well my bf doesnt like me to go out with other guys. i havent at all. and i have this friend who is attached. vry close to me.. we are like brother sister. no more. he's a true friend. but my bf doesnt like him i think. the last time i tried to intro him to my bf ..my bf didnt want. right now my bf wants a break.. unoe like a time out. and i feel VERY VERY DOWN as im vry clingy to him. love him too much. so i am going to try my best to change it.. issit okay if i meet up with my friend maybe once during this time out? and dont tell my bf when we get back together? i mean my bf has friends who are girls too unoe..gd frens.. sch friends etc. i asked him if i didnt tell u some things.. are u ok with it. he said i'll be cheating my heart. will i be cheating my heart by just meeting n talking to my true friend? he can console me actualie
2007-06-21 04:00:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first, i am reallly sorry, i know what ur going through. but you should not hesitate to go and hang out with this friend, because if it is how you say it is-like brother and sister-then there is no problem, and your bf should not have a problem with it.
as for whether you tell him or not, only you can decide what you think is the right thiong to do, but if i was in your situation i would tell the bf that i am only friends with this guy, and that trust is so important in a relationship, so if he doesnt trust you then the relationship is heading no where. and that yeah you hung out with him over the seperation or whatever, but that you are no more then friends.
i hope this helps, and i am really sorry for you. :)
2007-06-21 04:06:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number 1 red flag warning of an abusive relationship: Jealousy.
Number 2: Controlling.
You have EVERY right to see the friends that you have. If he has a problem with it, you cannot convince him that things are innocent between you and your friend.
This is an early sign that he is only going to tighten the reigns as your relationship progresses, leaving you with no breathing room and constantly worried and eventually afraid of him and scared of upsetting him.
There is no room for Jealousy in love. What he has for you is NOT love. You cannot make it better by accepting his controlling behavior. He does not have the maturity to make this relationship work.
I strongly recommend terminating this relationship before he does some real damage to your self esteem, circle of friends, and possibly your personal safety.
Do NOT tell yourself that he is too sweet and loving to be the abusive type. That's how the majority of people who are in abusive relationships start out.
2007-06-21 04:12:01 · answer #2 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf sounds jealous of your friend. Kinda like a control freak. I think you should get him off your mind a little--- meaning do things that you've always wanted to do, such as:
-Go somewhere like a spa
-Sleep at your friend's house (maybe your closest girl-friend's house)
-Drive all around the country
Then, try it again. Tell your bf that you will always love him, and that you promise you will never cheat on him, even if you are tempted to.
2007-06-21 04:06:06 · answer #3 · answered by Cheaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your boyfriend just sucks as a person... You can't see half of the human race because he's insecure. I'm also guessing that you're both still in school. At some point in the relationship, you're going to have to stand up for yourself... Normally it's something like, "I really don't want children" or "I want to move closer to my job" instead of "I want you to stop being jealous and trust me enough to not try to run my life." If you're on a break, use it to be happy.
2007-06-21 04:15:54 · answer #4 · answered by Nathan C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet with the friend. If your boyfriend wants a break it's probably going to be a permanent one. Especially if he finds out about your visit with the friend. Sounds like he's extremely jealous and controlling. Not because he cares about you but because he needs to be in control in order to feel safe within his own skin, emotionally. He has female friends and they're probably genuine friends. Most likely they are not, however. My advice would be to get consolation from your friend. Take a break and be single for a while. Start hanging out in groups with other singles and gradually start dating again. Like I said though, it's probably over. Wtf would he need a break for if he was really into you.
Please take care of yourself...first! Good luck!
2007-06-21 04:08:52 · answer #5 · answered by HRH PrincessFreestarr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let that man tell you what to do. He has no right, no right at all to keep you from your friend. You shouldn't have to hide anything. He sounds to controlling and he does not trust you. If he has a problem with you being with your friend tell him to shove it. He hangs around with other girls, does that bother you. You just don't need to take what he is giving out.
2007-06-21 04:09:51 · answer #6 · answered by Tili L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your bf is jealous and insecure,true friends only come once in a life time ,and if he truly has a problem with you hanging out or talking to your best friend then the boyfriend needs to change his attitude or go away. if he asks if you have seen or talked to your friend tell him yes and if he has a problem with it then it is his problem
2007-06-21 04:16:49 · answer #7 · answered by david g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not fair for him to have female friends but you cant have male friends. i think you should meet up with your friend just one last time because it's not worth it loosing someone you love. Just tell your friend that you will not be able to see him anymore and that you will work on your relationship with your boyfriend. Then tell your boy friend that you dont fell right with him having female friends and that it's not fair. Talk to him.
2007-06-21 04:10:22 · answer #8 · answered by vanillaswril 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um this is wrong if your friend is a guy it shouldnt matter....hes not a real before then it means he doesnt trust you to have a guy friend. and trust is half of a relationship. plus if he has girls that are friends...im sure u dont go freak on him. but he does to you. so i wouldnt get back with him.
2007-06-21 04:08:12 · answer #9 · answered by whocares0090 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um he took a break from you and you need to ask? NO! there is your first wrong! you set the rules or else you let him think he has control over you which he shouldn't.. relationships involve love and trust and obviosly he is jealous and obviously the love isn;t that stong if he took a "break". If I were you, i'd set him straight fast.
2007-06-21 04:06:32 · answer #10 · answered by Daniyells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋