I'm gonna get married but what shold i do in this kind of situation?
hey guys i'm indian from gf too was indian years after now shes in liechetnstein.we decided to marry next year but her parents don want her to come to UAE (middle east) and work here and she tooo dont want to come deep inside..she loves staying and living there!shes now citizen there..so what should i do now?if i'm getting married with her.whats life if she hates to come here but like a destiny shes here!?if i'm goin there how can i find a job without knowin german?and is that easy to find a job there?what should i do?i need serious answer and a solution cos its all about live and living!how i can i go and stay there without a job?how to make her come here and be happy?or if i go there is that easy to find job with knowing only english?i'm working as a structural detailer/draughtsman. will i ever get a job? what should i do now?now parents are forcing us to get engaged soon.but without solving this how can i go thru?
2007-06-13 19:32:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you have got 3 options
1.stay where you are and convince your fiance to live in uae.
2.stay where you are and dump your fiance.
3.go to your fiances home and look for a job there.Finding a job in your field in this country is not all that difficult.
Which one do u select i leave to u because it is ur life.All the best
2007-06-13 19:39:14 · answer #1 · answered by priyadarshan s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a try. You might like it. I would suggest that prepare and keep all your official and professional documents ready. It seems like you have good education and experience. You can also try to apply for jobs on line and see what type of response you get. May be you can apply for leave with out pay from your work for couple of months and see how things goes. If you happen to find job there (which I am pretty sure you will) then you can quit your old job. In either case your Gf and her parents will realize that since you are not getting a job she might come back with you. I would suggest that you keep your resume up to date and then go from there. Don't worry. If you really want to find the solution read the book
"How not to Worry" from Dale Carnegie
2007-06-13 19:38:42 · answer #2 · answered by c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're already arguing about where you're going to live.. That's not good. If neither of you are willing to budge on the subject then it signifies bigger problems. You can't MAKE her do anything it's all about compromise. You can't depend solely on knowing English because you don't sound very proficient in the language. You need to have a serious talk with your girlfriend and disregard the feelings of your parents because this is about YOU and HER not them. Make lists of the pros and cons of living where you are and where she is. Find a middle ground.. if you can't settle on a place both of you will love it's pretty fair to say your marriage is going to be rough.
Sorry about being so blunt. Good luck
2007-06-13 19:44:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love her and want to be with her and make her happy, learn German and post your resume on the Internet. It would appear that you speak passable English, which will most certainly get your foot in the door with most companies. Almost everyone in Germany speaks some English.
If she's told you she'll never be happy in the UAE, you have to honor that.
Best of luck to you!
2007-06-13 19:38:18 · answer #4 · answered by ann81969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is full of risks. Sometimes you have to take a chance. But first, know what it is you want...then go for it. Do you want a job? Do you want a wife? Do you want to live someplace? Decide what you want and move toward it with all your being, all your energy and all your effort. Accept what happens because you can't control the universe, but you can control how you react to what the universe presents to you. So accept life with a smile and hope in your heart.
2007-06-13 19:36:45 · answer #5 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check into the job market for Indian or English speaking people in your field of work. There are plenty of international companies that may require your skills, even in her country.
2007-06-13 19:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get cill n have fun through out the days u have before ur marriage. And do as u like, because after marriage u will not be able to do those thinks at ur will. best of luck for ur next journey of life.
2007-06-13 19:42:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you posted this question 2 times, whats the deal?
2007-06-13 19:36:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋