cocnerning forgiveness?

Question

someone told me to ask God to help you forgive but to be hoenst i'm scared, i'm scared that if He does make me a forgiving person it will make me weak and people will walk all over me... honestly i dont know what to do...whenever i think about it i push it away from my head cause really i dont want to be weak or a mat that peoplec an walk all over you know??

i posted a question before this one, can you answer it cause i dont know if that was forgiveness or not

Answer 1

Forgiveness is not a weakness.. its a strength.

It prevents negativity and hate, and revenge from taking over your heart.

Its the way to go.

Which is not to say that you invite people to do you wrong. Learn from it, forgive, and move on.

Answer 2

Forgiveness does not mean that you can't be appropriately assertive or stand up for your rights. We have all been in a position in which others have taken advantage or treated us unfairly. Sometimes it is easy to forgive. We can see how we could have done the same thing or we can see how many factors may have negatively contributed to the problem.

Other times, it is not so easy to find an excuse or rationale for another, and it is hard to forgive when your feeling in a rage. There is a time and place for those feelings and they should be acknowledged in some way. But at some point, forgiveness is necessary for your own health. Forgiveness means that you are able to no longer be emotionally preoccupied with that person, that transgression, disappointment, rage, etc. That does not mean that you don't learn from the experience and hopefully make some adjustment to minimize that happening again, but it is important to move on at some point and open yourself to the possibilities ocurring in the "hear and now" and not be stuck in the past.

Answer 3

You are afraid of being weak but look what it says about those who are weak in the bible. weak is only a social term for those who are forgiving or seem like a doormat on the outside to others etc... but if you forgive someone for persecuting you or treating you unjustly, you come out the better person for having done it, no matter what other people think about you. At a certain point you have to give up caring what they think of you, those who do not know the ways of Christ. You have to look at yourself and say you know what? I'm going to start living more Christ-like and that means not caring what the world has to say, but walking with him. It's not the most popular walk in the world either. It is scarey and you have every right to be, but you will be blessed also for having done it.

Answer 4

Being a forgivefull person does not make you a weak person at all. The bible says that in order to be forgiven from your own sins you have to learn to forgive, if you dont then God doesnt forgive your wrongs. Being forgivefull makes you humble and God dont allow people to take advantage of you plus it earns wisdom, I learned to forgive but at first that was out of the question until God broke it down to me, then one day I just did it, it did not make me weak at all, and when things seem to look like people are walking over me I just laugh at what they say and let God deal with them cause God knows your heart and will put you above your enemies head. You are special to Christ, so just forgive and let God do the rest

Answer 5

Not forgiving someone is just a bitterness that eats away at YOU, not the other person. Asking God to help you is a very good start. No, it doesn't mean you're letting people walk all over you. It's the healthiest thing you can do sometimes, to just let it go and not dwell on it. I know if you pray about it, God will hear you and answer your prayer. Have no doubt!

Answer 6

It actually takes a lot of strength to forgive. Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting or letting someone off the hook... it means that you release the knots of hurt, anger, frustration, betrayal, etc., so that the person and the situation don't control you. You can be assertive and stand your ground and still be a forgiving person. You can still hold a person accountible for their actions while forgiving them.

Answer 7

Having a forgiving spirit doesn't mean you're a push-over and door mat! It just means that when someone hurts your feelings or offends you, you are the 'bigger' person by smiling and walking away instead of thinking of ways you can get even.

It will help you sleep at night! Forgiveness = peace!!

Answer 8

Whenever we miss the mark by disobeying one of God's commands, we sin against Him. Whenever we wrong another person, we not only sin against them, but also against God. When we take a look at the enormity of God's mercy to forgive us of ALL of our transgressions, we realize that we do not have the right to withhold this grace from others. We have sinned against God infinitely more than any person can sin against us. If God forgives us of so much, how can we refuse to forgive others for so little? Jesus’ parable in Matthew 18:23-35 is a powerful illustration of this truth. God promises that when we come to Him asking for forgiveness, He freely grants it (1 John 1:9). The forgiveness we extend should know no bounds, in the same way that God's forgiveness is limitless (Luke 17:3-4).

Recommended Resource: The Freedom and Power of Forgiveness by John MacArthur.

Answer 9

It is the strongest thing you can do to forgive someone [-:
Don't be afraid, The One True God is a God of truth and only ask us to do what is good and honest. It is the enemy who brings fear. Remain honest and people will not walk on you because it's lies that let people walk on you. If you are honest and truthful than you are in right standing with God and the others are in the wrong....God will repay them and elevate you.

Answer 10

Forgiveness does not make you weak. In fact, it strengthens you. Holding on to unforgiveness is weak. It's like walking away from a fight. It takes more of a man to do this. Being a follower of Jesus takes a lot of courage but you will find that power comes into your life and your confidence will override any weakness you may think you have!