I think this is the biggest scam EVER that boys have come up with to get what they want from girls. It is so one-sided, designed to get just what they want without giving ANYTHING. Who agrees with me?
2007-06-21 01:42:28 · 14 answers · asked by MJ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, let me make this simple for the simple-minded among you, of whom I see there are many. Boys are looking for sex, girls are looking for love. When you have your little "friends with benefits" scenario, the girls get short-changed because most of them are not wanting just sex. In fact, probably a lot of them are not wanting sex at all, but they do it to get a guy's attention, to hopefully make the guy like them more, to get 'closer'. Of course we know this mostly doesn't work, does it guys? Because all you're wanting is as much sex as you can get and no commitment. Now I will qualify this, 'cause I don't want to hear about all you guys who are sensitive and caring and just want a relationship (all 9 tenths of 1 percent of you), and I don't want to hear about the also-miniscule percentage of independent girls who do just want sex with no commitment. There are always exceptions, but my point is that they're very small. Go read some psychology if you don't think this is true.
2007-06-24 06:16:30 · update #1
I believe you are more right than wrong with the statement: Boys are looking for sex, girls are looking for love.
However, no one is forced into a friends with benefits relationship so the question is, "Which side is the con on?"
1. The girl that wasn't promised marriage but all the time is hoping that is what it leads to and is so bitter when the relationship breaks up.
2. Or is it the guy that was led to believe there was no strings attached and all the time the girl is scheming to get married by deliberately getting pregnant or applying pressure on the guy until in a weak moment he enters into a marriage he never planned or wanted.
2007-06-28 11:42:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
OK guys, you are hearing from NerdCowboy here and I am probably twice as old as most of you so I have seen it all, from the the old prune prudes to teens of today. You can look at the studies done by M&J as well as Kinsey to find that yes, wow, women love.......... sex!! Before those studies, it was thought that only guys really like it and that girls were just equipped with 'the tools of the trade' to get a steady man, who brought home the bacon and provided security. If the man did not provide what the woman needed, she simply held back on her equipment since she supposedly could 'hold out'. Kinsey and others proved that wrong. What these women often did if frustrated was 'do' the milkman. heck, back then there must have been an excess of guys applying to be a milkman. What we have is thousands of years of culture based on man being the provider and women wanting security. Kinsey in fact even found the 'prudes' like and do sex as much as everyone else. However, the studies have also found another component, pleasure is prime to men and even though it is equally important to women, they or more complex about it. Check the studies I refer to above and others. You see, women generally equate sex with security which they confuse as love. Love is based on commitment - i.e. you instantly love your children and are thus instantly committed to them - not always so with adults so lets get that straight. In the most common sexual position, the tried and true 'missionary' position, the man is dominant and 'covers' the woman. She is submissive and is 'protected' by the man. Furthermore, physical contact is maximum,facial contact, which if done right leads to nurturing and thus closeness and 'security'. Women instinctively know the importance of intimacy in this regard. For some reason guys lose interest. Furthermore, women have more erogenous zones in the genitalia than men. A guy's erogenous zone is generally in one spot. A woman has at least 4 major erogenous spots and there are other minor ones a well. I won't go into detail because there may be children reading this but you can investigate and guys, please do so. Girls, my advice to you is don't expect some typical stupid guy to figure this stuff out, even if he has a PhD in Nuclear Physics. We live in a new age that evolved from the 60's with feminism, free love, the pill and unfortunately (just my opinion because babies are very important to me) abortion on demand and the result is that women are free to exercise their sexual lives as they see fit. But remember the old saying, 'freedom begets responsibility'. That means you are responsible as well and whining that guys are tongue wagging, albeit true, will not change that fact. Therefore, talk to your guy about this - make it an educational experience as well - have fun surfing the internet about it. On the other hand to the guys, you are missing out on a whole lot if you focus on the lonely little spot on your 'appendage'. When you have sex with a girl, realize she is your lab and you are a mad scientist who is experimenting with ways to make her wake up the neighborhood. Rely on old missionary since it maximizes intimate contact.Have a dim light on so you can appreciate the beauty that 'launched a thousand ships'. Realize that her ears and neck want you, not just the obvious. When you get feedback, you will appreciate her much more and you may not be so quick to find another prize just to find it is no different. You may eventually realize it's not the girls that don't satisfy you but maybe your application doesn't. Then maybe you will not have to waste time, effort, money, frustration trying to find the girl that will make to feel your best, you may already have her............
2013-11-27 14:13:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold up! Friends with benefits thing works both ways! You're right that in some cases the girl doesn't just want sex. Some cases girls need their self-esteem raised, so they'll find some guy whether they know him or not and have sex with them just so they know that they can still get a guy if they want. But there are some girls that want a friend with benefits just as much as guys do. You really need to get out and see the world!
2007-06-28 21:06:04 · answer #3 · answered by andre' w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Friends with benefits" is just a sign of the times where the most personal act of affection has been reduced to something meaningless. It is actually a view into out future if we continue, as a people, to devalue our interpersonal relationships. Soon a brother wont be a brother, they'll just be another person. Marriage will only be for suckers. Kids will have multiple families. You can see this behaviour going on in the media on our daytime talk shows. It is becoming more and more accepted. We need to wake up to this trend.
2007-06-21 01:48:42 · answer #4 · answered by civil_av8r 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree in a way but girls do the same thing too. Guys aren't the only ones that are doing it these days. There are plenty of girls out there going around screwing their friends and expecting nothing more. So its more of a scam from both sides of the street
2007-06-21 01:46:52 · answer #5 · answered by jacarig 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She has not received the money yet - and she won't. This is how the loan scam works. They charge an upfront processing, application, or insurance fee. Then they turn you down for the loan. They keep the fee. Happens a million times a day. All 100% legal
2016-03-22 14:15:00 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree with you or whom ever wrote that book you are telling people to read.
Women want sex just as much as men. Men just don't hide it. Friends with benefits works but eventually the woman usually falls for the guy. That doesn't mean that the woman was looking for love. It just means she fell into it. I have meet many woman who like casual sex, but from my own personal experience they tend to develop feelings faster and completely by mistake in these relationships.
I'm not sure why you seem so mad about this topic. Did someone get your punani and then just want to remain friends. If you were used for sex teach him a lesson and stop letting him have it and maybe he will want to start a relationship.
2007-06-28 23:13:08 · answer #7 · answered by Rumin 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As you get older you will see that it all depends on where you are in life and the person that you meet. B/C you shouldn't be dealing with someone that dosen't want what you do at the time. A man/woman will only do what you let them in anykind of a relationship.
2007-06-28 23:39:24 · answer #8 · answered by ceo5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't girls like the benefits to? You're implying that men OWE you something in exchange for action with you. Perhaps you've never been with a boy who knows how to make a girl feel nice, but adult women will happily tell you that sex can be enjoyable for... GIRLS TOO!
This is how whores think. You're expecting men to essentially reimburse you for getting action with you.
2007-06-21 01:47:08 · answer #9 · answered by Scott 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yea this scam is going around on craglist as well and is mostly automated you will get an email with a picture of a girl standing and holding up a white piece of paper with your name on it and then you get a link in the email that brings you to a date site you have to sign up to use and pay for because thats the only way to get the girls number this ******* bullshit and it is now pissing me off
by the way i am a guy posting this not this girl in the picture she is my ex and this is her profile hahaha
2014-02-19 00:26:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋