My daughter is 13 and went over to her best friends house. Her friends brother is 14 and had a paint ball gun. He came in the house with it and thought it was "funny" to shoot my daughter in the back with it and now she has three welts the size of golfballs on her back. What should I do?
2007-06-21 11:41:24 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'd say first step is to talk to the boys parents, show them the welts. Then see what they say. If they are defensive and blame your daughter, then call the police. If they are upset with their son, and apologize, just let it go. Either way, don't allow your daughter back over there again.
Good Luck
2007-06-21 20:38:29 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call the mom and ask if she was aware that the 14 son had the gun, and shot the girl. did your daughter tell his mom? At this age parents arent watching over thier kids like a hawk at all times so it doesnt mean that the mom doesnt care. The boy just did something really stupit, and does desreve to have this gun taken away till he know how to properly use one.
I would ice your daughters back and watch it for infection. I do believe that if there is medical bills and you have a co pay or deductiable that if it is truly needed that the kids parents pay for it.
Don't sue iver something like this though, your daughter will ended being angry with you becasue this is her best frined and it will casue bigger problems.
Mistakes happen and accidents happen, it part of being kids. I would just make the parents aware that if your daughter is thier you would appreciate that he not have the gun but do this in a soft unaccusing way.
Hope your daughter get to feeling better and best wishes
2007-06-21 19:15:31 · answer #2 · answered by diane33michigan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK first of as a paintball player at fields I know all to well about these welts your daughter got. Depending on how far away he was will determine how long they take to heal. If he was close they may take a couple of weeks. They may turn black and blue after a few days. This is normal as the paintball broke some of the blood vessels near the skin. It is pretty much like getting a bruise on your leg from bumping into something. While it may look bad it will they will go away in about 2 weeks or so.
Just check to see if the balls broke the skin. You will see a little scab form, just check to make sure their is no infection and to keep them clean. Those are really no biggie.
As for the bestfriends brother. As a paintball player I would like to see his gun taken away and have him banned from owning another. People like this are the type that label all paintball players and guns as dangerous. The guns are only dangerous if used carelessly and stupidly like in this case. They are to be used on a field where people are wearing protective masks and clothing as they can make someone go blind if shot in the face. I would call the parents cause if he, and I am going to assume some of his friends have guns, keep this up they could seriously hurt someone if they shot them in the face without protection on. The parents should be made aware that he is using this gun in an inappropriate manner and that he should be punished for it.
2007-06-21 19:00:33 · answer #3 · answered by Robbo_op_98 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't thinking sueing is necessary nor wise!
She got hurt and I would talk to the other parents and make sure they were aware. Chance are they know and have already taken care of it but if not then I would explain your anger and ask that this is solved. Yes the parents should have close tabs on the kids but at the same time you allowed your daughter to go over there ...if you sue then all of the parents of your daughters other friends may be a bit leary in allowing your daughter to come over.
If you ask me I think the boy probably was trying to just goof around (flirt) with your daughter and probably didn't really mean to hurt her.. but then again he did so he should get in trouble for it!
2007-06-21 19:09:42 · answer #4 · answered by Nikki C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you feel angry, but the fact that the boy did this should not reflect on his parents, it's just something that kids do. Have the parents talked to you? The boy should be punished for what he did, the punishment should be no more paintball at all, and he should have to come and apologize to you. Don't end the friendship or stop letting your daughter go over there based on this one, immature thing that a member of the family did. However if your daughter does not want to go there, then don't have her go. Good Luck.
2007-06-21 19:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing to do is to tell the parents that their son did this. You will get a better response from them if you do not get angry and get into a "blaming" mode.
Just tell them that it happened and that you are concerned because this could happen to other people as well. Express it as concern for THEIR daughter as well as yours.
If the 14 year old boy is not able to use a paint ball gun responsibly, he should not have it. But that is a decision that HIS parents need to make ( but they need to know what he has done so that they can make an informed decision.)
If the bruises are still visible, you might want to get a picture of them as evidence.
2007-06-21 18:51:02 · answer #6 · answered by Marilyn E 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The welts will heal. Is she an only child?
If stuff like this happens again, Id gently talk to her friend's mom about it and say that their son might be a little too rough for your daughter to handle.
Or start doing sleepovers at your house.
2007-06-21 19:16:06 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all dont loose your head over it kids will be kids and 14 year old boys who like girls dont quite know how to treat them just yet. I would call the parents and inform them of what happened and leave it at that. put some ice on the welts and it should stop the swelling i have been hit with a paintball before in close range she will be fine in a few days if it is hurting her alot give her a little bit of tylenol. and try to remember that boys will be boys!!
2007-06-21 18:48:32 · answer #8 · answered by ladydarius20 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call his parents and tell them what happened. Let them deal with him and unlike someone said above it is NOT ok to encourage them to punish him. You would not want another parent calling you telling you that you need to punish your child. Kids are going to be kids and just because he made a mistake doesnt mean he is a bad kid or that your daughter will get hurt over there again. Hopefully his parents will take the paintball gun away until he learns how to properly handle it.
2007-06-21 18:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Cold packs on the welts, and a good talk with friends brother in the presence of his parents will make everyone feel better.
The kid was being a kid. He did something stupid. He needs to learn from it Should your daughter incur medical expenses the friend's parents should be responsible for the costs.
2007-06-21 18:46:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anna Og 6 · 8⤊ 0⤋