I haven't had a REAL boyfriend in two years, but I go through guys like nothing. No I don't have sex with them, but that is exactly why I go through so many. Why do guys always get so pissed off when you say no. no means no, NOT yes. SERIOUSLY, guys really know how to make a girl feel like crap just because she won't have sex with you. Is it so horrible that I am waiting? No I'm not waiting until I get married...but until I find someone SOMEWHAT worthy of it, who won't just bone me and leave me for the next. Really, is that so wrong? Because sometime's I just wonder if I'm wasting my time by trying to have relationships instead of just having sex, I have never been with a guy who DOESN'T want to have sex with me and actually be with me. I don't know what I'm doing so wrong or maybe am I just expecting too much??
2007-06-21 11:40:14 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try meeting guys in different settings than the one you are now. You're obviously attracting the wrong kind of man for your needs. Try a church or something.
2007-06-21 11:45:25 · answer #1 · answered by EDizzle03 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Sounds like you are attracting, and being attracted to, the guys who almost exclusively want only sex from you. Are you paying attention only to the macho Alpha Males who have the self-confidence and balls to hit on you? They seem to be the ones mostly out for sexual conquests and nothing else. Is there someone a bit quieter nearby who isn't trying to compete for your attention, who might appreciate more of who you are? There may also be an issue with *where* you are meeting all these guys. If you're going to bars, I'm not surprised at what's been happening to you. Wouldn't it make more sense to find social activities that you really enjoy doing and which put you in contact with lots of people you don't know yet, with the chance to talk and get to know them? And because it's something you enjoy doing, it will be less disappointing if you don't hook up with someone immediately. I have to believe there are better quality guys out there for you to connect with. Good luck!
2007-06-21 18:47:24 · answer #2 · answered by Dan H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain. I am so turned off by guys that just want a piece. Stick to your beliefs and when you meet the right guy you'll know it because sex (or lack of sex) wont matter.
To marco80us & aaronw: A guy should NEVER expect sex from someone he's not married to no matter how many dates they've gone on. That's just absolute BS!
2007-06-21 18:44:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing the right thing. The right guy will not get pissed off about not wanting to have sex then and there. However, you better not hold out for longer than 6 months because sex is a part of a great relationship.
2007-06-21 18:43:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
What's up chica? You are definetly doing things correctly. Don't have sex with the "boys" unless they are in it for the good reasons to be in it. Yes, all guys want to have sex, you will not get away from that, but not all of them are out to just have sex. Or "hit it and quit it" as some say. there are definetly some good guys out there. Don't give up the good fight babydoll. The right guy will come along. Patience is a virtue.
2007-06-21 18:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by indyfootballcolts 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well honey it depends how often you see a guy if your only seeing him say for date nite sat. and just talking on the phone too get too know one another just how long do you think it takes too find out if you like someone in that kind of way? if your seeing him a few times a week talking on the phone all the time they know relatively quickly if they want too be with you they have need of the physical nature what would you have them do? go see a hooker or one nite stand in a bar while you make up your mind? you not being reasonable in the practical world honey
2007-06-21 18:50:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take it as a blessing. You have found a way to weed out the men you do not want.
If you are not interested in casual sex, then you deserve a guy who expects and wants the same. What's wrong with wanting to find someone with similar expectations?
Just be patient. And don't give up.
2007-06-21 18:44:57 · answer #7 · answered by Beatrice25 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends how long your with the guy. I can understand not wanting sex with a guy you hardly know. But something like 3 months or more. And no sex. Unless your underage. It's asking allot. Not just for a guy. I'm speaking from a female point of view.
2007-06-21 19:02:36 · answer #8 · answered by Sunset 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup... expecting too much. Speaking as a man, it's very pleasing when a woman wants to be intimate fairly early in the relationship.
I think most men who aren't outright pigs/scum will basically go for three dates before seriously expecting any intimacy.
Beyond four or more dates, a man legitimately wonders if the woman is a user or an outright tease. Letting go of someone at that point is how a man protects his heart... and his wallet.
2007-06-21 18:45:05 · answer #9 · answered by Aaron W 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No you're not doing anything wrong. It's good that you have standards and refuse to settle for less. And you're not alone, I've gone through the same thing myself. Good men are truly hard to find, but when you find what you want you'll know he likes you for you and not whats between your legs. With all the STD's out here its good to be cautious and it helps you determine the guy's character.
2007-06-21 19:01:20 · answer #10 · answered by ctelly22 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand by on what you believe in. Don't compromise on this issue. The right guy will come along. Just be patient.
I'm a guy and yes it does suck when you date a "prude". But if I like the girl enough, I'd wait it out and it wouldn't be about the sex.
2007-06-21 18:44:34 · answer #11 · answered by Julius D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋