thing than you need to learn to trust, and talk about these things with him. ihope i was of help to you
2007-06-21 14:23:12 · answer #5 · answered by Ashi333 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had one serious relationship before and it ended on her cheating on me. I am currently dating someone who lives over an hour away and i have the same doubts at times. All you can is trust him until he gives you a reason not to.
2007-06-21 14:20:58 · answer #6 · answered by chussey85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are willing to give him 100% trust, I would suggest to cancel the long distance relationship. They are very high maintenance!
2007-06-21 14:20:38 · answer #7 · answered by Me! :-) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've met him, give him a chance based upon the kind of guy he seems like. It's all you can really go by, worrying can only make things worse.
2007-06-21 14:21:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sophie, Sweetie been there myself and all you can do is pray to Jesus and believe that you were heard ! Your name alone should keep him true. I will say a prayer that it woks out for you !
2007-06-21 14:30:55 · answer #9 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys will forever be jerks and cheat. they want to have someone to kiss every day and say hey baby your lookin good in those shorts today
2007-06-21 14:24:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋