muslim men only?

Question

what is the story behind how you found your current wife and or decided she was the right one.

Answer 1

Do not go about in the land exulting overmuch. (31:18)

Lower your gaze from whatever is inappropriate to faith, and remember Allah frequently. There is a tradition which says that those places where, and in connection with which, Allah is mentioned will testify to that before Allah on the Day of Judgement and will ask forgiveness for those people so that Allah will let them enter the Garden.

Do not speak excessively with people along the way, for that is bad manners. Most of the roads are the traps and markets of Satan, so do not feel safe from his tricks. Make your coming and your going in obedience to Allah, striving for His pleasure, for all your movements will be recorded in your book, as Allah said,

On the day when their tongues and their hands and their feet shall bear witness against them regarding what they did, (24:24)

and

We have made every man's actions to cling to his neck. (17:13)

Answer 2

You must set a certain criteria for your wife before you meet someone in line with islamic teaching and your taste such as (1)her physical appearance (2)her good track descent (3) her education and her hobbies (4)her wealth and health and the last but most important (5)her quality of her faith to Allah the only one God.After you set these criteria you must search her and try for making approach if you have see her.for knowing her indepth.After I become a friendship relation with her im my own experience in six months and I thought that she will be fit as my wife I married her up to now for more than 20 years.

Answer 3

I am A woman married to a Muslim man. Our meeting isn't what you would consider a "typical Muslim meeting".

We worked together and ended up talking alot, we had lots in common and had stimulating conversations. We both fell in Love and decided we would get married. I converted and That's that!

In todays day and age I believe it is OK to have Platonic conversations with people of the opposite Sex. We aren't animals, I think we can control ourselves for just a second to sit down and speak with someone and it not be a big deal. I do believe that both men and women should be conservative in their appearance and in the way they speak but that in no way means that they shouldn't speak with one another.
If you are going out and chatting then that is not a big deal at all...
Best thing to do is to find a woman who is Honest and will speak freely with you. Good Conversation is the key to a Good Marriage!

Answer 4

Hi
I found this article on islamic voice as I was reading about Marriage in Islam.

"The Prophet gives us clear guidance on what to look for when we select our life partners. He says: ”women may be sought in marriage for one of four considerations: her wealth, beauty, social status or her strong faith. Choose the one with faith so that you may prosper.” This is then the proper procedure. It is to make sure that the woman one selects to be the future mother of his children should be one of faith who will encourage him in obeying Allah’s commandments and keeping on the right path which earns him Allah’s pleasure and who will impart to; her children the meaning of fearing Allah and being always conscious of His presence. If you look at the four elements mentioned by the Prophet, you will find that they combine all motives, which a man may have to get married. He may give priority, when selecting his marriage partner, to wealth or beauty. Alternatively, he may seek a high position or distinguished social status. If his aim is one of these, he will look for either a pretty or a rich woman or he may seek to marry into a wealthy family or one of good name. Which ever the factor he gives greater weight to, we should not overlook the fact that they all relate to this world and its priorities and considerations.

According to Islam, there is nothing called as love marriage. There is a passion called love and a contractual relationship, which is marriage. That relationship comes into existence when a man and a woman who agree to be married in the presence of the woman’s guardian and a minimum of two witness. When these conditions are met, they bring about a relationship, which is legitimate, useful and presumed to be permanent. No other relationship between a man and a woman who is not related to him is admissible from the Islamic point of view."

lg *Sternchen*

Answer 5

I'm pretty sure the question was directed at Muslim men only. Many of the people who answered are alraedy disqualified. Obviously the asker wouldn't mind if someone who was not necessarily a Muslim man gave valuable insight, but if you have nothing nice to say, then don't say it!
Instantaneously the question is filled with racists..why??

To RoxyChick<3:

You damn ignorant racist.

Answer 6

Oh my! You are getting horrible answers!!!!!!!!! I will star this and inshallah some guy on my list will see it and answer.....

my husband and I met on a matrimonial site but from what I understand there are more men on there than women

you could also advertise in al Jumuah magazine...they usually have a page for it....
just NETWORK NETWORK NETWORK --I know it can be hard for converts but ppl find ppl all the time! You just need to work for it.

Answer 7

I know I'm a lady, but I would like to let you know how Muslim men find Muslim women-The right way.

If you see a girl you like (Pretty) at a wedding, you tell your parents to talk to the girls' parents. If she's mature enough and understands marriage correctly, she'll sit with the man and talk about their future (if it WERE to happen). If everything is fine and dandy, the girls family talks about it and they give their answer, yes or no. It's all about naseeb.

I hope that helped you out enough even though it was a man question. Inshallah you find the right girl.

Answer 8

We met and started haning out with friends, eventually falling in love.

But you should note we were both weak christians at the time, now I'm atheist and he's a fundie. Not what you were looking for but i couldn't resist answering a question that was for "muslim men only"

Answer 9

Well usually the families ask other families but I don't like it as much

What I do is go out and check out places like searching for the right one who is muslim or who would convert...

I went to Dubai and their are a lot of nice girls there Green Eyed Brunettes

Answer 10

The same way everyone else did.

Islam doesn't dictate women to be slaves to man, it is what some people want you to think, because the resulting turmoil and alienation gains them power over this world.