If he was letting a woman rub all over him anywhere else it would be considered cheating. Why would this be any different just because the girls are paid? What do you think?
2007-06-21 02:35:53 · 44 answers · asked by Heart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
He said that he doen't want to go but I have a feeling that when his friends take him out that's where they'll want to go.
2007-06-21 02:39:22 · update #1
It has nothing to do with whether or not I trust him. He hasn't gone to a strip club the whole 5 years we've been together. I just don't like the idea.
2007-06-21 02:45:18 · update #2
I agree with you. I don't want my gf to have a bachelorette party either. I think its such a bad idea to have some other men rubbing all over my gf the night before the marriage. It makes no sense to me. I've always wondered who the hell thought of this tradition? And no I'm not having strippers at my bachelor party either. Its just a recipe for disaster
2007-06-21 02:39:27 · answer #1 · answered by jacarig 3 · 8⤊ 1⤋
I sort-of feel the same way. I don't mind my bf going to a strip club but I don't like lap dances and would not want him getting one at his stag. Luckily my bf is fairly germaphobic and who knows where strippers have been, so he doesn't want to get anywhere near them! So I might not have much to worry about when the time comes. ;o)
I think all you can do is state your concerns and let him make up his own mind. Hope that he respects your opinions enough to avoid the lap dance situation. I know it's hard if all the guys are pressuring him to get one.
My bf is organizing two stags this summer, one of which is this weekend. I've mentioned to him to please not pressure the groom into getting a lap dance and he agrees that he won't do that. (The 2nd stag is for a guy who goes WEEKLY to strip clubs with his fiance!! They get "couples lap dances" together so I know he'll be getting a lap dance - ew.)
Another option is to speak with the best man and let him know what you're comfortable with or not. I spoke with the bride and told her what the stag plans are for this weekend and asked her what she wasn't comfortable with. She said she's okay with everything because she knows what goes on at these events, except that my bf is not to take the group to Rigeau (a strip club where the girls give very cheap BJs and other things). Of course, my bf would never have taken him there anyway.
2007-06-21 03:45:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your fiance does not want to go, he should tell his friends to nix that idea. He is the guest of honor and he should have a say on where to go. Those strip club bachelor parties can get out of hand and it could result in something that he would regret. How about a home party with the guys hiring a belly dancer. Much more modest and a belly dancer does not ingage in acts that go on in strip clubs. According to where you live, how about a trip on a gambling boat for a day's outing? I don't believe in those strip club parties for bachelor parties, so if your fiance is apprehensive, tell him to just say no to it.
2007-06-21 03:15:31 · answer #3 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not wrong, but do you not trust him? My boyfriend/fiance and I made an agreement for our parties that neither of us would do the strip club/stripper coming to the house thing. We are going to go out for a few hours with our bridesmaids/groomsman separately and then halfway through the night meet up and party the night away. We are all friends so it works out well this way. Plus, I always have more fun with him than without him:)
2007-06-21 02:48:54 · answer #4 · answered by To The Point 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't like strip clubs because I feel they totally demean women, and make women objects instead of people. It sounds like your fiance feels similarly. It has nothing to do with a trust issue--I don't like them for anyone.
If he doesn't want to go to the strip club, then all he has to do is be a man (excuse me there) and tell his friends he doesn't want to do that. Unless they're holding a gun to his head, they can't force him to go there, you know? He just needs to be assertive and tell them that's NOT what HE wants. You need to give him the encouragement he needs to be assertive with his friends. The party is supposed to honor him, if they're planning something he's not comfortable with, then what's the point?
Good luck!
2007-06-21 03:13:11 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys normally go along with what their friends want. If this is the type of friends he has, then there you are.
I don't blame you, no, I would not like it either, and I wouldn't want him to go. It has nothing to do with whether you trust him, you just don't like some smelly stripper rubbing her goods (and other men's cooties too) all over him. You are weird for not wanting that? I don't think so!
2007-06-21 03:20:46 · answer #6 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, women take a lot more for granted with strippers than the men do. The men cannot touch the strippers, if they are impolite, or touch them, they can be thrown from the club. He will not be cheating on you, not like he's going to sleep with a stripper, and if he is, maybe you shouldn't marry him.
Why make him feel so terrible, not like you are going to care what he thinks of where you go for your bachelorette party.
What is the harm in looking? I'll bet you look! Besides, he gets a little wound up, and then he comes home to you. It's a win-win situation.
Relax, and enjoy your wedding.
P.S. no I am not a stripper.
2007-06-21 03:19:21 · answer #7 · answered by kackaway 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would not allow him to go either because strip clubs the girls are very tempting, and after the wedding maybe he will want a visit again, and one thing lead to the next.
2007-06-21 03:14:45 · answer #8 · answered by Destiny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not all bachelor parties are at strip clubs. Is this something your fiance wants to do? If it is, and you trust him, there should be no issue. You dont say if he has been to them before, but if your that concerned... go with.
2007-06-21 02:40:07 · answer #9 · answered by Brown Eyed Girl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him how you feel about him going. If he listens, he'll really understand how much you love and care about him, and that will prevent him from doing anything stupid that he'll regret. Otherwise, if you trust him, he should behave.
It's not like he's at some bar getting some drunk girl to do it, these are professionals, so I think it's a little bit different.
2007-06-21 03:21:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋