2007-06-21 10:00:46 · 8 answers · asked by Still*Perfect 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
In class they do tell you not to get attached but I find that impossible. I realise and understand that these kids could leave tomorrow or a month from now. I'm an emergency care home and this is my first set of fosters.
2007-06-21 10:31:37 · update #1
Well I was in foster care for yrs. when I was young and I can tell you that most ppl who take in kids are trained and have been prepared to some extent to not get attached. In a sense they are told to become a little "detached". Not saying they are told to exclude the child just to always realize that the child isn't yours and could be able to leave at any moment. Believe me it got hard knowing that I could never become attached the the ppl. I cannot imagine how it was for them. But honestly there is no real way to "not" become attahced I pray that anyone who takes in kids doesn't have that "DETACHED" outlook.
2007-06-21 10:08:58 · answer #1 · answered by lashae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you can not have some attachment ,you would have to be able to have some kind of feelings to be able to give these children already taken from family and having a hard life to get these comfortable.
Sometimes foster parents go to far and try and replace the parents , these are not all foster parents, what you are suppose to be doing is providing a loving caring home while the parents either straight thier act out or fix whatever the problem is.
I can honestly tell you I could never keep a child and not be some what attached to it. My hat off to the wonderful foster parents out there.
Good luck And best wishes
2007-06-21 18:17:59 · answer #2 · answered by diane33michigan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, thank you for being a foster parent. I am an adoptive mother and my daughter was in a foster family for the first 9 months of her life (international adoption.) Loving my daughter as I do, I can't imagine the pain of the woman who nurtured and loved her for 9 months and then had to see her leave and go half way across the world. I think about my daughter's foster mother a lot and feel such gratefulness that words cannot even express. So, I can't tell you how to deal with it - you'd have to be stronger than I am. Thank you for doing such a hard job. I truly honor you.
2007-06-21 22:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by Erin L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's impossible not to get attached and love the children you are caring for. I think you couldn't be a human being if you didn't become a little attached. But you should learn to accept why the children are leaving your care. They are going to be with a family, that's why you care for the children.
2007-06-21 17:21:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many other foster parents also have this problem.
For the time being, care for the children with the most love that you can give them, as they may have been in an unstable situtation in their previous home.
If you are serious about not wanting to lose these children and keeping the relationship, you could look into adopting.
2007-06-21 18:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by Lydiann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's possible.
Personally...I think it's the emotional attachement they need more than anything...
Anyone can give them a roof over their head....it takes someone with a big heart to open up the hearts and homes to these children...
Attachment is just part of the job.
2007-06-21 17:07:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
For me, it was not possible. I got attached to the eleven children we fostered over the years. We adopted three of them! Our son and our 7 year old twin girls. ( Our other 3 girls are "homemade.")
2007-06-21 20:49:17 · answer #7 · answered by Dawn G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh gosh...that must be hard, but i wouldnt know.
2007-06-21 17:04:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋