what should I do?give up or stay?

Question

I been dating this and since that am not happy,because he is the type of guy who does not show his emotions and sometimes he acts like he does not care about me?am crazy about this guy and I dont even know why?because he does not treat me really well.the thing is that lately we dont talk often,and hes making excuses to see me I know that sometimes he works until late,but still we used to see each other at least a hour.I tried to brake up with him ,but he says that notthing is going on,that he will change but he doesnt do anything?so am already tired of it

Answer 1

Stand your ground. Tell him if these things don't change you are gone, and if he doesn't change them; leave him.

Answer 2

I would just let him go, I have learned over the years that all the heartache is not worth it. Sometimes it is better to be alone than to be with someone who does not treat you well. I have been crazy about the "wrong" guys in my life and I am going through it again right now. I know what is best, but I know it can be hard to bring yourself to do what you know you should. I guess sometimes we can be a glutton for punishment. I hope this helps....after all those who can't - teach!

Answer 3

Well you need to ask yourself a couple of questions and then I think you'll be able to answer your own question.

1st - Is this relationship "working" for you?
Doesn't sound like it is, or you wouldn't be so upset.

2nd - What is it that you truly love about this person?
Are these qualities enough to make you happy, or do you need more qualities in a relationship?

3rd - Is this how you want to live the rest of your life?
If you're looking to "change" some things about him, you aren't going to be able to.
Only he can change things and if he's saying everything is ok....he doesn't see a reason to change (which is why he promises...cause he thinks that's what you want to hear, but he's obviously happy with himself...so he doesn't change).

Just remember when you're in a relationship you want to look at that person and be able to say that you love him "with" all of his faults (which we all have), with all of your heart. Then that is the person that you will be happy with.

Only "you" can make yourself happy. But other people can bring you down in the process. If he's bringing you down, then it's going to be alot harder to get up to the top, to be happy.

Answer 4

I'm wondering if the reason that you are hanging on to this guy that you are so obviously not compatible with may be because of a low self-esteem? Some women who are with men that treat them less than what they deserve to be treated do it because they don't think they deserve any better.. even subconsciously. Take some time to work on yourself, and NEVER settle for less than wonderful.

Answer 5

imma be honest wit u...i'd giv him one more chance to change & if he didnt i'd be gone in a quick minute.
i had a friend (not gonna say her name or she'd get mad at me)
& her boyfriend liked her but allways had an excuse for why he culdnt see her & he was practically not wit her any of the time in there relationship. he was kyute for her but was neva der. he neve cheated on her, but just wuznt there.
So a boy can hav good looks but a bad personality. So if ure sweety really liked u, he find some time 2 be wit u.
Now im not sayin 4 u 2break up wit him but i wuld...if u dont wanna, u can try 2 change him, but i tink it's real wrong to change a guy's way or personality cuz dats wat he is & someone will luv him dat way.
but im off topic...if u tired of it & he Knows u tired of it & dont do anythin bout it, den he aint carin to much bout ure relationship or is takin u for granted & if he lose u, it'd be his fault. good luck wit ure situation
:)

Answer 6

i had a similar situation happen to me too...i mean like the guy that i was dating dint even act like he liked me at all sometimes i wondered why do i even like him his qualities arent even that good adn he never showed me his true emotions like how he rlly felt and he was always rlly like mean to me in a way like id ask him somethign like oh i have to tell u soemthing nd after i tell him he goes thats nice to know or osmethign like that it gets me soo annoyed so i finally broke it off and even tho after i was hurt because i felt like i made a mistake now that i think about it, it wasnt a mistake it was soemthign that i shudve done a long tiem ago. good luck =)

Answer 7

Break up, life is too short to be unhappy. Just ignore his calls and he'll go away.

Answer 8

Don't stay with some that doesn't make you happy. You do deserve to be happy.