Me and my stepfather have never got along and I find it dumb to put him on my wedding invitation if he's not even important to me. My mom wants people to know that she's married but I'm not sure if its ok to put Mr. and Mrs. (my moms name), because I think it's suppose to go Mr. and Mrs. (my stepfathers name). HELP!
2007-06-21 07:51:33 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Your mother wants him on because she wants everyone to know she is married or because he is paying for part of the wedding or because he means something to her? If it is the second to I think you should put his name on out of respect for him and your mother (especially if he is paying for any or all) If it is the first then explain to your mom that you do not feel comfortable with his name being on the invitation. Good luck!
2007-06-21 07:56:22 · answer #1 · answered by Molly SH 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where is your real father in this? And who is helping you pay for the wedding? These two questions could help determine how it should be worded.
If your father is still around, I suggest saying "Mrs. Joanne Smith and Mr. Edward Jones." If your father is not around and you most definately do not want your stepfather there, just put "Mrs. Joanne Smith." People will know she's married because of the "Mrs."
Or, skip the parents names on the invitation altogether.
2007-06-21 07:58:00 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his money is helping to pay for the event, then his name should be on the invitation. Technically, the only reason any parent's name goes on the invitation is because they're footing the bill, therefore hosting the event, therefore they are the ones sending the invitation.
If they are the hosts, then the invitations should come from them. You could just say, Mr. and Mrs. Smith, as opposed to Mr. and Mrs. Joe Smith...But if he is a part of the equation, he needs to be included.
If you are footing the bill yourselves, then just skip the parents' names entirely.
2007-06-21 08:05:57 · answer #3 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being very childish. Out of respect for you Mother, you should have them both on there. Are you really grown up enough to get married? You sound like a Bridezilla to me....."It's my wedding so everything goes my way or else!!!" Try considering other peoples feelings. Imagine how your mother would feel. Fair enough you dont get laong or like your stepfather, but why embarass your mother? Everyone she knows will see and read the invitations and wonder about it....but you know that, dont you. It is some silly way to get back at your stepfather. Be very careful my dear, petty nastiness usually has a way of coming back at you and biting you on the butt.
2007-06-21 11:10:41 · answer #4 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he your step dad (i.e. he helped raise you) or your mom's husband (i.e. you were older when they married)? This will make a difference.
If you are paying you could say
Bride Smith,
daughter of Mrs. Mom Jones
and
Groom Brown
son of Mr. & Mrs. Dad Brown
request the honor of your presence...
which will clearly list your mom as your married mom, and be less obviously offensive to your "step-father" since you did not include his since you aren't his daughter. (And what about your dad? If he has passed you could put ...and the late Mr. )
But if he helped raise you - no matter the state of your relationship - you should include him. Remember - he may be your children's "grandfather". Is the wording THAT important to you to live with a lifetime of drama? A wedding is one day - family relationships are forever. Is it really worth the drama.
And if your step-dad's money is involved (even if it is just through joint accounts with your mom), you have to include him regardless. If your mom is married and they have joint finanes and she is kicking in - then he is too.
Good Luck
2007-06-21 07:59:35 · answer #5 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your dad is around you could do Mr. John Williams & Mrs. Joan Smith. I too think the best option for you is to go the way of
Together with our parents...
2007-06-21 13:33:07 · answer #6 · answered by JM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should consider leaving all parents off the invitation in this case. You could then word the invitation something like " Amy Smith and John Doe invite you to their celebration of love at..."
2007-06-21 08:01:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can always say
"Susie Darling (You) and John Smith(Groom) along with their families invite you to celebrate in the joy of their wedding"
Otherwise, for your mom, just put Mrs. Darling and don't include your stepdad.
2007-06-21 08:00:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would either say Mrs. Joan Smith, or not mention the parents at all on the invitation, unless they are paying, then it is customary to give them their recognition.
2007-06-21 07:57:49 · answer #9 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like lilginnie's idea.
Together with their parents
Jane Doe and Joe Smith
Cordially invite you to their wedding celebration.
2007-06-21 08:50:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋