Mother still alive in Hospice 9 days without water food etc what is she waiting for???

Question

This is a terrible question but I am freaked out. My mother is terminal she has been without sustinence for 9 days is this unusual????? The hospice is amazed she is still alive does anyone know if this is natural Is there anything I can take her etc to help her????? Pls if anyone knows,
GBless

Answer 1

I think that sometimes it takes the body time to shut down. There's also the possibility that she feels badly about leaving you. Talk with her. Let her know that you understand and that she has the right to move on. God Bless your mom, your family, and you.

Answer 2

I have cared for many hospice patients. The norm that I have seen in the final stages of no food or water is 10 to 12 days.
She will become comatose first, i.e. her eyes will not react to a bright light. Once this occurs it is usually just a matter of hours. Make her feel at ease as in things are fine everything is taken care of. Bless you and yours. source, caregiver for years.

Answer 3

God Bless your mother. She is holding on for some reason. Mother had to know it was alright with us kids for her to leave.I had one sister that was holding out and refused to believe she was that sick.Mom saw her angel the last night she was alive. She described her to me. She didn't know who it was. I just told her that her angel was ready to take her home when she was ready.She died with my one sister in the room. Two months later, my brother died and mother was there to meet him.She will go when she and God are ready.Just spend all the time youi can with her and treasure each second because you will miss her for the rest of your life.

Answer 4

God's time. She may also be waiting for you to say "good by". Hearing is the last "to go". Sometimes people just want to know that it is "okay to stop fighting and go with God". Sing to her. Talk to her. reassure her of your gratitude and your eternal love. She will know when it is time.

My story: my dad was in a coma and my daughter was about 6. She came in and asked "when will grandpa know when it is time to go be with Jesus. how will he know". How do you answer a child with a question like that? God gave me the answer. "Amanda. You know, when you are in school and you are watching the clock and waiting for the bell to ring? What happens when it does?"
"I am outta there" she replied. "Well that is what will happen for Grandpa and he will know when it is time." She ran to my dad's bedside and whispered "Listen for Jesus and His bell. He will tell you when it is time to leave and go home, grandpa". My dad passed away a couple hours later and my daughter reminded me that for him the bell rang and he was "outta here and on his way home". I pray that story gives you comfort. Praying for you.<><

Answer 5

Hospice probably has her on morphine and she is in no pain. She also is not 'waiting' since she is not aware. She will go in peace and I am sure would want you to be patient and calm.

Answer 6

My father lingered for days with pneumonia after we decided to stop all treatments (including feeding...)

He was an alzheimer's aptient and no longer knew his children.

Its a terrible, slow and sad goodbye, and you have my sympathy.

Answer 7

Tell her it's okay to go, and that one day you will see her again. That is what we did when my Gram was sick--we told her that Grandpa was waiting for her, and one by one, we would join them. We told her she didn't have to suffer anymore, and Jesus was waiting. She passed away peacefully in a few days.

Answer 8

God gives life and He takes life. At His time and when He wants. I know it is difficult to see someone you love suffers. But God loves her to................. I think the medical staff do the best they can for her. All you could do is to pray.

Answer 9

God will take her when he is ready for her=as long as she is in no pain, enjoy her =God bless you