I don't know what kind of liar I am.. but this is what I do. There is always a part of my mind that tells me that I need to lie about something when I'm talking to someone. It doesn't matter if the lie is big or small, but I have to do it, maybe simply because I can get away with it or because I want them to think that I'm better than I am. Either way, I don't want to do this, but I constantly have, and I do immediately feel horrible about it afterward even if the lie was little and would not negatively affect anyone. Why do I do this and how can I change? There are only three people that I have lied to about larger things, and they were all pretty much the same lie.. They would not really affect them in anyway, but I don't know if I want to tell the truth, because they may not believe all the other things I've said, and the other things I will say in the future. Will it be worth it to tell them the truth? Or should I let them go. I don't lie anymore. I make a conscious effort not to.
2007-06-21 03:46:03 · 7 answers · asked by Lemonada 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
your lies are a result of poor self image, you have to make yourself seem more than you are to yourself by doing what is called agrandization.
I would not suggest that you tell your friends about past lies, but if they find out you lied, you do have to fess up and apologize.
It is good that you are consciously trying to avoid lying, but I suggest you find out why your self image is so poor that you are driven to do so.
2007-06-21 03:52:19 · answer #1 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who often lies to everyone. This friend has lots of friends but most of people don't like her behavior. She gets in trouble with friends and parents.
It's not good to lie, specially if people around you know you well. When you lie and people figure it out, they won't trust you anymore and keep away from you...it will be hard to have them back. It's not worth lying. Lies can be found out, so it's better if you say the truth. The need of telling lies is not so uncommon. If you want, you can take some online personality tests to figure yourself out. Search: "personality disorder tests". You'll find out if your tendency to lie is related to a personality disorder. Make some efforts. When you're about to lie, stop, think twice and then talk. Truth can't be unbelieavable.
Truth wins over all.
2007-06-21 11:13:00 · answer #2 · answered by the_mysterious_world_of_madness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, i know how you feel. Sometimes, i have the same problem. Difference is, i know exactly why. I do it to please people, to make them think better of me. But after some time, i realise that my friends love each other even with our differences and something we don't like about each other. This is because they're my real friends. So i decided , like you, to make a conscious effort not to lie. I didn't want to lie to my friends anymore and i hated myself for having done that.
Good thing you're thinking the same way and i can see you really dislike yourself for lying and is making a conscious effort in not doing that.
If they're your real friends, they'll understand your apology when you actually apologize. So don't be afriad to apologize to your friends about your lies even though they didnt do any harm to anyone or that no one remembers it. I guess, after doing so, even if your friends see you in a different light, you'll actually feel better as you've conquered yourself and your lies. Be a person who's not guilty of anything by not doing something that makes yourself guilty. Guilt is not a nice feeling and im sure no one likes it. How'd i know? Because i've felt it many times before.
All the best!
I'm sure your friends would understand. (:
And don't lie anymore.
2007-06-21 10:59:55 · answer #3 · answered by elish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All lies are not lies per se, for even the greatest lies is deemed to be a half truth. It takes a good memory to accustomed yourself in telling lies-for your lies will rather be told convincingly and corroborratibely-or you end up miserably. Truly, the consequence of every lies told is a guilt conscience stored, it lessens one`s self confidence and the more lies you tell, the less self-respect you become untill you no longer distinguish between truth and lie. why burden yourself with fabricated lies, when it`s always easier to tell what is true. If and when telling the truth can cause harm or will upset someone, don`t attemp to lie, rather just tell nothing. ..remember the famous quote: ..."the truth will set you free."
2007-06-21 11:41:17 · answer #4 · answered by tanting 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in psychology it is a disturbance. But you can avoid doing so by introducing a practice of counting to ten before you give an answer
2007-06-21 10:52:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read page 2 at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and then see the self esteem websites; yours may need boosting.
2007-06-21 11:23:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me---------lying can ruin your life and trust with others.
2007-06-21 11:05:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋