I came to US three years ago and I married with US citizen now I have green card, at the same time my father in law and mother in law got their green card too. They told me we want to buy a house in here but they didn't instead of that they stay with us at my house which is we bought two years ago.I'm 30 years old and all my family are living at another states and I never see my family here since I came here.Now I want to see my family but she is so mad because she think I want to leave her I 'm so tired now and I need to see my family and I'm tired to live with her family what should I do?
2007-06-19 18:21:18 · 4 answers · asked by john 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my father and mother in law don't work at all so they can't get another house.
2007-06-21 14:59:39 · update #1
Take your wife with you to go see your family, then she wont be worried about you leaving her.
As far as the in laws go, go to her father, tell him how you are feeling that you are feeling stressed and don't want to ruin the relationship you share as family.
He will understand. You could even offer to help them find a place they can afford.
Just make sure you are respectful when you do it in order to keep good feelings in the family.
2007-06-19 18:36:47 · answer #1 · answered by angie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your wife that you aren't tired of her, just her folks. You guys are in the US now, and we do things differently. I wouldn't want my adult children living with me, and I know they don't want me living with them.
Two years is long enough to put your in-laws up, and so you need to give them some time frames to work with. Tell them that you would like them to move in 6 months, and that you will be glad to assist them in finding a home of their own. Then do it. Don't listen to their complaints, or your wife's. Be polite and helpful but move them out.
Next weekend, either drive or fly with your wife to see the family member you missed the most. Enjoy your reunion and make sure your wife understands that you love her and you are honored to have her as your wife, and make all the promises you can about how wonderful it will be to have some privacy when her folks find their own home.
You are the only one who can stop letting them walk all over you. This is America, you can do anything you want if you put your mind to it.
Good luck.
2007-06-20 01:41:23 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see your family, they need to respect that you have a family too and that youd like to see them. Go visit your family you deserve happines to. Also speak to your wife and tell her its time for her family to get out on their own that youd like to live like husband and wife alone not with her parents. Compromise so way. Also tell her you love her and you dont want to leave her you need to talk with wife also why cant you take her with you to visit your family?
2007-06-20 01:38:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her ur family is important and u dont want to live with her family. be blunt, honest and completely straighforward.. stop being a victim...
2007-06-20 01:25:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋