This guy that's been my friend for a while wants to be buddies with benefits. The thing I used to have feelings for him but I don't anymore. I always have wanted to kiss him and all that other stuff...so I am down to do it. I'm just scared I'm going to get back some feelings for him..what do I do? Oh to you guys umm if you want a girl to be your buddy with benefits is it possible you might like her?
2007-06-21 08:55:59 · 10 answers · asked by Jelly2007 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, if he wants to mess around he likes you. Unless he is a heartless douche bag. If you don't want to have those feelings for him, just say no.
2007-06-21 09:00:25 · answer #1 · answered by Double L Loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he wants to be buddies with benefits, then it's obvious that he likes you in some form (either likes you physically, or for who you are). I would think he might like you more for who you are because you've been friends for a while. But I think you should have an idea of whether or not he likes you for you by now. If you don't have feelings for him, then don't feel pressured to do anything with him. If you start getting back feelings for him that you didn't want, then simply spend less time with him. Go with what feels good for you.
And yeah, if I wanted to be "friends with benefits" with a girl, I'd like her. Just make sure he likes you for you, and that he isn't using you.
2007-06-21 16:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buddies with benefits. He's using you sweety. He wants sex without being in a relationship. That's not good at all. No, he doesn't have any feelings for you if he's treating you like this.
Sex is a powerful thing. It has the power to give life(baby). It has the power to take it away(AIDS). If you're not willing to sacrifice yourself alone for a teenage boy to one of these then don't do it.
There are no shortage of teenage moms around the world who regret what they did. I bet every single one of them thought, "I know how not to get pregnant."
Please don't be that foolish making the same mistake.
2007-06-21 16:01:04 · answer #3 · answered by Michael M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys who have a friends with benefits have some sort of feelings for them. Whether those feelings will ead to a relations, marriage or whatever remains to be seen. All guys dont those situations differently
2007-06-21 16:37:32 · answer #4 · answered by PLATINUM_PLUS1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buddies with benefits means he is horny and he thinks you would be hot in bed and be discrete about it. If you don't plan on having a relationship with him ( and vise-verse) then you shouldn't do it . You will only be a stepping stone for him. Someone to do, to pass the time.
2007-06-21 16:04:05 · answer #5 · answered by Johnny Elbows 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people are not androids... when you sleep witrh someone there is a good chance you will develop more than just a casual attraction. I believe women are more prone to developing attraction to someone after sex.... there were a few Seinfeld episodes that made this amusingly clear.
he may really like you or not but you need to protect yourself. Serial monogamy is really the most workable approach so watch yourself.
2007-06-21 16:06:16 · answer #6 · answered by mrrosema 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, most guys can find a way to fall in love. It is really friendship that holds a relationship together, and you would be a great friend for doing this. It sounds like might be able to fall for him as well, and that would work out nicely.
2007-06-21 15:58:47 · answer #7 · answered by Steve C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you just want to settle for that... fine. But when you're spendin' time with b with b, you might be missin' out when m. o. y. d. comes saunterin' by!!
2007-06-21 16:00:58 · answer #8 · answered by bubblelator 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u very well could get those feelings back. and after u sleep with him it will be harder to get rid of. but if u want to go for it.
2007-06-21 15:59:40 · answer #9 · answered by becca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this kind of thing only works if both ppl are not emotionally attached
2007-06-21 15:59:39 · answer #10 · answered by kyryliw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋