Do I have to have a ceremony, or can I just sign the paper and then be married? He's very shy and doesn't want to be the center of attention, so if we can sign the paper and then have a party, that would be awsome. So, can we do that? Legally?
I live in texas, by the way :)
2007-06-20 15:01:10 · 13 answers · asked by kameka 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Sissybug:
What in the world are you talking about!? I ask a simple question and you tell me that stuff? I want an incredibly simple wedding, what's so immature about that? Maybe spending $30,000 on one day is irresponsible and immature!
Sorry people, that just really bothered me. :)
2007-06-21 03:21:32 · update #1
Yes you do need an officient.
The good news for your guy is that you don't have to have a big wedding where he says his vows in front of everybody. You can have a courthouse wedding or a private wedding with the clergyperson of your choice. It can be just you, him, the officient, and between one and three witnesses, depending on where you're getting married.
The ceremony can be as small as you like and take only a minute, quite literally. Then you can have as big a party to celebrate as you like!
Best of luck to you both.
2007-06-20 15:56:27 · answer #1 · answered by gileswench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are a wedding officiant service in Texas (www.lovewithnoboundaries.com) The first thing you have to do is apply for your marriage license, t hat's what you both sign, more than 3 days, less than 30 days before the wedding. Then you can get married by anyone that can legally perform the wedding, in Texas, it is a licensed officiant, minister or priest, or a justice of the peace or judge at the courthouse. you have to have someone perform the ceremony, you can't just sign it. The best thing to do would be to talk with your county clerk's office at the courthouse.
2007-06-21 08:50:46 · answer #2 · answered by LoveWithNoBoundaries 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are only 2 things that are standard in order to be married
1. You need to repeat vows/intent
2. You need someone legal to make the pronouncement & sign the papers.
If Mr. Shy-guy doesn't want to go to the courthouse & do it privately in a judge's office, you can find an officiant that will come to your home & perform the ceremony.
To find an officiant type into Yahoo your city, state & wedding officiant (no 's' on the end) You will have a few to choose from, usually on the 2nd page. The larger bridal sites seem to get top billing. If you do go to the bridal sites, please visit the site of someone you think you might like. Those bridal sites make vendors & officiants pay for your contact info so you may not hear back from someone you'd hoped.
2007-06-20 15:20:46 · answer #3 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it is true that you have to have someone who has the legal authority to do so perform some sort of ceremony, it is not true that only people invited to the ceremony are invited to the reception. You may have very few people at the ceremony itself (generally, you're required to have yourselves, the officiant and two witnesses--you may want to add a few family members or friends), and then have as large or small a reception party as you'd like.
2007-06-21 03:21:46 · answer #4 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need either a judge, officiant, clergy member or priest/pastor to marry you. You can't just sign the paper. Go elope in Vegas if he dont like attention. Its so easy to elope, and cheap! Thats what I would have liked to do, but I couldnt get away with it. lol I got my big old wedding next weekend. Im so excited lol. try to change his mind and have a small ceremony with family. I dont like being center of attention either, but Im marrying the man I love and thats all that will matter that day. :)
good luck and congrats
2007-06-20 15:42:32 · answer #5 · answered by mannasox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We actually picked up the marriage license and went to the senior home. There was a retired Officiant there that married us. We had us, our best man and maid of honor and the lady who played the piano.... and a few of the residents who just so happened to be in the day room. =)
No one said that the wedding had to be a huge hoopla. Do something simple. An officiant you, him, the best man and maid of honor under a big shade tree! Save the money for your party.
Best wishes!
2007-06-20 15:14:45 · answer #6 · answered by Honey423 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live in Texas too and as far as I can tell you need to say the words, because you are taking an oath before a licensed official to make it all legal. If your groom is nervous you and he can go to a justice of the peace with only you, the groom, JP and a witness. Good luck and congrats to y'all.
2007-06-20 15:38:56 · answer #7 · answered by kdon752003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know where I live that an officiant would have to be present and you cannot just sign them papers without one present. I live in Canada and our laws are very similiar to the States so I would suggest that in order for your marriage to be registered legally then yes you would need an officiant present to wed you also.
2007-06-20 15:07:10 · answer #8 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have someone perform a ceremony, however small or short - a jp, judge, marriage commisisoner....
Just so you know, you only invite people to the reception who have been at the ceremony.
2007-06-21 01:55:23 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi , Anyone who is 18 years old can go to the justice of the peace and get married. So if you want to do that and then have a great party, why not, it is your wedding, take charge and be happy, you do not have to please anyone else. If you do get married, congraduations sweetie , I wish your marriage to last forever , alot of happinesss, riches and peace. Mama Gina
2007-06-20 15:08:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋