What do you make of a guy who's recently divorced and says he's not ready for a relationship but tells me I'd make the perfect wife and texts me that he thinks of me all the time and I'm just about as good as it gets? We met eachother 8 months ago (and I know he's dated other people during that time) and we chat every few days and see eachother once a week or so (but really don't go on many actual dates). I totally fell for him and it's driving me nuts that he doesn't want me as his girlfriend!
2007-06-21 12:00:11 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Will letting him know how I feel about him scare him away or make him realize he's got a great girl?
2007-06-21 12:09:04 · update #1
Sounds like either you are the rebound girl, or a good time, sorry
2007-06-21 12:05:13 · answer #1 · answered by Pengy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
("tardboy" proves his "nomme de plume!")
"Recently divorced" = "gunshy" (personal opinion from one similarly situated male person)
Women have terrific intuition! What's your gut feeling? Is there any suspicion (any at all?) that you're the "rebound" girl? If not, as mentioned by a previous poster, give it time. Anyone who goes through a divorce, no matter how amicable, needs some time to get back in the groove, "figure it all out all over again," etc. Actually, the "time" thing can work in your favor, as well. True love endures, infatuation (and, for that matter, "...totally (falling) for him...") burns out comparatively rapidly. And then there's the old adage, "Time heals all wounds, and wounds all heels!" From the Heartland, best of luck!
2007-06-21 12:11:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A) Are you sure he's divorced?
If yes, then he does see you as a good example of what he's looking for the long haul. Realize that with divorce usually comes pain, grief, heartache. He wants to deal with that, after all would you rather just be the rebound?
2007-06-21 12:03:19 · answer #3 · answered by jay k 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know everything and I haven't met him. But in my opinion, I think that he just boosts his ego up alot by leading you on, and he's just like all of the other jerks that do that. So next time he texts you saying he always thinks of you tell him something like "Well get used to it, because that's the only time you'll see me."
2007-06-21 12:04:42 · answer #4 · answered by Kelsie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is trying to build his self-esteem back from a heartbreak, he wants attention. I would not allow him to have control over you. Just be a friend to him. That will save you from getting hurt and in turn makes you more attractive to him.
2007-06-21 12:06:05 · answer #5 · answered by ambrosius15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give the man a break he was in just in a tough relationship he wants to check other women out to see tht he won't make the same mistake again..n if he says all tht gushy most likely ur still on top of his list.....he'll come around..have patience...
2007-06-21 12:04:42 · answer #6 · answered by Ask n i'll answer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's really interested in you but not yet emotionally ready to make the move. Just give him time....
2007-06-21 12:04:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make someone a priority if they can only be bothered to make you an option.
Walk away.
Make him chase you. If he wants you truly he will notice and come after you if not he wasn't worth it anyway.
2007-06-21 12:05:22 · answer #8 · answered by ERICA-LYNN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.. well this is coming from a juvinille so i doubt this will be of any help, but sounds to me, if he's telling you this stuff, and yet, he's been dating other individuals, then he's prolly a player.. or .. he's just using you for sort of a toy.. but LIKE I SAID.. i'm just a juvinille and i know nothing..
-_-
2007-06-21 12:05:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say give him time to heal and when he's good and ready he'll make the first move!
2007-06-21 12:02:49 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋