Teenagers having sex? What do you think about this? As a parent would you allow it?

Question

I ust want to hear different opinion. By this I mean 12,13,14,15,16,17 having sex.

Answer 1

i have a 12 year old and that scares me...i just keep all lines open with him... express to him that i would love him to wait but if he chooses not to..i am availabe for whatever he needs..condoms, talking whatever comes up

Answer 2

When you think about it, it is only society that has deemed sex under the age of 16 as wrong. The body becomes ready for it at puberty, which for many girls is 11 or 12. I'm not suggesting for a second girls of that age should be doing it, but nature is a powerful force.

Teenagers have such strong hormones and strong feelings, coupled with the desire to explore new experiences, and discover their bodies. We all remember what it felt like - wild crushes on classmates, teachers, etc. You have a natural curiosity setting in at this age. Teenagers are dying to know what all the fuss is about.

Of course, kids mature at different rates. Some are quite wise at 13, whereas others are still children at 18+! It all depends on the child, which is why a blanket age of 16 is a good protection for everyone. It is not going to stop the bolder teens from having a go anyway!

I think society has it all wrong. There is nothing shameful about being interested in your own body, and wanting to experiment. It's a natural progression. It's what all the hormones are telling kids to do! Society is telling them it's wrong. Put those two together and what do you have? Rebellious teens getting pregnant.

Kids need to be well educated and well informed. Don't also forget the power of peer pressure. I remember only too well the competitive nature of my teenage years. Friends of mine were having sexual experiences and I wasn't, and I was made to feel like some sort of freak because I wasn't. I felt almost desperate to do things because all my friends expected it of me. Thankfully, I didn't do anything stupid, and was 18 when I lost my virginity. But kids really can be like that.

Trying to stop kids having sex is a losing battle. Educating them is the way forward.

Answer 3

In today's age, it's not uncommon to find out that teens are having sex at younger and younger ages. It's not something that's really acceptable among the adult community, but it is one of those things that teens talk about constantly and it is something that will continue happening whether adults like it or not. As a parent, the only thing you can really do is protect your child with the knowledge of STDs, pregnancy, abstinence, marriage, and most importantly, allowing them to come to you when they have questions or the teens have a situation. If you harass them about it, that's when they'll rebel. If you're cautious about the approach, they'll give a lot easier...in most cases. I do think there should be a consentual age across the board in every state to mirror other states, and I do think it should be at least 17.

Answer 4

I think I would allow it, with ground rules: respect yourself (no sex in cars or farm fields), respect your partner (condoms always), respect your families (when you are home alone - no siblings, parents around).

I am only 28 - young enough to remember friends having sex at school, at the mall, at baseball parks, in treehouses - anywhere. I am also a former secondary English teacher - I've seen it all. Not every teen will have sex, but the ones who will,will do so regardless of what adults tell them. Texas has the highest rate of abstinence only education - they also have the highest rates of teen pregnancy and teen STDs - because kids are scared to be seen buying condoms. I think condoms should be kept in nurses offices at schools and teens can walk in a grab a couple any time.

I know some people will hate my opinion - my own parents think I'm outrageous on this issue - but think of the alternatives:
Either talk to your children openly and honestly about sex, teach them about safety and respect or say nothing and maybe deal with an unwanted pregnancy, abortion, adoption, or STD.

I think the more responsible parents realize some teens will have sex no matter what, so it is our responsibility to educate them and help them be strong and safe.

Answer 5

I really think kids shouldn't be having sex until at least 18. I was 18 when I first had sex. It was with my boyfriend at the time and I really loved him. I have no regrets. Anything younger is just too young. At /18, at least they are gearing up for college and such.

As for parents allowing it, I don't think they should at any age (before marriage)? I'm 23 years old and I'm sure my mother knows I have sex, but I've never told her. It's not her business how I conduct my sex life. I think this should be a rule for kids over the age of 18. It should be no questioned asked. Parents can lecture about safe sex, but it's really not the parents place to know the details of their children's sex lives.

If you're under 18, than the parents have the right to control you. They do have a right to know what you have been doing and with whom.

Answer 6

My bf's 15yo daughter have been given positioned on delivery administration for her fifteenth b-day, which tells me that as a 14yo, she grow to be waaay to fascinated in intercourse for her own good. through fact i'm no longer even a step-parent, and my morals are viewed archaic and over-zealous, no longer something I say approximately it concerns a lick. i'm unwell over this and would do no longer something yet stand back and watch issues unfold. i grow to be a virgin until i grow to be only approximately 19 and desire I had waited longer. those youngsters have not have been given any clue what they are stepping into and the outcomes that look ahead to them could something happen. I consistently pronounced that i'd quite she, or any teen, be risk-free than get pregnant or an STD, yet i did no longer think of i'd be stressful approximately it while she grow to be a Freshman in extreme college!!! i grow to be consistently a good supporter of education AND abstinance, yet i do no longer think of multiple those youngsters are even being advised approximately abstinance. And in the event that they are, it confident isn't sinking in. And the dad and mom i'm encountering are only as undesirable. they do no longer provide a darn if their 14 and 15-yo youngsters are having intercourse, as long as no one is getting pregnant or ailments. i think telling them to maintain their pants on takes too plenty attempt.

Answer 7

I hate it personally. I am guilty of being one of those teens that knocked boots with a boyfriend after 8 months. Of course, I was somewhat safe about it (condoms). I know I can't stop them, kids are smarter than we give them credit for and you just have to be honest with your kids, tell them and help them protect themselves and whatever partners they have. I would rather put my daughter on b/c and my son a pack of condoms than have them come home and tell me there's a pregnancy.

It scares the holy hell out of me thinking anyone under 16 is having sex. 16 is so young but, at least it isn't 12! I just hope every day that my kid will withstand the peer pressure and wait until they at least comprehend the circumstances of their actions.

Answer 8

I'm a parent of a soon-to-be 18 year old girl and a 14 year old boy. Both are still virgins, to the best of my knowledge, and I can be pretty sure about that, although one can never be 1000% sure.
Well......first off it's important to have open discussions about sex with your children as they grow. I have pretty good communication with both of my kids about sex.
I can pretty much guarantee that if you stonewall and forbid your kids to have sex, they will. They'll either get right at rebelling against you as soon as they can get by with it, or later when they get to college and get more exposed to other ideas, they will adopt new ideas and beliefs. If they just blindly adopt yours without question, then congratulations, you have just created a thoughtless robot.
The best strategy (which is working well for me, neither of my kids is yet sexually active, although I do know my son is highly curious and we've had discussions about when I've found him with soft porn) is to encourage your kids to adopt cautious and conservative attitudes towards sex. This should be approached from a lot of different angles, such as health, respect of a future spouse toward you, not getting dragged through bad meaningless relationships, etc. This only works, though, if you have cultivated a whole lifestyle in your children of having a cautious and conservative approach to life in general as they were raised. It is very important that you cultivate encouragement and self-esteem in your children as they grow.
In my own opinion, sex is exclusively for marriage, and I encourage my children to adopt that idea, and explain all the reasons why that is a good strategy. But do I demand it? No way. That would never work. They will do what they want someday when I'm not around, so I had better influence how they go about decision-making processes more than demanding a moral code.
No, I would not "allow" my children to have sex. If they have sex, it will be without my permission, but then teens do a lot of things without permission. They know that that's a no-no in the house. But they also know that I'm not going to chase them all over the county 24/7 to see what they're up to. If they're having sex, they're doing that on their own conscience, and they are responsible to themselves for the consequences that may bring one way or the other. Once they're old enough to date, they know they're more accountable to themselves and to their future spouse than they are to me. That's part of the process of letting go.
My suspicion is, if you have to ask that question of complete strangers on Yahoo! Answers, then you're probably already in over your head. Good luck.

Answer 9

No, I would not allow it if I knew about it, and I'd highly teach, preach, or drill it into their heads that sex is only to wait until marriage!

First, sex is for procreation, it may feel good, but then we have a God that tells us to go forth and multiply, and made that act of procreation preasurable to do so. Getting pregnant is only natural when you engage in the practice!

Men (or boys) would be willing to lie to get a girl's virginity! In some cases they are willing to force it upon a girl, if they are allowed the chance. There may be "good" boys who wouldn't, but some may still pressure a girl. Hence, I wouldn't even allow my daughters to "date"! (Or my sons, if I have them, but girls particularly.)

Sex is not a "right of passage", it's a very serious matter! Sleep around and you make yourself open to disease and the above mentioned pregnancy. There is no such thing as "safe" sex, you can only make it "safer"! Condoms may stop sperm (if used properly, and it doesn't break), but they don't stop disease! HIV is not stopped by a condom, especially if it's used with a spermicide!

If you get it into their heads that adults are supposed to wait till marriage, teens must too!

Answer 10

To be honest there is absolutely nothing you can do to stop them from having sex. Telling them not to is only going to cause more trouble and rebellion. You might as well teach them about safe sex and encourage them to wait. Try to teach them the importance of waiting til they are mature enough but by no means should you tell them they cant have sex. Teach them the down sides of sex. For example- pregnancy at a very young age. Work with them and not against them.

Answer 11

It would be nice as parents to think we can stop teens from having sex. Unfortunately, especially these days it doesn't work like that. I think it would be very difficult for a parent to stop it from happening. I think parents need to have open communication with their teens and be very open to discussing safe sex and all the repercussions of having sex as a teen.