My boyfriend watches porn and masturbates everyday, is that normal?

Question

Everyday!! he looks at porn like it's a habit. I think it has become his addiction. But I'm still not sure. I mean it might be normal if the guy doesn't have a gf right? But I am his girlfriend and he can do me instead of masturbating, why still do it?

Also my sex drive is not as high as his. I have noticed that and I told him earlier in the relationship that maybe this relationship is all about sex (we had sex since the first day of relationship!). So I guess that's why he doesn't want to bother do me everyday. But after I found out about porn and stuff. I told him he can do me whenever he wants. But he still looks at porn and jacks off everyday!!!

Is this normal? Should I fix it? How often is healthy for a guy to masturbate per week?

Our sex life is awesome. We always come together. But maybe I'm just not enough for him still? He loves to look at big boobs girls on the internet. I have small boobs.

Does it have anything to do with love? We've been together for about 6 months.

He told me he'd try to stop since the first time I confronted him about this. He used to cyber sex, and sexually flirted with girls online, but has stopped for me (or still doing it but I don't know). Now he said it's hard to stop watching porn everyday, and ask me to give him time. Why is it so hard for him? What should he do?

He's a good boyfriend but this really bothers me in a sad way that I'm not sexy or good enough for him.

Sorry I ask so many questions

I have a connection with my boyfriend. We both are really good together and spend a lot of time together watching movies, eating out, and talking just about everything. We're very close. He takes care of me and I take care of him. I can say he's the best boyfriend I ever had (out of 3).

But porn just bothers me so much sometimes

Answer 1

No, it is not normal. Healthwise, it is not hurting anything, but that is pretty excessive, and the porn addiction thing is a real possibility. Should you fix it? Well, how does it make YOU feel? If you really don't mind, and he is not ditching you for the porn, then you probably don't have a problem. So here are two suggestions.

1. If you don't mind, then fine, but if it really bugs you, tell him to stop. If he really loves you, he'll respect your wishes. If he doesn't, then that says a lot about him. I'd consider moving on and finding a better guy.

2. If you decide to let it go, or even if you don't, keep an eye on him. If he becomes addicted to the stuff, it will likely mean he will eventually lose interest in you sexually. If your sex life stays healthy and he still treats you with love and respect, then I guess it isn't a problem. If it does, then dump him.

Truth is that some relationship experts say porn doesn't hurt anything if it does not become an addiction, and some experts say it is bad, period. It is debatable. Personally, I think the whole thing is immoral, but that is a matter of opinion. So I tried not to factor that into this equation. Look into your heart and decide what this means to YOU. If you have a problem with it, then you have a right to make him stop. He should respect your feelings. If he won't, then he may not be the man for you. If you really don't mind, though, then good for him. Just make sure he still provides for you physically and emotionally, and you are all set. Good luck!

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Answer 3

Now this is great, this is a perfect time to show your bad side to him if you know what I mean. If you really don't mind the sex everyday and yet he seems to just keep watching porn and jack off well why don't you try something new to him. Suprise him a little bit. Guys LOVE that! It's the best way to spice up a relationship when one is tired of the same old routine sex. You could try some dirty outfit to show him on an unexpected time. Hey you could even be sitting at a public place with him and you could give him either some fore play or some very sunsual sex with him. Or try using some bondage stuff and you could let him dominate you or you can do all the dirty beatings*WINK* What I'm saying is always try something new and he brings the attention right to you and not the porn. Trust me He'll Love it!

Answer 4

Yours and this guys relationship sounds very physical. Maybe you guys should lay off the physical stuff for awhile and start hanging out with each other instead of hopping in bed every or every other day. My guy and I are only physical about twice a week and we get along great. Also, your guy really should lay off the porn and masturbating EVERY single day. I mean, me and my guy watch porn, but it is only every other month or every other two weeks! He needs to realize what is important in yals relationship which really needs to be more social and emotional rather than so much physical activity. I don't know about you, but I would not like for my guy to look at big boobs on the internet just because mine aren't big enough, if that is the reason. My advice to you is that if he can't lay off the porn and masturbating and spend more time with you, he doesn't deserve you, although you may love him. Ask yourself these questions: Does he actually LOVE you? How are yals relationship emotionally and socially rather than physically? Is he good to you(emotionally)? Yal should do more stuff together like go out to eat, or go see a movie, or invite friends over and have a party. And right after the movie or dinner, don't go home and hop into bed instantly. Take a night and just lay down with each other and hold each other. Look into each others eyes. Tell each other your innermost thoughts. Another great thing to do is to TALK about your relationship. Tell each other how you feel about what the other person does(hint hint: masturbating and porn). You ARE part of the relationship, too and you have the right to say anything about how you feel about anything he does, just like he has the right to tell you any problems he is having with you ( if any).

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My boyfriend watches porn and masturbates everyday, is that normal?
Everyday!! he looks at porn like it's a habit. I think it has become his addiction. But I'm still not sure. I mean it might be normal if the guy doesn't have a gf right? But I am his girlfriend and he can do me instead of masturbating, why still do it?

Also my sex drive is not as...

Answer 7

It's an addiction, a problem. It has nothing to do with you or love. I'm sure he was doing it before you came along. He has a problem and really needs to seek some counseling if he wants help. It's not normal for him to look at it everyday! He maybe a sex addict. Do some research and go from there. You won't be able to do anything; he had to want to stop or change. It's not you, it's his problem.

Answer 8

This guy, has pleasured himself and looked at porn so much that a real woman doesn't turn him on. Not your fault. But there is more to life then sex and porn.

Answer 9

omg..i am in the same boat... i dont know how to deal with it. it makes me pretty upset when i think about it. the only thing that gets me through this is sex with him. when the sex stops i think that is when i or u should be concerned. i guess our bfs are why porn is so readily available and easy to find.

Answer 10

I have been married for 12 yrs. My hubby looks at porn...alot. We have a great sex life.

Looking at porn is probably a big turn on for him, so he does it alot. Everybody is turned on by different things. It doesn't mean he doesn't think your attractive by looking at big boobs, again, it's just a turn on. We all get our jollies one way or another.

I don't see anything wrong with it. I'd rather have my man looking at porn and masturbating, than finding a chick to get him off.