How do you help your loved one with a heart disease?

Question

my mom has it, and i'm reaaaaaaaaaaaally sad :'-(

Answer 1

Two experiences here:

My brother had two heart attacks one at 42 & one at 43. My sis in law pushed him into walking everyday to the point where he was almost in tears. He felt he could not do it. He wanted to sit, he was tired and wore out. My Mother and I were so upset with her thinking she was going to drive him into another heart attack. The doctors said he had to walk and exercise in order to get better, he said he could not. His wife made him - everyday, day after day after day, further and further. He now is working, camping, hiking, fishing, hunting and living a wonderful life.

I have had five heart caths, two cardiac ablations and open heart surgical repair of my mitral valve. I felt the same way. I couldn't do anything any more. I was tired, wore out. My doctors said walk, exercise and I said I couldn't. My husband said I shouldn't do it if I can't since I was too short of breath. My mother would come over and do my housework and help me with everything. I hardly made it to work. I gained 90 lbs and got worse. Everyone thought they were helping me when in fact they were helping to make me worse. I got mad at myself and got up and walked until I lost my weight and got back to where my brother is: Healthy Happy and Living Life Again.

So help your Mom to recover but don't smother her so much so that she can't help herself. Help her to follow her Doctors instructions. If they say walk - take her for a walk. If they say exercise - make her exercise. Even if it is only for 1 minute to start. Believe me from experience that is what it took for me. ONE minute at a time twice a day is what I started at and now I can out walk and out work my husband any day of the week!

Answer 2

It is ,in that it does have some affect ( broken heart ) something that most of us have had at some point in our lives, but no it's probably not in the medical sense, more like psychosomatic . You can take that to mean if you really think there's something wrong, then there is. Under normal conditions a psychosomatic condition can be helped with psychosomatic " Medicine " placebo. Love of course can be entirely different especially when it's not mutual I actually am an authority on this condition,something I would rather know nothing about. Also many people are in Love with the idea of being in Love .This is quote I believe to be mine " LOVE can be either the BEST thing to ever happen to you or the WORSE thing to ever happen to you"

Answer 3

Yes, it is normal to feel sad when some one you love and care for has a major health problem. But most of the heart problems are treatable now. I will recommend a few books for you. Pl. see:

http://swamyreviews.blogspot.com/search?q=Heart+Health

and out of the 4 or 5 books that come up, I especially recommend the two books by Christian Wilde.

Part of the worry and fear comes from lack of knowledge and those books will fill a big gap in your and your mom's understanding of heart health.

Dr. Rippe's book is another good choice to change the life style and get better health, whatever may be your present condition.

Answer 4

Let your mum know that she has options and that she has your love and support. Tell her that once the surgeons have finished there work she will be back to being good again. Tell her to make sure that she is not taking any blood thinning medication before her op and support her in the post operative rehabilitation program's. Even though its hard to live with hart problems the hospitals are full of skilled workers who can get your mum fixed up and ready to get into s rehabilitation program and then back into her home,

Answer 5

First of all, continue to love her and show that you care, along with prayer. Your mom at times will be frustrated and might be out-of-sorts so give her that space. She don't want to feel useless and or hear that people constantly saying - oh, you know you can't do this anymore or that. I'm sure your mom has full instructions from the doctor as to what to do. I know it's easy to say don't be sad, but you can be cheerful. okay! at least for your mom.

Answer 6

get more info..depends on type of disease..CHF vs Heart Block vs Afib vs Block blood vessels etc. Most common as we age is CHF, congestive heart failure..because heart is not efficient enough to push fluids out and round..fluid accumulates in feent/legs /hand and sometimes lungs. usually control by medicine called diuretics that work on kidney to increase urination. appropriate exercise will also help muscles assist heart in movin flid to kidney...elevate legs, and resting/ sleeping in in recliner may be helpful..decrease fluid intake as well as sodium. If heart problem is related to electrical conduction and rythym medications are also helpful..There are concerns about medication interactions., clot formation, diet concerns regarding interaction with meds. Heart disease is usually very treatable. Your mom'sdoctor should be able to assist with all these questions..if not see a cardiologist.

Answer 7

show her that you care and support her by going on the same diet she will have to go on, and don't bring fatty foods around her. just because she has heart disease does not mean her life is over. it just means that she has to change her lifestyle, so let her know you are there for you with positive encouragement. good luck and take care.

Answer 8

I hope She get well soon.. I'm doing my best to help every1 to cure their illness including your Mom.. with my Islam Prayers.. You don`t have to vote me for the best answer.. im doing this for free.. I only hopping we all get bless & Cure from Allah the most Mercyfull.. See the improvement result in few days..

Answer 9

Help with everything.

Eat the same food. Do her exercise with her.

She can still live a long life, if she does the right things.

Answer 10

Encourage exercise and eating healthy.