Is it bad to give someone a letter saying you like them?

Question

If so why?

Answer 1

No it's not bad, the only downfall (that i can think of) is that you won't be able to see the person reaction when they find out.

Answer 2

It is not bad at all, in fact it is very romantic, the most romantic. I only hope the recipient will be worth reading it. If he's worth, you do not have to worry, you will get a very positive response. If he is not worth, it does not really matter whether you gave a letter, an email, text or you say it in person. I see many answers here saying "you may appear desperate", that is not true, expressing the feelings is never desperate, it does not really matter in which way you express them. Loving someone is the most sublime thing that can happen to human being, so, if you have feelings, share them, a letter would be a perfect choice. Best of luck!

Answer 3

I guess some people believe it's a bad idea. But i don't. I think that it's a really good first step to getting your feelings out that you have for someone. Sometimes, it's really difficult to come out to someone face to face and let your feelings be known, because there is fear of rejection and also it can just be really awkward. So, i believe writing letters is not bad, it's a good idea, and can help get your relationship started

Answer 4

I wouldn't, there are other ways to give subtle clues like smiling, compliements, staring at each other. When you give him the letter you are more prone to rejection, who knows he might show it to his friends and they start laughing. Also even if he likes you he may feel as though you are coming on too strong, or desperate. This is also bad b/c this is a way someone can get used by another and he will always feel as though he is in control of the relationship b/c you intiated it first. Guys like a chase, so let him come to you first, you can help by given subtle hints like the ones I listed above.

Good luck!

Answer 5

I think that it is ok to give someone a letter telling them your feelings for them. Sometimes these letters work better for the person writing them because it allows you to express your feelings even if it is not out loud! Sometimes what we need is closure and in giving this person the letter you are no longer wondering if they know that you care for them and in return you may find out there feelings for you as well!!!

Answer 6

The only bad thing about giving someone a letter is if they're a jerk and don't keep the letter to themselves; which could happen in grade school, but most likely not if you're an adult.
Otherwise, I think it's great, unless you write pages about your feelings--then it just gets creepy (assuming you aren't dating).

Answer 7

I don't think it's necessarily bad...a letter can be a great way for a shy person to express him/herself. However, a downfall is that it's not personal enough...and you can't read (no pun intended lol) a person's emotions through a letter. Face to face is the ideal to me...but I think letters can be sweet.

Answer 8

God I hope not because I've just done a similar thing. I liked someone who calls in where I work so I found out what he was interested in and as I make my own cards, I made an invitation and asked him if he'd like to come for a drink with me sometime. I am shy so I couldn't have asked him to his face so at least this way, he doesn't feel obliged to say yes and neither of us loses face.

Good luck Honey, lets hope it works for both of us.

Answer 9

It's never bad to let someone know you like them. We can never have enough friends in this world. In doing so, though you want to be willing to accept that the recipient may not feel the same way you do. But then again, you never know if you don't try.

Answer 10

it was my preferd way of letting someone know how i felt about them, because iv always been shy and bad at talking about my feelings, so i think its a good way to do it, but the only bad thing i can think of is if the person doesnt like you, he could laugh at you and show their friends, you just have to be prepared for them being a jerk, i was always lucky and the people i wrote the letters to were always nice to me about it, so you probably will be too.

Answer 11

I think the main thing is telling that person that you like them, thats the most important thing here. However you choose to do it has to be the way that you feel the most comfortable with as its you who is the one doing it.

People may think its a bit lame compared to saying it face to face, but not everybody is happy telling someone they like how they feel. And so, you've got to do it the way thats best for you.