My dad...step dad, freaks out sometimes and gets really mad. he has never hit me before, but he has said some pretty mean things. he calls me all kinds of names: baby, sack of *crap*, loser, f-ing liar, and thats not all. sometimes it seems like he will never calm down. he has thrown things before, but never directly at me. and he always cusses at me for the stupidest reasons. please help me. i want to know if you would consider this emotional abuse. and maybe you could tell me what you think i should do...
2007-06-21 10:40:20 · 9 answers · asked by about_to_lose_it_17 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It sounds more like verbal abuse to me. What does your mother think? I would seek counseling or speak to your mom about this abusive behavior before it turns into something more! Don't let this bring down your self esteem and talk to a friend or someone who can tell you you are not these awful things. I am sorry you have to deal with this. Just remember that you are only a human being and everyone makes mistakes.
2007-06-21 10:49:21 · answer #1 · answered by itchlbfs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes You have to be careful of how you go about with help. Child Services being involved might have an unwanted result, Trust. I'm 25 going on 26, from 5 years old to 18 I was in Social Services Custody and Now my family Feel like strangers to me. But yeah, Dealing with that kinda thing constantly eventually will get to you and emotional abuse goes far. Do Try talking to teachers or School Counselors cause it can turn to something serious but consider what will can happen next.
If he treats you bad your mom should get ridd of this man, I wouldn't want an evil woman around my kids for sure. Family comes first, if He's your stepdad then I'm sure things can be worked out but you really need to talk to School Counselors or someone who can help you out with this.
2007-06-21 10:54:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, well they say there's 3 sides to ever story; yours, his, and the truth. But since he's not writing and you are, I would start to keep a secret journal and write down every time he starts yelling at you and what it was about and note the time too. After about tree weeks of your first entry I would go back and read all that's happened. By looking at it then, you have a fresh, new perspective on the situation. You'll begin to notice what makes him angry. But read it late at night when he's sleeping or when he's not home because you don't want homeboy to find it. In the mean time, stay away from him as much as possible. It also could be that he resents you because your mom had you with another guy(your dad). People are funny like that.
2007-06-21 11:12:07 · answer #3 · answered by buffaloblkguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are asking this question tells me the answer...YES!!! it is obviously upsetting you and hurts your feelings..therefore, it is emotional abuse. What should you do?? you should tell him that you are a person and you demand respect and that you will not be spoken to in an abusive way. sound stupid??? too bad..people like him need to hear the blunt truth. If it helps you could talk to a group also. Know that you are not alone and there are people out there who can help you with how you're feeling. your step dad sounds like he has some anger management problems.
2007-06-21 10:58:28 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You betcha I do!! No parent or step parent has the right to do this. I have a step daughter and sometimes we fight too but I have never never put her down, thrown anything at her or anywhere else. When she does something wrong and she needs discipline I tell her why and for how long and we discuss the dangers or the reason why I felt she was wrong. If I was wrong I will admit it and apologize. If this continues please tell an adult you trust because you don't deserve this treatment, no one does at any age.
2007-06-21 10:51:02 · answer #5 · answered by s_and_j_hatch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't the worst case of emotional abuse I've ever heard, but I think it definitely qualifies. Talk to a teacher or school counselor or dean, or your priest, or call your local Child Protective Services yourself. Tell them what you told us and ask for help.
His lack of control is disturbing, and a sign that worse things are ahead - get some help now before the situation gets out of control.
2007-06-21 10:44:51 · answer #6 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would give him a taste of his own medicine.
But that's just me. Just becaouse he married your mom doesn't make him a good man. Talk to you mother in a way that makes her undestand that she is a wonderful mother
( you may hurt her feelings ) but you must learn to speack your mind.
2007-06-21 10:58:16 · answer #7 · answered by castillo5247 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Mental and emotional abuse*... This is not healthy for you to be subjected to, and very damaging*... Get help ASAP*....
2007-06-21 10:56:20 · answer #8 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely emotional abuse. tell someone you trust. whats wrong with your mom to let him treat you like that.
2007-06-21 10:58:59 · answer #9 · answered by ducky doo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋