I love my brother so much! But, why do i keep making fun of him. What should I do? He is a very sensitive person.
2007-06-21 03:43:02 · 11 answers · asked by 1001 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to put yourself into his shoes. I cannot imagine what it is like for him to have his sister making fun of him. He is suppose to look up to you, trust you and love you with all of his heart. I cannot imagine how he may feel to have someone he loves treat him badly. You need to sit down and think about why you pick on your brother so much. You certainly feel there is a concern otherwise why would you worry about it. You are a great sister to want to change and that just is the first step. When you feel like making fun of your brother before you say anything right in that moment think about how you are feeling and why you are feeling that way. Instantly stop yourself from doing or saying something you don't want to do or say. Make sure you are using your words instead of yelling or making fun of him. Tell him how you feel without making him feel bad. Let him know that you are sorry that you make fun of him and that you really want to stop. Sometimes the first step is to admit that you are wrong because then he too will help you and be more understanding. This has to STOP and you cannot continue with this sort of behavior. If you continue to feel this way you may want to talk with your parents and tell them how you feel. Talking it out with someone or even a school counselor or a therapist will help tremendously. Good Luck and give your brother a hug or compliment him when he does something well. Treat others like you want to be treated.
2007-06-21 03:50:18 · answer #1 · answered by lovelyandcarefree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats normal for sisters and brothers to do. Personally i am an only child but all my best friends deal with those problems all the time!! I would say if he ever gets on your nerves that you just walk away or ignore him so that you dont accidently say something hurtful to him. [since he is sensitive.]
Good Luck!
2007-06-21 03:48:36 · answer #2 · answered by apg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe thats just your personality. You;re a snarky indiviual. I am the same way. I think you just have to make a conscious effort to not be so insensative. Yeah it will take some work on your part but your brother will be greatful. Its your job to be a support system for him, not to make him feel inadequate or unloved. Imagine how youd feel if the roles were reversed. Maybe that will inspire you to try harder.
2007-06-21 03:46:28 · answer #3 · answered by LA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you recognized this is a great move in the right direction.
Apologize
Try to consciously compliment him, look for things to compliment.
do things with him every now and then
If you ever catch yourself being mean, immediatley turn it around.
you seem like a good person, do some praying and never give in or up.
Have a great day! :)
2007-06-21 03:52:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
okay well i am LDS too, and i too found myself being rude to my sensitive brother. what i had to do is realize that it was pride and insecurity about myself that made me that way. i was reading in the Book of Mormon and i saw that again and again those who were wicked were that way because of their pride. i think that instead of yelling at him or teasing him you should just pat him on the head and say "i love you." you could also do service for him because you feel so much more happy when you are serving others. good luck!
2007-06-22 11:21:13 · answer #5 · answered by BroadwaySoul♥♫ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try setting goals for yourself and start off slowly. For example, set a goal that you will only be mean to him once a day, and be nice the reast of the day. Increase your goal to then to be mean to him only one time per week, and be nice to him the rest of the week. Keep increasing it.
There is also somethign called "paradoxical intent," where you set a goal to be as mean to him at strange times of the day, ie like at 3:00am. Set your alarm clock and get up at 3:00am to do something mean. After awhile, you will get sick and tired of being mean and will no longer see the point in doing so. You will then start being nicer to him as it is too much of a bother to be mean.
2007-06-21 03:51:19 · answer #6 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know you are doing something wron then you should make a conscious effort to STOP IT, especially if it's HURTING YOUR OWN BROTHER!!! If you treat your own family members that badly then you really need to examine yourself and make an effort to be abetter person. It must make you feel awful to hurt your brother like that, it should make you feel awful if you have any conscience at all.
2007-06-21 05:38:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that is pretty much the same thing w/ me and my sis but you gotta spend time with him and have fun instead of making fun if him b/c me and my sister spend more time since school is out and i dont make fun of her hardly. The Only difference between yours and mine is that my sis knows that i kid around but she still gets mad sometimes.
Hope It Helps!
2007-06-21 03:49:56 · answer #8 · answered by well i think we can handle that. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him then you need to stop. he is family so dont treat him like that. what if it was reversed and he made fun of you how would that feel. you know he is sensitive, so show love and kindness to him.
2007-06-21 04:24:52 · answer #9 · answered by avalon123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 13 right? its probably just mood swings that come with being a teenager. they'll pass in time. (i used to have the same problem.)
2007-06-21 06:35:37 · answer #10 · answered by Bron Bahlmann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋