I have a boyfriend that i've bee with for about 2 or so years. he is nice most of the time but when we do argue about something he get very opinonated , head strong and sometimes curses at me. My question to everybody is would you date a person who goes to AA meetings? my boyfriends been going 13 years.
2007-06-21 12:30:08 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, I would, if he is worth it, I would not allow the cursing at me however, I have someone very special to me that I wish was in the program, they were before but now are using. Dealing with addiction is a challenge, not everyone can deal with. This is something you will need to do some huge soul searching, and make personal decisions on to decide if you should stay or not. No matter what you need to look out for yourself, it is hard to do that when you care for someone, but you must. Good Luck.
2007-06-21 12:37:31 · answer #1 · answered by maybe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you love your boyfriend? I don't think you should ask about the AA question making the two of you a couple but rather the swearing. Does the swearing make you feel vulnerable and unwanted around him. If he stops the swearing habit and you truly love him the AA group should not bother you. It should be more of a sign saying my boyfriend knows he needed help or a family member of his knew he needed help and he got it. He was strong about getting the Alcohol under control now ask about the abusive behavior.
2007-06-21 19:36:00 · answer #2 · answered by laughonemoretime 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did date a guy like that and even went to AA meetings with him. Guess what? He used me to drive him to those meetings etc. He cheated too. I don't think this is your case, but people don't change and if somebody crossed the line (cursing, cheating etc) more than once--- no way back.
You have to accept or move on..
2007-06-21 19:34:53 · answer #3 · answered by Ana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I would judge someone to date if they went to AA meetings. It would be based more on how he treats me. It is good he is trying to stay sober. It is not good that he curses at you.
Think about what you really want in a relationship. Discuss this with him. If you cannot come to terms, then he probably is not the guy for you. If he cannot respect you, then it is time to move on.
2007-06-21 19:33:50 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that the fact that he goes to AA meetings is the problem here. If he curses at you or belittles you in any way, then you need to talk to him about that. If it doesn't stop, then leave.
2007-06-21 19:34:20 · answer #5 · answered by ☆Zestee☆ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot depends on compatibility. If I feekl that he is still not in control of his life, AA is the least of the concerns
2007-06-21 19:32:41 · answer #6 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course. Just because a person makes a few bad choices in life, doesnt mean there bad people . Plus one, everyone makes mistakes. Two, hes seeking help. Good luck with this. He seems smart getting help like this.
2007-06-21 19:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by nicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as I was ok with not being able to drink myself, and I could help support him in getting through everything. It will take a lot of strength on your part, but if you love him, & he loves you then yeah you should stick by him.
2007-06-21 19:33:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the type of person they are. If someone had problems in their youth and have moved past it, no problem. However, if they show chronic addictive behavior and have emotional problems, absolutely not.
2007-06-21 19:34:05 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would but they are not supposed to date the first year, and I would respect that and wait, but you BF sounds like he is in control of his addiction so go ahead
2007-06-21 19:33:03 · answer #10 · answered by don't hate snowflake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋