we have been dating for a while now. he hadly expresses the normal gentleman stuff, he spend most of his time watching porn and that in its own way makes guys forget how to sweet talk a woman in order to get what they want. we need mental stimulation...please help.
2007-06-13 19:51:03 · 19 answers · asked by blackbooty 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you need to get him out of the house. Take a trip somewhere.
2007-06-13 19:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by mrcarl92807 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Tell him exactly how you feel. When you're making love and he's having sex STOP and telling you're not making a porn movie. But yes, it sounds like he's addicted to porn. Nothing good would come from that. You might want to ask him to seek professional help. Of course if he's in denial this will probably piss him off. But hey, if he doesn't fix it. Get rid of him.
2007-06-14 03:00:42 · answer #2 · answered by magikal01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...if you think you have any authority to limit his porn viewing time then take advantage of it. And if you really want to make this relationship work, I suggest talking about your fantisies and he can tell you his. This way, he knows what you want. And when he tell you his, let him know what you think about how his view of porn possibly distorted the truth to lovemaking. If all else fails, you can bring in a sex therapist, or your best friend. I hope it works...
2007-06-14 02:56:35 · answer #3 · answered by Allora 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be addicted to porn, and porn is about objectifying a woman (men seeing women as a sex THING, not a HUMAN)
He is desensitized from relating to you in a human way. You can't change him. He needs to give up the porn first.
2007-06-14 02:55:49 · answer #4 · answered by >Golden Ticket< 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the house so he won't just be a zombie sitting in front of the TV watching porn. Take a day trip or something.
2007-06-14 02:54:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him the porn freaks you out and that ******* isn't the same as having sex with someone you care about. Doing it like in the movies isn't real, thats why it's the movies.
2007-06-14 03:05:47 · answer #6 · answered by rockytopsportsfan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the porn. Guys who watch that stuff have a false sense of reality when it comes to sex. Porn sex is ridiculous.
2007-06-14 02:55:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationships depend on good communication. So communicate. Talk to him, tell him how you feel and ask how he reacts to hearing your feelings. If he has no reaction or isn't willing to honor your feelings, then you don't really want a relationship with him. Or, to put it another way, he would not be ready to have a relationship with anyone other than himself.
2007-06-14 02:57:22 · answer #8 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him...any guy who cant express his feeling in a gentlemanly manner and stares at porn all day deserves to be dumped. girls should never be compared to porn.
2007-06-14 02:56:23 · answer #9 · answered by Love Doctor 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why girls pick guys like this and then complain about them. They're always under this impression that they can change every guy. LOL. Forget it.
2007-06-14 02:55:34 · answer #10 · answered by SW1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋