What can I do to stop this? It isn't fair.?

Question

Lately I don't know what has been going on with my boyfriend. He will be so clingy one week and then the next week comes around and I won't hear from him. He is sending me mixed signals that I don't know how to interpret. I am afraid to talk to him in fear he will reject me, yet waiting for him to come to me isn't working either. Why is he acting this way. And what should I do? :(

Answer 1

Oh to be 13 again. Good hell. Just be honest. Maybe you will get hurt, but do you really think this will be the last guy you date?

I would just say to him I really like you. But im not the type of person that wants to play on the rollercoaster all day. I love your highs but I hate your lows. Can you be a little more consistent. Because Im tired of trying to figure out if Im going toward the top of your peak or going toward the bottom. All I ask is if you be a little more consistent. If you cant thats fine. When you figure it out give me a call otherwise I need something different.

Nuf Said.

Answer 2

Honey, this is not a good sign. This guy seems to be feeling a little guilty perhaps? Ok. Now, you must front him and ask him why he is behaving this way. Ask him if it's something you are doing wrong or if he is seeing someone else. It might hurt when you get the answer, but at least you'll know where you stand.
There are two kinds of liars. Those who tell you bare faced lies which are usually quickly disproved and those who lie by omission. It sounds to me like your guy could be in the latter. I really hope it's not that serious, but for your own peace of mind, face him and tell him you're worried.

Answer 3

It sounds like your stressing.
If you aren't happy you need to leave the relationship, it's as simple as that.
If he rejects you when you try to communicate with you, you deserve better anyway.
I know an impending end of a relationship sounds horrible, but within a month you will be much happier without the added stress.

Answer 4

Well, if you can't talk to him then give it up, communication is the backbone of ANY relationship. Not subtle hints or "signals". Mind reading is not a very dependable human trait. The only way to find out for sure is to talk to him.

Answer 5

Men are the weirdest creatures on the planet, you never know. I think you should just confront him. Tell him directly and honestly what he is doing and ask him why, then you'll get a direct answer. Like I said, men are so strange (and wonderful), you just need to set them straight.

Answer 6

dont ask him anything just TELL him how things are. that you feel he is acting wierd and that u dont like it and need him to act right or tell u whats going on. good luck. oh and if he rejects u thats a signal that u need a new man.

Answer 7

because he is an idiot, a true loyal bf wouldnt act like this, HELLO,. RED F:LAG. if you want to wait the rest of life with this guy, the by all means , go ahead, but first think of that your worth, are you worthy of a guy who is respectful of your feelings, is he worth the waiting, find someone who actual wants to be with you, not a retard like him, unless you two are just stubborn and are both waiting?

Answer 8

Tell him that you need to go in another direction. Give him back any stuff that he may have left at your place. Break it off. get caller ID on your phone, don't answer his calls.

Give yourself a couple months off, look for somebody else.

Answer 9

talk to him and telling him how you feel. If he continues on acting the way he is cut him loose. Better to save your heart than to loose your mind.

Answer 10

Are you nuts? He's treating you like dirt and you're worried about him rejecting you??? Tell him to straighten up or he can hit the door!