hey lately i have been very unsure and uncomfortable in myself- i don't feel happy and i don't know how to act around people even aropund my closest friends and family. I know people just say be yourself and chill out, but really, i know it sounds weird, but I have forgotten how to do that. Whatever I do I feel uncomfortable, stupid and sad. please give me some advice to help me because all this is really getting me down.
2007-06-21 05:34:25 · 11 answers · asked by needing advice 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
First of all, how old are you? If you are a teen, these feelings are somewhat normal... but since it sounds as though it interferes with your relatioships and other activities, I think you should tell a family member and get a doctor's appointment. (If you are old enough to go to the doctor's yourself, I believe you should try to.) You do not want to continue this way, it could lead to isolation, and if worse comes to worse- depression and suicidalness. I spent 10 days in a psych hospital because I felt like that and let the feelings continue until I had become suicidal. It could be a hormone issue or a chemical imbalance. Also, if there was something that happened to you that is somewhat traumatic, it could be contributing to these feelings. I hope this helps at least a bit... best wishes, and be careful about pushing off talking to a doctor.
2007-06-21 05:45:08 · answer #1 · answered by He's everything I want 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
how old are you? if your a teenageer it could just be part of the horribleness of being a teen. have you had a shockin experience, maybe u are suffering from low self esteem because of some shock. maybe something has happened like someone bullied you or made you feel tiny.
sometimes our childhood effects us more at a certain time in our life, when we turn 17 often we begin to deal with childhood trama usually to do with how our parents were e.g. some sort of abuse, by 19 the 'dealing' in our brain calms down but we often need support and counselling anyway because of memories and low self esteem.
maybe you are just shy or even hormones can make you feel lower somtimes, just smile as it release happy endorphins, have a laugh with those you can trust and think about the things you are looking forward to. do a hobby or take up something, it will get you out there and get your confidence up but also give you a talking point for when talking to people, old and new.
good luck
2007-06-21 05:41:21 · answer #2 · answered by Weeza 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You didn't say how old you are, which may make a difference.
It isn't a simple answer, because there are so many thngs which affect us. It could be emotional. It could be physical. It could be hormones. It could be lack of sleep. It could be lack of proper nutrition. It could be lack of good vitamins.
It could be stress. It could be......it could be.....
See? There's so much which puts a person in such an insecure mood.
I myself am 55 yr old guy. When I hit middle age in late 40's, I went thru a huge change, mostly physical, which nearly knocked my socks off. Sometimes I find it's hard to focus, and sometimes my hearing is very sensitive. Sometimes I can't remember things, and of course, I don't have the energy I did like in my 40's.
I found a special health supplement called RENEWAL which is a spray, and helps the body to improve. There are different formulas for men, women, strong workouts, etc. I have found that this specific spray to help give me youth and vitality back again. After using for few days, my mind is more alert, I feel more confident, have more energy, and am much more grounded in my self-confidence. But that's what works for ME. It may not be what you need.
I'd suggest you check out a natural or holistic doctor. They tend to consider all sides of a person, not just the physical.
Go to a local health food store and get suggestions on who might be good in your area.
Please, please be careful of drugs handed out by doctors just to "make you feel better", altho' sometimes they do help you.
2007-06-21 05:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by tlworkroom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are having an existential crisis. Don't worry, I've had like 4 and I'm only 27. I gather you're pretty young, right? And things are starting to change for you- things you used to enjoy seem stupid and pointless, your whole identity seems to have never been anything more than a fabrication, and you have no idea what "being yourself" means because you don't even know what it means to be you. Time to re-invent yourself!! This is totally not scientific, just my own opinion, but I feel that every 7-8 years or so, our personalities change (just like our hair and skin do). There's always some essential part of you that carries over, but when that happens, you have to re-invent yourself, version 2.0. You can do that by spending a lot of time on your own, trying to figure out what you like/dislike, how you like to dress, your feelings on global warming- whatever. Try to read a lot of books (NOT fashion mags, they will just make you feel fat and ugly on top of everything else.) Listen to songs- not the trendy latest Fall Out Boy single all your friends like, but all kinds of music, so you can see what speaks to you as an individual, what you identify with. Oh, and keep a journal- not one of those dorky ones little kids keep about wanting to marry Orlando Bloom, but just a journal of what's going on in your life. Trust me, it's good for you, and a LOT cheaper than therapy (besides, therapists will just diagnose you with the mental disorder du jour and dope you up on meds you don't need.)
You're totally normal- I think everyone goes through this at some point. Just take a step back from everything and try to see who you really are, so you can share that beautiful person with everyone else. Good luck, hon!
2007-06-21 05:45:30 · answer #4 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you are describing are some common early symptoms of depression. Go talk to your doctor.
You didn't state your age, but it may just as well be the transition into adolesence. People react differently to it and an unfortunate few have your reaction. It might be little comfort, but in all likelyhood you will grow out of it with time.
Still, there's no harm in seeing your doc and talking about it, sometimes being told that what you're feeling is natural and normal is all it takes.
2007-06-21 05:42:51 · answer #5 · answered by Vox Sola 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say depression but then again, whats your age? Age could mean hormonal changes and a woman can go thru "the change" at any age, just not middle age. Good Luck and I hope you cheer up soon! HUGS TO YOU!!!!!
2007-06-21 05:44:20 · answer #6 · answered by Angie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Change your life. -If you live in LA go to Bloomington Ct.
If you're in Salt Lake City, just dump your stuff and take a bus to Denver.
Become a barista, and see what happens, -is all. Lots will!
2007-06-21 06:04:59 · answer #7 · answered by Luke Skywalker 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you might have depression. How long has this been going on? Talk to your doctor about some anti-depressants. I waited years to get on them but I was so glad when I finally did.
2007-06-21 05:40:32 · answer #8 · answered by CNJRTOM 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should probably make an appointment with a therapist who can help you resolve your problem. Sounds like you are depressed. Good luck.
2007-06-21 05:40:08 · answer #9 · answered by legalchick791 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
all legalchick791 is saying is your best bet get into counseling and u can probably get on medications to help with your depression
2007-06-24 15:17:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋