OK, here's the facts. Have been invited for noon wedding with a reception at 6 p.m. to follow. We found out through the grape vine what was being served for dinner. Dinner is to be a 'Sub' style dinner with a cash bar. 'Sub' as in those big 3-4 ' long submarines along with a veggie only for those who require the meatless accomodation. The invitations requested a $ value to help the couple out. HELP...
2007-06-21 09:49:14 · 17 answers · asked by m_jennifer1111 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My guess is they are probably really young and don't have mommy and daddy to pay for everything. If they are close to you, then you should go. If you don't feel that you should have to pay for anything, then don't go! It is as simple as that. Every family is different and sometimes when you don't have any money, it isn't possible to be proper.
2007-06-21 10:00:24 · answer #1 · answered by Holy Macaroni! 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There are so many things wrong with what you've described; I don't know where to start!
!st, you never have the wedding ceremony and reception that far apart!
2nd, even though this is not what you would normally serve at an evening reception, the sub thing is their choice. Hopefully there will be more on the buffet than just sandwiches!
3rd, a cash bar is totally tacky in any situation where you have invited guests!
4th, are you telling me that these people actually are charging people to get into the reception and pay for their own food?!!
What are people like this doing having a wedding and reception? Listen, everyone, it is fine to have small ceremonies, small receptions with cake & punch only if that is all you can afford!!! But do not plan something out of your price range and then expect "guests" to pick up the tab for you!
If I were you I would go to the ceremony and then either not go to the reception, or go and not give them a dime; this is not fair to you, the guest!
2007-06-21 12:02:05 · answer #2 · answered by valschmal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand the case bar as far as mixed drinks, but they should at least provide some choices of beer and wine. To ask for money at all on an invitation is rude, but even ruder to ask for money to pay for the wedding, that is ridiculous and very tacky. It is also in my opinion, very stupid to have a wedding at noon and not have the reception until 6. I would suggest you attend the wedding and buy a simple gift and skip the reception.
2007-06-21 10:57:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good heavens.!!! How crass!!!
If you wanted to go to Subway....you would and NOT have to bring a gift!
Invitations requesting money???? Are you sure that you received a wedding invitation???? I think the invitation sounds more like a County Fair flyer.
If I was you, I would send the RSVP with regrets. If I'm paying for my own dinner and drinks it better be at the Outback at least!
Do not give money those inconsiderate, tacky, crass couple. If they want "help" there are food stamps and welfare, but a wedding should not be an excuse to beg for money and put peopel on the spot. awful!
Good luck
2007-06-21 09:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I wouldn't bring any money for them or I would bring two or three dollars. For one thing that was so rude to actually tell you to bring money to pay for your dinner.
The other thing is that they aren't out much from what I can tell if all they are serving is a Subway party sub and a cash bar. Don't get me wrong, I'm not in it for the free meal but I just feel strongly you shouldn't throw a party you cant afford. If I'm paying for my dinner you might as well just tell me that and I'll bring something I want/can eat with me. I don't have my parents paying for my wedding, we are paying for it ourselves. If we can't afford it we won't have it. I am certainly not going to demand that my guests provide it for me like that.
2007-06-21 10:30:53 · answer #5 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, at least they're thinking of the vegetarians.
I would be happy to help the couple out economically by saving them the price of my part of the subs.
Just because you've been invited doesn't mean you have to say yes or send a gift. Make your choice and answer the invitation accordingly.
2007-06-21 10:01:14 · answer #6 · answered by gileswench 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OK, if you like the people then go, but don't take a gift. You have to pay for your own meal and drinks (how tacky). That's like having the guests bring the party. Eww.
2007-06-21 09:56:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't go. How rude of them. I'm sorry. A cash bar and an invite requesting cash gifts. Send them a card telling them that you were sorry you couldn't come along with a handmade/craft gift that they can't return.
2007-06-21 09:53:55 · answer #8 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would go to the ceremony, but not the reception.
To expect you to be there at lunch time, and then again at dinner time, but only give you one (questionable) meal is pretty inconsiderate.
2007-06-21 09:55:51 · answer #9 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just because the invitation asks for money, doesn't mean you have to give it...... ;-) ;-) And yes, I agree that the whole thing is quite tacky.
2007-06-21 12:01:42 · answer #10 · answered by Mary S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋