He wants to go with a couple of buddies and one of there mothers, I do not know the mother that is going, therefore I said he could not go. Now he is upset and said I am mean!. Am I really being mean or is it just him?
2007-06-21 11:56:28 · 18 answers · asked by ugly betty 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
No, there is no life guard there. My son is friends with some of the kids that are going but not particually the one with the mother that is going to supervise.
2007-06-21 12:06:04 · update #1
We go to the pool everyday for a few hours, we just didn't go today because my 4yr old and 1 yr old got sick, so it's not like he doesn't ever go.
2007-06-21 12:15:21 · update #2
No, you're being a sensible parent. I wouldn't let me child go either if I didn't know the other parent. He'll be upset for a little while, but he'll get over it.
2007-06-21 12:01:04 · answer #1 · answered by bugalug_hills 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends on how familiar you are with the pool. I would call up the mother and have a chat, ask about the details of this pool playdate, and make sure there are lifeguards(which there most definitely are) and that she is staying at the pool while they are there. I would also get a good feel when talking to her of whether she'll be making sure the kids are going to be under her watchful eye, or if she's just going to let them go wild. If all these questions answer yes, or to your satisfaction, then I would most definitely let your son go with them.
2007-06-21 19:02:17 · answer #2 · answered by Just a Dog Chasing Cars 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a toughy because where do you draw the line between safety and letting your kids have a little freedom. I say no just because I let someone watch my daughter swim before and she almost drowned. She is four now and just barely getting over her fear of water. I had the worst time getting her to bathe even. Oh I dont know, that is such a toughy. Maybe you could get to know mom?? Or maybe go also? Or promise him you will take him and a couple friends antoher time?
2007-06-21 19:06:12 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you handled the situation a bit wrong. I think you should have phoned the women who was taking your son to the pool and asked her all the questions you felt needed to be answered before you would allow your son to go. I know he's young but you need to give him a little bit of breathing room. I'm sure if the mother was there she planned on watching the kids.
2007-06-21 19:26:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No I don't think you're being mean. But perhaps there is a middle ground like volunteering to be a second chaperone for the trip and/or getting to know the other parent. Heck, 2 sets of eyes are better than one when it comes to kids and water!
2007-06-21 19:01:34 · answer #5 · answered by BeckyBeq 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I certainly would not let him go to the pool with someone I did not know. What if she is not good about keeping an eye on everyone?
Is there a chance to meet this person and find out if she seems to be a responsible person? Do you know anyone else who knows her and can tell you if she is dependable?
2007-06-21 19:06:55 · answer #6 · answered by Marilyn E 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
,i think you are right not to let him go before you know the other parent and if he is well looked after. maybe you could set some time aside to take him and meet the other mom. if its not possible, that may suck for your son but he will get over it and they always know you love them. PS. good to hear a few more parents actually keep a good eye on their kids instead of trusting strangers to do it for them
2007-06-21 19:03:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should call the mother and get to know her if her son is one of you sons friends because i am sure they are going to want to do other things together doing the summer.
2007-06-21 18:59:46 · answer #8 · answered by Stephanie A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first check to see who the parent is. If you see the parent is OK then give him a cell phone and tell him to call every 30 min. or so. If you don't have a cell then use a local phone
2007-06-21 19:27:24 · answer #9 · answered by Sierra S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you go with them so you meet the other mom? That way you get to know the boys and her. Otherwise, talk to her on the phone and you'll be able to gauge what kind of person she is and that way with future "playdates" you both feel comfortable.
2007-06-21 19:03:51 · answer #10 · answered by chnchita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋