If I invite my co-workers to my wedding (which I've only known for 3 months because I am new to the company, but I really like these girls), do I have to invite their significant others as well? they are either have a husband or a serious bf. Or is it okay to omit their other half since there will be a few of them to keep other company.
Thanks!
P.S. I have never met their other half before.
2007-06-21 06:28:49 · 11 answers · asked by Vesper 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
PPS. since I live in NYC area, dinner is over $100/person, please take that into consideration when you offer me your thoughts.
2007-06-21 06:33:11 · update #1
Generally it is expected that invitations include an escort for formal events like a wedding. If you can't afford it, cut back on your guest list. Since they have only known you 3 months, I'm sure they will not be offended if they don't get an invitation. I wouldn't be.
2007-06-21 06:38:32 · answer #1 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My finace and I were invited to a wedding a few months ago which I couldn't make due to a business trip. My fiance asked them if he could bring his best friend since the invitation was for two anyway, but the groom (his friend) very bluntly told him not invite anyone because they have other friends that they wanted to invite but due to budget and limited space they couldn't.
The reason I said this is that this is an example of ppl basically being blunt and inviting only the people they want there, but on the other side if my fiance was invited to a wedding and they didn't invite me I'd be offended. I too think that if you are on a budget you should consider maybe not inviting any of them, especially since they are either married or in a serious relationship.
2007-06-21 13:50:06 · answer #2 · answered by Shelley S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot invite a married person and not their spouse. That is incredibly rude. It would be less offensive if you don't invite them at all then to exclude their spouse.
Don't invite your coworkers at all, in my opinion. They've only know you for three months, so they're hardly your best buds. Do you hang out after work? Do they really care about your marriage? It doesn't matter how much you like them; no one, not even them, expect you to invite them to your wedding.
2007-06-21 14:45:03 · answer #3 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Etiquette says that any wedding guest over the age of 18 should be invited to include a guest.
Obviously, you don't have to invite anyone you don't want there, but you should expect that they'll assume the invitation includes their spouse or a date. Some may simply RSVP for two, or even more, if they have kids.
For example...I invited my MIL's cousin and her husband. They RSVP'd for six people, and brought both of their adult children, and the kids' spouses!
2007-06-21 14:07:36 · answer #4 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard with all the politics of work - some people's feelings are bound to get hurt, but they have to understand how expensive a wedding is. Invite only those who you really want to be there - those who aren't invited will just have to accept it.
2007-06-21 13:41:02 · answer #5 · answered by Jacinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not invite any of them. You really can't invite one half of an established couple to anything, and say the other half isn't welcome...I mean, how would you feel? Even though you really like these women, you're fairly new, and I'm sure they aren't expecting to be invited.
2007-06-21 14:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Married 29 years because we do everything as a couple, Great chance for husband by then to meet the other halves. Great chance for married couple friends.
2007-06-21 15:42:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kind of rude not to invite them, especially if they are already married.
If money is an issue then maybe you should forgo inviting any of them and tell them, in person, that you can just not afford it at this time.
2007-06-21 13:38:31 · answer #8 · answered by Laura 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should always send out invitations to the person you are inviting and a guest.
2007-06-21 13:33:30 · answer #9 · answered by Becky E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should invite them and whomever they want to bring as a date. Most people don't liek to attend weddings alone.....at least I don't.....
2007-06-21 13:31:59 · answer #10 · answered by urstruly8604 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋