Only dating a month, and she got annoyed with me the other night for saying about how she can make me do stupid things. I didn't really mean anything by it and was joking around...that said I don't have a problem going out of my way for her because I like her. Her take was that it was "very unappealing" to think she could make me do anything. I understand that, but that's not who I am, and I think she got the wrong impression.
We talked about it and she got very upset because for the first time in our relationship she could tell I was actually annoyed with her. She apologized to me that night for making a big deal over it and said I should stay the way am.
But now I AM annoyed, and I don't really feel like going out of my way for her anymore because I feel like she'll just think I'm a pushover...I'm actually so annoyed I've contemplated breaking up with her.
what should I do? I feel like this is just pure ego getting in the way, but what she said initially has me 2nd guessing
2007-06-21 11:59:54 · 12 answers · asked by subway mike 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You dude are suffering from the centuries long problem of men are from mars and women are from venus. Every guy in history has had this problem so with that said, you are not alone! If you guys are dating and it has only been one month and you are already fighting, chance are you won't survive much longer, sorry I had to say that for you to take into consideration. But at the same time "your a guy" so even if you know you didn't do anything wrong just aplolgize because woman like it when men humble themselves. And be careful of your ego because that can cause the problem to worsen and no wants that. Maybe she is on her period or maybe she just needs some space for a little while because she is under stress which you may not know about. You could be dating one of those woman who like conflict (trust me those cause trouble) the best advice I can give is...Who cares!!! so you had a fight! try to get past it and don't focus so much on that one problem, because chances are that if you focus on every little problem, you won't last long. Good luck and have more patience with this one! lol Good luck and I hope I helped.
2007-06-21 12:13:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a really nice guy and I am sure another girl will have you but if you are in some form of a push over take a self esteem class. Sounds gay i know but if you want to marry this girl you do what yo need to right. If you are not that far in the relationship than you may want to just keep a little distance and ask some Buddy's of yours do you seem to get pushed over tell them to be honest so this way your girlfriend wont be the only one telling you. Then if that is something you want to change for your self than do it. Keep it simple.
2007-06-21 12:08:06 · answer #2 · answered by taa daa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should kick back for a few days. She was probably not reacting to you, but to a past experience.
There ARE guys that are a little too clingy, I dated a guy once that used to follow me down the hall and wait outside the bathroom door, cause he missed me...errr, ick.
Maybe she had an experience like that and thought back to the creep from her past.
In any event, you're holding your own and showing her that you were giving her a compliment, but didn't offer to be her doormat. Kudos.
Check back with that inner voice in a few days. You'll know what to do if time gives you a little more persective. She was out of line.
2007-06-21 12:07:33 · answer #3 · answered by Laura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a big deal and a direct hit. Calling a man a coward is like calling a woman a slut. Them thar is fightin words.
Yes it is ego and every man has one. Some more than others, but sure enough it is there and she hit it. I was about 3 years old when I noticed that. Tempting a man to fight is about as difficult as tempting him into bed for any woman. Yes, we are all creatures of emotions and if she wants that to be respected, you have to be respected too.
2007-06-21 12:17:58 · answer #4 · answered by Kathleen b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it easy don't ruin ur relationship over that. people r just quick 2 say break up with her kick her *** and so on. u go back 2 ur girl and try 2 work things out again and tell her how u feel gently. try 2 make her understand it and also try 2 understand her it might be hard but it's all about cooperation.
2007-06-21 12:09:48 · answer #5 · answered by Jizzy F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice that I can give you is to just follow your heart and your heart will lead you in the right direction and to the right person for you. And sometimes you can say one thing to people and they twist your words around but, just don't worry about the situation just let it go and live your life to the fullest.
2007-06-21 12:06:30 · answer #6 · answered by B.E.A.Bootiful Brittany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My b/f will do some crazy things for me and I love it and he knows it. If that chic is complaining about it then I would say you deserve better anyhow. Being a pushover is only bad when you let people get by with bad things.
2007-06-21 12:06:07 · answer #7 · answered by vanillashimmer21 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time for her to go. Say "I can make some of my own decisions, *****" (that was biatch by the way they starred it out)
Seriously though she can't be nice for saying things like that so early one, either if she means it or if she's just trying to mess with you...
2007-06-21 12:02:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tie her to the bed and leave ( of course make it where she can free herself but with considerable effort). She'll beckon you to come back and let her go, but don't do it. (It's better if it's her bed so you don't risk drawing a charge).
2007-06-21 12:07:04 · answer #9 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try breaking up with her
so u guys aren't annoyed with ech other no more!
2007-06-21 12:06:45 · answer #10 · answered by Leila 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋