How many of you would lie to your current partner about prevouse relationships?

Question

Would you lie or tell the whole truth?
Why or why not?
Thanks
And I will choose a best answer.

Answer 1

Most people tell lies. I believe you should tell the whole truth because it's best to get off to the best start possible. Honesty is the best way to do that. A relationship that starts out bad or with lies ends bad. Here's a tip though don't volunteer information you don't want revealed unless your new beau asks other than that it's your business.

Answer 2

I would tell the truth. I might keep unneccesary details out of it unless my current partner asks, but other than that i would tell the truth. When you start lying u have to keep remembering what lies you told and it can get complicated keeping track of all the lies. Plus if your honest with your partner it will just build up the trust and make the relationship better.

Answer 3

I would never openly lie to my husband. So, if asked, I would tell. However, my husband and I really haven't asked much about each other's previous relationships. He knows I didn't have many, and was rather wary of guys in general, and I know he was pretty much a ladies man until I came along. I don't want the specifics of his relationships, and I don't think he wants the specifics of mine either. It's in the past, it happened before he fell in love with me, and he's with me now. That's all that really matters, isn't it?

Answer 4

Truth, always...otherwise, how can you develop and open and honest relationship?

If you lie once, it opens the door to more lies, and then that creates mistrust, suspicion, accusations.

The caveat to that is sometimes the truth hurts. But, you work through it, you discuss it, you resolve it, and then the trust grows stronger. If you have good communication skills, then you will have no problem telling the truth, or receiving it! Good luck!

Answer 5

I feel that one way to reconcile a past relationship is to decide what to take with you from it and what to leave behind. Take the fond memories, the lessons learned....and leave the mistakes and heartbreak. So, sometimes to avoid resurrecting the things we'd rather leave in the past, we brush over certain details or omit information. I think that's okay to an extent. Where it can be harmful, however, is to blatantly lie about your past behavior to conceal present malintent, or to lie in order to preserve a relationship. Some people lie because they feel that if their partners knew the truth about them or their past, the relationship would be over. That is not a healthy relationship, to not feel open with your partner, and if I found myself wanting to conceal my true self from a partner, I'd question whether or not to stay in the relationship anyway.

Dishonesty is not a good indicator of a truly happy relationship. If your goal is to be in a mature relationship, pick someone with whom you can be yourself.

It's okay to leave the past in the past, but don't pretend to be someone you're not to stay with a man or woman.

Answer 6

Well Tammy I certainly would not lie or hide things from my previous relationships and I know for a fact that my new wife has not withheld anything from her past relationships from me. Although we may not have disclosed everything about our previous sexual relationship, we are more then aware that at our age neither of us were virgins when we got together.
Why - because these previous relationships help to develop us into who and what we are today.

Answer 7

For my own situation, I don't have much to lie about... a handful of boyfriends, most ended on good terms. If I had a more shady past, I probably wouldn't divulge it if I thought it would cause turmoil.
(Did you see "Clerks" where the girlfriend of the clerk dude says she's slept with a couple guys... but she's given a BJ to 30 or something? He mildly freaks out. :)

Answer 8

i wouldn't bring it up, his relationships are his own business, and your relationships are yours. but if the topic does come up, i'd be as honest as i can be, with a few white lies here and there,depending on whether or not they'd hurt him or make him angry. (unless of course he has suspicions about you and your ex, then you should clarify it with him and no matter what say the truth.) but there is no use in letting a past relationship get in between your current one. i believe what is in the past is in the past. and that's that.

Answer 9

Why lie? Lies only lead to a troublesome relationship. One lie leads to another and pretty soon you've found yourself in a jam due to not being able to remember what you said to cover up one or more lies.

Answer 10

It depends. Like if he wanted to know if my ex was huge in the man department then yes I would lie but if it was petty then no. It really depends but I like your question so here is a star.