Strip clubs for bachelor parties?

Question

For the women: Did your fiance go to a strip club for his bachelor party? If yes, how did you feel about it?

For the men: Did you go to a strip club for your bachelor party or for a friends bachelor party? If yes what goes on there?

Answer 1

This is my experience from a friends bachelor party. From what I can tell you, DON'T LET A MAN GO TO THESE THINGS. My friend received lap dances galore. One of the girls gave him her panties as a gift and most of the girls got really hard core with him. He was telling me how he was close enough to smell their private areas. I did not appreciate the events that happened, but this is the stuff that actually happens at these events.

There is no way that he can truly appreciate his wife after an even like this.

Answer 2

Being as my husband is a stripper for a wellknown strip company, it is better for a bach. to go to a strip club than for him to order a stripper. At a club the men can not touch and have to stay an arms length away from the girls. If he orders a personal dance then the dancer will touch him and he still can not touch her. Nothing to worry about. If he orders a dancer from a company to do a party. It is usually a two girl party. Touching is still not allowed unless the ladies allow it. They also do a fantasy show, which is exactly that two girls, "toys", together. If you have doubts about what goes on at a strip club you can go either by yourself or with your man most places do not charge for a couple. Check it out and then decide. I personally would rather my husband knowing what I know about the industry to go to a club than order a private party.

Answer 3

My fiance and I had a hard time with this. He is not a "strip club guy", but it seems that friends always think it is a good idea to go there for a bachelor party. Mostly, he did not want to look "whipped" in front of his friends so to speak.

However, we had a few long conversations about it, and I explained to him that I didn't think it was appropriate to have a woman shaking her stuff in his face or grinding on his lap. I asked him to reverse the situation and he didn't like the idea much either. Since he wasn't really into going, he agreed not to go. I think he had a much better time just doing other guy things with his friends. They played poker, and then went to a local bar to play pool.

Some women may be ok with strip clubs and that is fine. It is my personal opinion that they are not ok. I think you have to go with your gut. If you are feeling uneasy about the situation, then you need to explain it to your fiance. He needs to respect your feelings; whatever they may be.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

No, he didn't, because he knew a long time before we got married that I'm all the woman he needs. He never wanted to go, and had to tell his best man (his brother) that he was not interested in a bachelor party. The two of them did go out for a round of drinks the night before, though.

I would have been okay with him going to a strip club...Having a stripper at a private location would have been a different story, though.

Answer 5

I wouldn't take it personally, millions of guys go out to strip clubs for their bachelor parties. It's their last night of being a "free man" and become loving, wonderful husbands! If you're really that uncomfortable with it though, enough to post about it on Yahoo Answers, then I would have a serious conversation with him. Don't be obnoxious or irrational in your thinking. Meet in the middle somehow.

Answer 6

My husband did go to a strip club for part of his bachelor weekend! I didn't really mind. I figured since my brother, my brother in law and my husband's best friend (who's wife is my best friend) were going with him, why worry! He would be absolutely insane to do anything that would upset me! I knew that the three mentioned above would kick his a** if he did something bad!
Now if he refused to let my family go with them, we would have had a problem, because it would have seemed like he was hiding something!
But in all honesty. I really don't care if he goes to them! He only goes for bachelor parties and things like that, so as long as he doesn't touch, then whatever! I'm SO NOT THE JEALOUS type!
Also, as for me, no we didn't go to one! I don't get into that at all. Any male stripper I've ever seen or met seemed gay to me. So why would I want to see that! I much rathered go out with my friends and have a good time with my girl friends! And we had enough fun without seeing anyone strip!
As far as I am concerned, whatever you want to do, do it! As long as you have enough self control to not compromise your upcoming marraige!
Good luck and congrats!

Answer 7

My husband did NOT go to the strip club for his bachelor party. In my honest opinion and my sister being a dancer... that is not the GREATEST idea for a bachelor party... what is wrong with a trip to Hooters to say the least. It may not be the greatest but the bride to be may appreciate it better.

Answer 8

1st husband had 2 strippers come to the party and from what i heard it wasn't pretty - hot wax and then the 2 of them (the strippers) going at it in front of the party. Yeah, that marriage ended.
2nd marriage - no way! I actually forbid it and then told him if there were strippers anywhere near him and i found out about it even 20 years later i would divorce him on the spot.
Its disrespectful and gross - i dont want to be with a man who needs to get attention from someone who just wants their money. If he wants that, I'll strip at home and he can pay me.

Answer 9

I'm a stripper so I cant tell you what goes on. The club I work at does not serve alcohol. I think most clubs don't serve because of permits or city ordinances or something like that. Sober guys are better behaved. The guys or sometimes girls are not allowed to touch us. We have big scary looking bouncers to make sure of that. I'm in it for the money just like most dancers. I'm not looking for a boyfriend or sex.

Answer 10

What usually goes on at strip clubs are nothing more than sexy dancing for cash. If dancers really chose to have sex with the customers, they would be fired and possibly charged criminally, because such activity tarnishes the reputation of the business and is considered criminal prostitution (even in Las Vegas!). A dancer who steps over that line takes a huge chance. Pushy customers are escorted out by big burly bouncers.

Different places have different rules of what goes on in the establishment. In the county where I live, absolutely ZERO contact is allowed between dancer and client, except hand-to-hand to give or collect a tip. In the next county north, the dancers are allowed to touch the clients, but not vice versa, and the dancers work under specific guidelines and call the bouncers if the clients continue to cross the lines after being told to stop. In very rare cases, mutual touching is allowed, but it is always kept under watchful eye, and the dancers are very well trained as to when to establish limits.

A great number of the dancers who work at such places are there because of financial struggles and are usually students or moms with husbands and/or kids. To them, all clients are the same and they won't be interested in pushing things with a customer. And there certainly won't be ANY activity that goes on that subjects the customers to the dangers of STDs...could you imagine the lawsuits resulting?

I would honestly not worry about it, because whatever you're conjuring up in your mind in your worst nightmares is nothing compared to the rather drab reality of what really goes on in strip bars.

If you're really concerned, consider paying a visit to one yourself...dancers are actually quite partial to female clientele and love to play to them, and would be happy to talk with you in between gigs, as would the bar owner. You might be reassured hearing their stories from the lips of the people who actually do it.