How do you deal w/ your 18 mo's tantrums?

Question

DD has recently started throwing outright fits when she doesn't get her way - screaming, throwing herself around, crying, throwing something if its in her hand, etc. This is new for her. How do you deal w/ them?

Answer 1

With Love and and thought fullness

Answer 2

Patience.

My sister's husband is great with this with my niece. She is about the same age and has started having some pretty decent fits as well. When she gets like this they take her for a one minute time out in her crib. They make sure that there is nothing in the crib that she can entertain herself with, hurt herself on or throw. Sometimes she will cry and that's hard to take because you feel bad, but honestly, she does learn from it. So for one minute she is left in her room in her crib alone. After a minute someone (often her dad) will go and get her and talk to her about what she did and ask if she is done having a tantrum, if she is she gets to come back to what she was doing and apologize if needed. If she is still throwing a fit or refuses to apologize he very calmly tells her that she is getting another minute time out to think about her fit. This continues on until she has gotten over it. It usually only takes one, but occasionally it will take two. It is hard at this age because they can't communicate what they are feeling in words. It is all about patience on your part and remaining as calm as possible when dealing with a tantrum.

Best of luck!

Answer 3

Well, I have a daycare in my home, so I know a thing or two about tantrums. I usually just pick the child up without saying a word and place them in the pack and play. They are safe from hurting themselves in there. I usually make the children in the room leave and I leave too. Of course I peek around the corner and make sure the child is okay. This takes away the audience, and it usually stops fairly quickly. I do have one child that is a climber and will try to climb out. I calmly put him back in, without a word still, as many times as it takes to get the point. After the tantrum stops, I let them sit calmly for a minute or two. Then I talk with them very simply about their behavior. I usually tell them no screaming and crying like that. Then I hug them and let them know and let them know I love them. I tell them to play nicely and let them go play.

Answer 4

It is hard to deal with them, if you find yourself getting too stressed then walk away for a minute. Your child seeing you stress will further stress them out. But, you need to reinerate that your child doesn't get what they want when they throw tantrums, they only get things when they are good. If they throw a tantrum and you give in, they know that's all they have to do to get what they want. Just tell them while they're throwing one that once they quit acting like that you might consider giving them what they want because kids that act good and big get rewards, not kids that throw fits. This worked extremely well with my kids. They don't throw tantrums anymore, because they don't work.

Answer 5

We have a 22 mo old. Best method for this age is redirection. If our child is acting up seriously (spitting, hitting, throwing stuff) we do 20 second timeouts in a corner. We make him stay put count slowly. Most of the time, this works as a "reset". When we're traveling or out, we try to ignore the bad behaviour is there is not opportunity to correct it, and to distract him. Sometimes it is necessary to remove him from the opportunity to misbehave (i.e. leave the store).

It is very difficult to deal with children at this age. Good luck!

Answer 6

If she isnt hurting herself or someone else, just let her throw her tantrum. When my kids throw their tantrums i put them in a place where they cant get hurt and let them scream for a min or 2. Then i ask if they are done. No? ok get it all out.

Above all be sure to remain calm. it doesnt help to have the child and the parent throwing a tantrum.

Answer 7

be extreamly consistant sit her in a specific time out spot where she cant get a hold of anything. if she gets up simply put her back dont even talk to her she is old eough to know why she is going back. ending timeout can be done once she has sayed put then let her know it is over work on her telling you sorry afterward. give her a hug and tell her that the behavior was not good but you still love her.

Answer 8

Well warn her first and tell her that if she does not stop you will give her a swat on her bottom . I am an old fashioned mom but I have 2 grown sons and they are 25 and 23 and have never been in trouble with the law or in jail or anything of that nature . I am for spanking and it does not hurt a child to give them a good old fashioned swat on the behind . Believe me they do understand . good luck .

Answer 9

actually i still struggle with tantrums but they are not as bad as they use to, at this age they are realizing what they can get away with and with who. For me, time outs have worked, also letting her know when she is doing wrong, its easier to control the tantrums now then later. Use a firm voice and let her know that YOU are in charge.

Answer 10

It's called tough love and patience. As hard as it is/was I always walked away and ignored my son. He's now 14 and I am not in prison for wanting to kill him. They do not outgrow these fits, they mature with the child. Then the children learn vocabulary in school we would not even think about using on our parents........

Answer 11

When my son has them i put him in a save place and then i ignore it. It doesn't last long before he comes and gets me. Then i just give him a big hug and tell him i love him and that it is ok to get mad but mommy is right. End of conversation and try to do something fun just to get of to a new start.