gays freak me out?

Question

How many people get nervious around gays, i sure do as i feel they are checking me out? they freak me out so bad i have to get away from them asap, then it takes me about a hr to get over my panic attact, and anger.

Ok the truth is i had a gay father that molested my brother and me, and yes i went to a shrink about it.

Answer 1

You answered you're own question. Bad memories from the past WILL affect the future. The deal with you're father would affect you're feelings towards life now. Take care.

Answer 2

Don't listen to people who say 'Just get a grip' there is obviously an underlying problem that is causing you to act like this. Maybe an incident in the past you have blocked out. I wouldn't say Panic attacks are the symptoms of someone who is merely a homophobe. You really should talk to a professional about it because there are plenty of gay people around and you can't live your life like that.

Answer 3

They are checking you out just as you check out females. They are...men. Men think about sex constantly. There was a news show, I believe, called Sex in America, maybe by John Stossel where part of the show followed a happily married young urban couple around for the day. The man thought about having sex with 61 women he met or seen that day. heehee Yep, that's us. The woman didn't think about it once, although she said the shoe salesman had nice eyes.

Just as a woman wouldn't want guys checking her out in a community shower, say at a gym, military unit, certain occupations' and school's shower facilities, so do hetero guys don't like it when gay men check them out. Just as there are seperate facilities between the sexes, there should be seperate facilities for the sexual orientations.

We don't tell the woman to grow up and take the googling so why should we tell the hetero men?

Just remember, your anger stops at the gay man's body ie don't assault them.

Answer 4

Get therapy then. There's no reason to fear or be angry at someone simply because they are homosexual. How would you feel if women got angry and freakout out when you checked them out? Does looking at someone mean you want to bed them? Of course not.

Get grip on yourself and stop having negative feelings toward people who have no more control over being gay than you do being straight (assuming you are). It's not a choice we make and 99% of the time if you let a gay man know you aren't interested, he'll move on.

Unfortunately for many women, guys coming on to us undesired and uninvited don't often move on as quickly as we'd like.

Answer 5

It's normal to feel a bit conscious of people around you and your surroundings. It's not normal however to feel this bad. You need to see a doctor but remember, homosexuals won't hurt you - they are just the same as other peopleand their sexuality shouldn't matter.

Answer 6

This is actually two different things: Gays, and fear

Gays = A soul in the opposite body.

Fear = Lizard brain freak out = You don't understand something, so is it a threat to you. Sometimes simple karma = If you scare someone else, you end up being afraid.

Answer 7

well its your choice and if they make u feel like that then its ur problem cus ther are a lot of nice ppl out there who HAPPEN to be gay.
its quite unfair to b angry though to b honest. its not realy their fault just like its not our fault that straight people like the opposite sex, we didnt choice it so dont get angry at them...also im sure they arent lookin at u.....just cus they are gay, u cud say u cud b scared because straight ppl might be lookin at u, it doesnt mean anythin weva they are or not does it

Answer 8

Get a grip Mark.Not every gay guy is bad.Just your peace of **** dad.I love Gays...they are so much fun.Maybe you need a Lesbian freind to help you understand.

Answer 9

u need to see a doctor about dis and im realy soz about wot u experienced be 4.

Answer 10

seek some help. maybe deep down inside ur trying to hide something.