hi all, how would you handle this? I have a sister in law that is the most anoying person in the world. I have 2 kids of my own and my husband and i live on our own my sister in law lives with her hubby and 2 kids at her parents house. Every time we call over to talk with my mother in law she is always there going ohhh were busy mom hang up and call them back later. It drives us nuts. Also anytime that we go over ( holidays ect..) her kids are so out of controll its not funny and they teach my kids bad behaviors. She doesnt diciplin them at all and if her mother sys anything to her children my sister in law gets in her face and tells her to mind her bisness. Its driving me nuts my husband has gotten in to it with his mom over this there is no nice way to deal with my sister in law. And the funny part is there are days when we will randomly get phone calls to go over because the kids want to play with mine and i just dred it. This is my husbands family so i dont want to look like the
2007-06-20 23:59:28 · 11 answers · asked by kitty81301 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
bad guy but i really am at my wits end. My husband has tried talking with his mom and it has done nothing. I need some advice on diffrent ways to handle this....
2007-06-21 00:00:26 · update #1
its hard to just invite my mother in law over because anytime she is over here my sister in law calls her like 20 times on her cell to see where she is what she is doing so on..
When we do go over and my kids start acting badly they get put in to time out and get told that they should not be doing that. So i am trying to keep my rules inforced its just so damn hard when i tell my child one thing and my sister in law calls him in to the room to play while i am trying to do somthing with my daughter. It just makes me so mad the last time we were there her son pushed my son and her mother said somthing to him my sister in law herd and went off on her mother thats when i just left...
2007-06-21 00:08:25 · update #2
Drastic times call for drastic measures. I would stop going over to your in-laws house. Stop talking to your sister in-law. Let your mother in-law come to your house to see your kids. Tell your sister in-law she is not invited until she can
1. Get control of her kids
2. Get rid of her attitude.
2007-06-21 00:05:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are making this way harder than it has to be... Your expectations for raising your children will be different from anyone else that you meet... That includes your in-laws... You set the ground rules and continue to enforce the behaviors that you expect from your children. There also seems to be jealousy with your sister-in-law... You are the new daughter in the family. You have your own house and she is probably a little threatened by you... You are expecting her to act a certain way towards you and the rest of the family. When others don't follow your expectations that causes you stress... To reduce stress, you need to understand that you can not control those around you, even your kids... You can, however, state your concerns about others actions and remove yourself and your children from situations that you do not feel are appropriate. There is nothing wrong with saying, I don't appreciate what is happening and I have decided to leave. If you would like me and my children to participate this action needs to stop... This will place pressure on your sister-in-law to take action since I am sure that your MIL will want you to participate... You don't have to be best friends, only respectful
2007-06-21 10:35:11 · answer #2 · answered by Joey_Pit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure I can advise, but I can certainly relate!! I was the mother in a similar situation. There is nothing you can do about this problem, your mother-in-law will have to handle it. Meanwhile, invite your mother-in-law to visit you.Ask her to turn off her cell phone unless she is expecting an emergency situation.Explain this is YOUR time with her. The daughter has most of her attention. Your children deserve granny time too!Unfortunately, until the mother-in law takes the necessary steps to end the abuse, it will continue. Wish I could be more help!
2007-06-21 09:08:51 · answer #3 · answered by Senior Citizen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a situation for your husband to handle... You both need to be on the same pg. where your mother-in-law/sister in law are concerned... I would talk to them both about how you feel... That you children need 1 on 1 grandma time w/o interuption from sis-in-law...That means nohone calls etc... As for the lack of discipline, that might get you nowhere...Just parent your own children. Split the holidays with her, some at her house/yours so that the timr/responsibility get shared. Also try and schedule grandma time once a week,month whatever just her no calls
2007-06-21 07:34:41 · answer #4 · answered by pebblespro 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd certainly talk to my husband first since it is his Mom and family. Let him know how stressful it is over there for you and the kids, most likely it is for him too. I'd invited her over to the house to visit, or take her on outings with you and the kids. I'd say your sister-in-law is trying to be queen bee at her mother's and letting any and all know that she runs the place, by excluding her where your mother-in-law is concerned will let her know that she does not control everything. If possible, when the random calls come in concerning the kids have them at your place where you are queen bee.
2007-06-21 07:12:16 · answer #5 · answered by sassywv 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try and talk to your sister and mother in law , let them both know how you feel ( you & your husband) If all else fails , just dont communicate with them. Also , let your children know that they need not to pick up on the behaviors that thier cousins are doing , let your kids know that there are consequences for bad behaviors and that you will not tolerate it. Good Luck !
2007-06-21 07:04:26 · answer #6 · answered by pure_sweetness1984 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get Caller ID so you don't have to answer when she calls during your mother-in-law's visit.
And I would stay away if it drives you that nuts. It's not worth the stress. You can see them on holidays.
2007-06-21 23:23:30 · answer #7 · answered by Carolle746 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away. Invite the Mom ONLY to your house for visits and let her see how normal kids act. Not wild animals.
2007-06-21 07:02:43 · answer #8 · answered by holeeycow 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can only tell you what my father told me, and I think he was so right...
"Son, you don't marry a person, you marry a family - its a package deal"
May not make you feel any better, but in my experience, every family has issues - only the names and faces change. All of us have that family member of our spouse that drives us crazy.
Yep.
2007-06-21 07:11:54 · answer #9 · answered by Gary 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
look , when you go to visit your sister in law dont take your children with ya , and say tht they have home work m they are playing ,,,, etc
and if you take your children with you dont let them play with her`s and when she ask you tell her the truth (( your children are way to impolite))
2007-06-21 07:11:05 · answer #10 · answered by dina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋