I'm so down,the man who i've been with for nearly 3 years has totally changed toward me. He doesnt keep in touch like he use to anymore and i dont see him much. I seen him one day last week. I think he's either bored or got someone else. I'm trying to be strong but its hard. When i talk to him about this he acts like nothings wrong,what should i do?i dont feel i could live without him in my life,he's the reason i wake up every morning.
2007-06-13 21:57:50 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well it looks like I may be the first male perpective you get to your situation. First why is he doing this the answer is I don't know. You know him better than I do so I can't tell you why but it may be that you are being too needy or clingy for him. However I can understand your feelings for another person. The reason I get up HAPPY is because of my gf. She means the world to me and yes I let her know but I may have done it in a more suttle way that saying point blank. So review some of the things that have happened between you and him or ask him point blank what is wrong or bothering him and have a list of possible things. You are likely to hit a brick wall unless you push with "Is it this, this, this?" Eventually you will break him down and he will tell you. Maybe it's you or maybe it's something in his life that you are unaware of. Good luck
2007-06-13 22:21:54 · answer #1 · answered by not_moes_cousin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is someone who obviously doesn't care about you the reason you wake up every morning.
Come on girl, snap out of it. Get some of your self-confidence back. You need to change your focus and get back in touch with yourself. Life is short. Get some new interests. Meet some new people. Get you life going in a different direction. And for goodness sake stop thinking about this guy all the time.
Seashell says if thoughts about him pop into your mind be aware that he's not even worth thinking about anymore. You cannot make someone love you. Trust me on that one.
2007-06-13 22:12:22 · answer #2 · answered by seashell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first mistake is making anyone the full focus of your life. Talk to him. Ask him why he is not seeing you as often. If it happens that he no longer wants a relationship, then try to find comfort doing things that you haven't been doing, such as going places with your friends or hobbie interests that you just did not have time for. Time heals all wounds including a heartbreak.
It is his loss, if he leaves. Just remember that you were as good as you could be, and that you deserve a good person in your life.
Next time don't be so needy. Don't ever depend on anyone else to make you happy. Happiness comes from within.
Good Luck!!!
2007-06-13 22:04:45 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're looking to someone for a reason to get out of bed in the morning, you're too weak and have too many self-esteem issues to even be in a productive relationship. Nobody else can complete you! If you're not happy with who you are and you can't find other reasons in your life to wake up every day, you need counseling and you need to let this guy go. If he knows that you feel for him this strongly and you're relying on him to give you a reason to function, you can't blame him for wanting to distance himself from you and possibly find someone else who is capable of standing on her own 2 feet. You're making him feel like a parent rather than your lover.
2007-06-13 22:02:59 · answer #4 · answered by tooblessed2doubt 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
.Don't put anyone as the top thing in your mind. u should care about yourself the most.
maybe he try to break up with u without make u cry. if things comes wrong and hurting, u should talk to him or end it. don't let him make u feel miserable. it is hard but u need to take action.
2007-06-13 22:12:12 · answer #5 · answered by ordinary1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you can't leave him, then try to talk to him and ask him why he has changed his attitude towards you. Perhaps you have hurt him in another way. Just sit back and relax after work to have a chat with him. It should be a breeze after that.
2007-06-13 22:02:53 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should really talk to him about it. Like try to clear things up. You'll feel much better instead of keeping it bottled up inside you.
2007-06-13 22:05:52 · answer #7 · answered by whiteblaq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Agree with Peggy S
Leave him,always be the one leaveing not the one left..
2007-06-13 22:13:41 · answer #8 · answered by auntdscronies 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
forget him thats the only thing you can do to prevent further damage to your poor already broken heart...he doesnt gv a damn hw u feel..so u also dont need to....
2007-06-13 22:01:17 · answer #9 · answered by priya d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
only he knows why he's behaving that way, it's certainly breaking one's heart..if you are not going to let him go, you wouldnt be happy either..coz we cant force someone to love us.. be strong..tell yourself there are better ones around.
ALL THE BEST!
2007-06-13 22:06:46 · answer #10 · answered by irene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋