What kind of freedom should a 14 year old girl have?

Question

As a parent, what would you allow her to do,have, go, and what would be her curfew?

Answer 1

Home by 9 unless it is a special night, and she would have to be with another adult or group of kids

Answer 2

Going out with friends isn't out of the question - but home by dark and I would have to have met these so called friends. There WILL be a way of getting a hold of her at all times. Checking in at least once an hour to give us an update would be mandatory. There would be NO DATING. At 14, boys are raging hormones and have no idea what the consequences are - 14 is WAY too young for any of that action. Maybe group dates where we know everyone would be acceptable.

Definitely no free run of the entire town/city - there would be limits on where she is allowed based on said city/town.

Curfew will remain "when the street lights come on - your butt better be home if you ever plan on being let out again." It will stay that way, unless employment requires a later curfew at which point the topic would be revisited.

Answer 3

None!

I've raise three teenagers.

She would not be dating.

She would not have a steady boyfriend.

Sleepover would be with someone I knew and then only if I had met the parents and had gone over to the house and checked things out. I would also call to make sure everything was "kosher" sometime during the night.

She doesn't need anything other than her clothes and meals and a place to sleep. Anything else you give her is because you love her but 14 year olds don't need the internet, cell phones, gameboys, or TV's in their room.

Curfew on school nights 2 hours before bed time. Homework needs to get done.

Curfew during weekends and summer By whatever time you decide you want to be in bed. They are your children not your friends. They have to mold their lives around your values and your time schedule not the other way around. Even at that by dark, and even then I want to know where they are and what they are doing. Teen girls should not hang out at malls.

Fourteen year olds are immature and need adult supervision.

My girls had their mother and or their father on every date they went on as a chaparone until they reached the age of consent.

All three of my children are married have familys and are productive members of the society. They are not socially retarded because I watched over them. In fact they love and trust me because they know I only want good for them.

Of course at the time they thought I was the meanest man in the world but oh well.

Answer 4

well i think that the curfew should be 9 or 9:30 and also, let her go out w/ her friends later than that. and let her have email, friendship and diary privacy. dont ask her how is (a friend of hers name) today because maybe they had a fight, or maybe she hasnt been friends w/ them for a while. jut say how was your day? dont pry for info. and she should have her own cell, b/c she might need u to pick up from a friends if she rides the bus, and also she might have a boyfriend that u dont know about and he breaks up with her and she might just want to talk to u and DO NOT SAY What were u thinking, getting a boyfriend u are WAY to young for that, that just makes her feel worse, be understanding and under stand that she wants to have some freedom and learn and kno what its like to do certain things but u should encourge that she DOESNT do drugs, she doesnt need to experiment that.

Answer 5

school nights curfew is 10 o'clock.no dating only group activities no being alone with boyfriend no overnights with boyfriend no smoking,drinking or drugs of any kind.no hanging around kids who are too free and loose.homework is done or you don't go anywhere you keep your room clean.respect your parents and grandparents and help around the house.think about your future what are you doing after you graduate high school?what do you want out of life.know who her friends are and their parents and who else lives in that home.it matters you cannot protect your kids if you don't know.i raised 5 kids none of them were raped,kidnapped or molested or killed.i was a strict parent because i cared but i was a good mom.your kid needs you to be a parent not their best friend! that's not your job! good luck. no tv in their bedroom,no phone in their bedroom and no computer either there are too many freaks out there,let your kid use the computer but in an open area so you can keep an eye on her and limit the time she spends on it.

Answer 6

At 14, it depends on her maturity level but generally speaking...I'd say a curfew of 'by dark' during school, and IF you know who she's with and where she is...how she's getting home etc...I'd give her until 9:30 or 10pm in summer. Of course...you need to demand that you know where she is/who she's with ANY time she's not with you. She's old enough to START testing her independance, but you have to gauge it by who SHE is when you give her new freedoms.

Now is also the time when you need to have a lot of heart to heart talks. Start talking to her as if she were a teen, and not a little girl. Get her comfortable with that so she is comfortable coming to you with the problems teens inevitably have. She'll ask her friends, but you want YOUR opinion to be the one she really trusts.

Answer 7

when i was 14 i was aloud to do nothing. to be completely honest with you. i lived with my father at the time. and i had no freedoms. i went to church, i went to basket ball games, and i went to home comming and prom, that was about it for the social life of my freshman and sophmore year. but i got really involved in school and made some really great friends, and moved back in with my mom, got more freedom. i had a 12 curfew when i was 16 on fridays and saturdays and 10pm during the week so i wouldn't loose focus on school. i still had chores and home work that came first, then friends.

Answer 8

Well,I would say depending on her behavior and her school grades-She's old enough for a cell phone or her own phone line in her room,stay the night at other girl's house's,have a curfew around 10-11pm.

Answer 9

This is the time when she feels she needs her freedom most. Tell her she needs to earn your trust. Depending on how much you trust her, she should be able to go to dances with boys, and be out until 9, unless it's a school night. She needs to tell you where she's going and have a cell phone on her so that you can contact her.

Answer 10

im not a parent but i think im pretty realist...im 21 and i think that at 14 she should have a lil byt...not too alot...she barely got into high school and from expreiance if you give her too much it will go alll wrong! lol...she can go stay the nite at friends house and maybe like a skating rink or movies alone..as long as you know who is goin and who is not...what time it starts and ends..and you or a parent YOU KNOW picks her up..and curfew should maybe midnite...

Answer 11

okay well first of all.
i never got any freedom.
and i hate it.
so i think on school nights her cerfew should be at aroud 9.
but on weekends maybe 11 or ten.
and let her go to the mall w/ her friends.
and spend the night at friends houses.
(:
oh yeah and by the way.
let them have at least some freedom
because when they do get it they will abuse it.
also let her hang out with guys but also make sure shes with 2 or more of her girlfriends.