i dont scream myself and always use the "quiet" voice but she is always screaming. she is so loud i swear china can hear!!! how can i stop her from having such a screaming mouth? even a simple no is "nooooooo"!!!
2007-06-21 12:44:33 · 12 answers · asked by someoneyoudontknow 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
take her for a hearing test to see if she has a problem, if she doesn't, sit her down and make some NEW rules pertaining to her volume. let her know you will only warn her once about her level if you have to do it a second time, send her to her room for a couple of hours,being it is summertime she will not want to be stuck there for too terribly long
2007-06-21 12:55:34 · answer #1 · answered by cheri h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We had the same problem with our daughter when she was about 5 or 6. I am fairly loud so just assumed it was because of this. Anyway, I toned it down too and tried the time out approach and it worked wonders. I would look her in the eyes and tell her very calmly and quietly that it was NOT ok to scream and if she did it again it would be off to the bathroom for time-out. Of course the first couple of times she would scream again within minutes so I took her off to the bathroom and made her sit on a little chair in there then shut the door and put the kitchen timer on for however minutes she was old (e.g. 7 years old would be 7 minutes).
It didn't take very long (can't remember but maybe 4 or 5 times) and both my husband and I could see great changes. I think me calming down and not getting ruffled (or at least not showing her I was) helped heaps too. I was consistent too - even if we were at a friends house I would take her into their bathroom and she'd sit on the bath mat. If we were shopping it was calmly but quickly straight to the car and home and into the bathroom. I didn't let her get away with it once and that really helped too.
She's nearly 9 now and we still use time out for her and her sister because it's the only thing that we've found that works.
Good luck!!
2007-06-21 20:11:19 · answer #2 · answered by Chelsea 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with alot of the posters here, take her to have her hearing check first, then if all is well then as a parent you have to set guidelines for her to follow, you dont have to scream it at her but you do needto let her know that you mean business.
In a parenting class I just took to help with my unruly son , they said to make some kinda of sign up between you and her and when she is in that loud zone to do the sign. They said that this will help when she is in front of others as well and while in public. It didnt work to well for me but nothing really has worked for my son so far so it is worth a shot.
I also agree with the other poster that said ignor the behavior but when they are yelling sometimes that can get old after a while. Try something for awhile if it doesnt work try one of the other things posted. Good Luck
2007-06-21 22:59:30 · answer #3 · answered by diane33michigan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not raising a daughter, but I have a son and have been around my young nieces. This issue came up with all 3 of them.
I used this with my son. Whipped out my cell phone and pretended to call the hockey coach (feel free to substitute Grandpa, Daddy, Santa Claus) and say "he just can't behave, please give his uniform to a little boy that can behave and his ice skates to a boy that doesn't shout. Thank you coach" my son would be a West Point cadet by the end of that phone call, willing to behave from that point on.
When it comes to handling it, I also watched my sister and how she dealt with her two daughters.
1. get at eye level with them, holding both their hands
2. speak in a level tone of voice, don't smirk or smile
3. tell them you will not listen to them unless they use a nice voice
4. if they cannot use a nice voice, they can sit in timeout until they find their nice voice
5. sit them in a timeout for a period of 2 minutes, if they persist
At the end of the timeout, repeat steps 1 thru 3
Next timeout extends to 3 minutes, then repeat 1 thru 3
They will get tired of hearing the same phrase over and over and it will break their will power.
During the time out, you use that time to decompress.
You can seriously put soft foam earplugs in your ears, if you need to. If they scream in your face, it won't harm your ears.
Consistency is the key.
it may take an entire day, and most of your energy, but it will work if you stand your ground.
Good luck to you ~
2007-06-25 11:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by yoak 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with having her hearing tested, if her hearing is ok, I would stop the screaming with a half glass of ice water in the face. Once she recovers from the first time, I would explain that from that time on every time she screams she will get more of the same.
I don't think it should take long to cure.
Good luck
2007-06-21 20:07:35 · answer #5 · answered by marshfield_meme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always tell my daughter, say it don't scream it, if she screams I act like she is not even there until she can take a deep breath and say it calmly. Or scream things at her and give her a taste of her own medicine, and when she is upset tell her that is how you feel when she treats you that way.. I also tell my girls "I don't speak to rude little girls, when you can talk nicely to me come back until the leave me alone" its kind of mean but gets their attention and lets them know how rude they are being.
2007-06-21 20:05:07 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Coffee 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
go 2 the doctor and check her hearing. if nothings wrong, tell her something about a little girl who screamed so much she lost her voice and no one could understand what she tried to tell them. the girls only seven shell believe you and will be too scared to scream anymore until she gets sense enough.
2007-06-21 21:58:20 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ pandaheart ♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time for time out, unless have you had her hearing checked this could be a medical problem maybe she is loud so she can hear herself.
2007-06-21 19:51:52 · answer #8 · answered by grizzliesgurl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is stop bein so sensitive, try being more aggresive. she thinks she can do any thing she wants to because you always use a quite sensitive tone.
2007-06-21 19:53:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell her to go to the bathroom when shes screaming and crying
thats what i would do to my little cousin, she would cry so loud..i would tell her go to the bathroom if your gonna cry because i dont wanna hear it then she would go && nobady would pay attention to her cry and when she saw that we "didnt care" she got over it
2007-06-21 19:50:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋