She'll be 5 on October 3, and CA's cut off date is dec. 2. I dont know if I should put her in this fall or wait another year. I have another daughter who is 4, so if I wait till next year, I'm thinking maybe they can go to school together?? Is this a good or bad thing? I don't really think she is ready socially, but I dont want her to be behind. ANY suggestions/comments?
2007-06-21 08:03:43 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
do it this year, the worst that can happen is she will have a rough few months, but most kids adapt to the routine very quickly. She may not like being in the same school year as her little sister, especaly once she gets in higher grades and is the oldest in her class.
2007-06-21 08:06:49 · answer #1 · answered by parental unit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did your school do a kindergarten screening ? Do they have any meetings about "holding kids back" or "sending them". Both of these things would give you some insight as to if your daughter is ready or not.
If you do not think your child is ready socially then why push her. She will NOT be behind by going in when she is 5 going on 6. I have 2 December birthdays that waited, and an October 1st birthday that went to school at 4.
Each of them is different and the decisions were not easy. However remember there is not WRONG choice here. Your daughter will go to school and she'll eventually be fine no matter when you send her.
Go with your gut which from your questions says you want to keep her at home another year.
2007-06-21 08:35:26 · answer #2 · answered by Ticia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would definately WAIT. I was considering putting my daughter into kindergarden (she wil be 5 Nov. 13) this coming fall.. and I have recieved a lot of advise from daycare teachers, family members, friends, and even a kindergarden teacher that I should wait.
Even if you child IS ready to start school this year, in a couple years (3rd or 4th grade) they have a much greater chance of falling behind. I have been told that it is better to wait till they are older so they will be at the same maturity level as the rest of their class.
Also... does the school you are sending your children to have seperate classes with the same grade level (so the two girls are not treated like twins- when 1 is actually older)? Because I could see that as a future hardship for the older one if other kids find out that they are different ages and in the same grade (maybe lead to teasing.. and being looked at as "slower") . I really don't know what to do for that situation, besides wish you luck! and hope that will not be an issue for you/them.
2007-06-21 08:23:58 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. K. M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I live in CA too and our cut off date is Oct 1st, I think it depends on the school district. If you truly dont think she is ready then yes wait. Or you could try letting her go and see how she does. If she does poorly then you can always take her out and try again the next year. The thing is, I didnt think my daughter was ready for kindergarten but her teachers always had wonderful things to say about her and she did great. i dont think we really know what our children are capable of until they are in the situation.
2007-06-21 08:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you say that your daughter isn't ready socially, does that mean she's shy? or timid? because if she is, you have to send her to kindergarten this year, so she will be able to develop her self confidence and her social skills. it's the right age too for kindergarten because my daughter went to nursery school when she's 3, kindergarten at 4, then went straight to 1st grade at 5, now she's 6 and in 2nd grade. i had a problem with her when she was in 1st grade because she wouldn't finish writing her notes. although, according to her teacher, she's one of the most active in her class. meaning she participates in every activity, recites in class and makes friend with everybody...except she really wouldn't finish writing her notes. maybe because she went too school a little too early and that burnt up her interest in school. but right now, everything goes smoothly with my daughter, she back right on track. so i guess, 5 years old is just enough age for kindergarten...your daughter would definitely enjoy the new environment. just tell her that she would meet there new friends and something even more wonderful, she'll learn a whole lot new things....good luck!
2007-06-25 01:43:38 · answer #5 · answered by kittykat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT!!!
School is much more demanding now than when we were kids (i.e. lots of homework) Her emotional maturity will come into play.
There is no rush. Kids don't need to be in school at 3 or 4 and 5 years old is questionable.
If I had known then what I know now, I would have kept my boy out of kindergarten another year. He was also 5.
Trust your instincts. You already said she's not ready socially. So that's that.
2007-06-21 13:33:48 · answer #6 · answered by Autumn C. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I myself have a couple of friends who are teachers and perfer that the child waits unitl age 5 on the starting date of school. This only gives them another year to mature and be more ready to sink in all the material that they are going to learn. And so what if the two of your children will be in the same grade , thats not a bad thing, at least i dont think
2007-06-23 14:22:54 · answer #7 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live in Georgia and our cut off date is Sept 1. My daughter's bday is Aug.26th. She started school in Pre-K and has kept up with her other classmates. During Kindergarten, I thought that I might hold her back due to immaturity but decided against it. During first grade she really struggled but found out she was adhd. After getting that under control, she breezed right through second and third grades. Right now she is more mature than some of her classmates that have earlier bdays. I think it all depends on the child. If you really think she is not ready, then hold her back. It won't be so devastating now than if you hold her back later in another grade. Best Wishes!
2007-06-21 12:12:15 · answer #8 · answered by sunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter will be six on September 12, and is going into first grade. Only one little girl in her class was older than five when she started kindergarten, and she really "stood out" (I don't mean that in a good way). She was too mature and too advanced for the rest of the class, and it was very obvious she should have started the year before. You don't want your daughter to be bored if you hold her back a year. Also, it's not good to have two children from the same family in the same grade.
2007-06-21 08:41:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would wait another year, if possible. My daughter turned 5 in November, and she'll be going to kindergarten this coming year. She is much more ready now than she was last year, and this is more common nowdays. Holding your daughter back will not put her that much behind others in her class.
2007-06-21 08:07:44 · answer #10 · answered by sweet pea 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See, I'm all for keeping kids who need to be out of school, well out of school. As long as they have activites that trigger their creativity and imagination, and that they encounter other children.
However, I think that 5 is a good age to put her to school, because otherwise, 1st grade will be just too traumatizing for her.
Also, try not to have the two sisters be like twins. The eldest will suffer a lot if you let them too much have the same activities and friends. They need to develop together, but on their own.
2007-06-21 08:07:52 · answer #11 · answered by yogi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋